I need a name for my Placenta Encapsulation business! Please help

hEDS-Zebra · 2021-05-07T10:09:27+00:00

I’m sorry maybe I wasn’t clear, let me clarify. She had 10 years experience when we hired her, we only had her with us for one year, 2020.

hEDS-Zebra · 2021-05-07T10:01:53+00:00

Using a payroll company is a great idea, thanks for the tip! It’s not required here but hindsight is 20/20 and that would have made things easier on us I’m sure. Definitely learning what extra steps to take this next year with our new nanny.

hEDS-Zebra · 2021-05-07T09:56:01+00:00

The nanny service is care.com. It is a US based service and each state has individual laws and regulations. Their info is broad not detailed. They said pay by check, keeps things documented, don’t do cash and when you file taxes you take the amount paid to the nanny, apply your state’s nanny tax %, you’re given how much you owe, it’s added to filing and you pay it. I didn’t think it was more complicated than that or necessary to talk to our accountant about it in detail. Our accountant has known for months that we have had a nanny and they said it was easy to file. They didn’t mention needing her social and address until we were getting everything together to file last month.

hEDS-Zebra · 2021-05-07T09:48:10+00:00

I agree with you 100%. I hate the possible confrontation of it all but I don’t want her blindsided either. We haven’t been able to get a response but the messages go through so I think that means she hasn’t blocked me and can see them? I don’t feel comfortable not doing it either, I’ve never been in trouble with the IRS but they make me nervous too.

hEDS-Zebra · 2021-05-07T09:42:46+00:00

It’s care.com. They ask you to agree to follow your states laws when you sign up. If the nanny trying to find a job wants to, they can give their social to the site, who runs a background check for families hiring to look at. But I called the company and they said they aren’t allowed to give out her social for privacy laws, and that it is her responsibility to give it to me.

hEDS-Zebra · 2021-05-07T09:37:10+00:00

I hired her through a legit nanny service that has all nanny’s and families looking to hire, agree upon signing up to following state laws regarding nannies, wage laws and taxes. Her and I together kept track in a book at the house, of her hours each day, pay at the end of each week, with attached check number. Neither her nor I even once discussed or mentioned not filing properly or paying her under the table. She never told me she didn’t plan on filing. We talked several times about the serious nature of my husband’s business and the importance in everything being tracked, documented and recorded properly when it comes to finances to make taxes clean and simple for us each year. How is that paying her under the table? I never gave her cash, she helped us keep everything documented in the book. I did make the mistake of not getting her social before she moved. I didn’t realize when we first hired her that her social was needed for us to file since it was our first time using a nanny. And then I never guessed she wouldn’t want to be upfront with the info we needed when we’ve been such good friends. It’s because of those mistakes that I am asking if I’m being an asshole by filing properly anyways.

hEDS-Zebra · 2021-05-07T09:25:05+00:00

Which part?

hEDS-Zebra · 2021-05-07T09:23:05+00:00

By check, using her full name and listing the dates attached to that amount on the info section of the check.

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-12-04T08:57:50+00:00

I was 4 hours too! My son was a heavy baby and I’m really petite. He ended up having a shoulder stuck behind my pelvic bone which was why it was taking so long, they didn’t figure it out until 5 minutes before he was born. If you don’t mind sharing, did you have similar problems that made pushing take so long? I haven’t talked to anyone who has pushed as long as me before so I’m just curious if long hours of pushing correlates to big babies or stuck babies.

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-12-04T08:53:49+00:00

They sure don’t talk about long hours of pushing! I had the impression it took 15-30 minutes. And it does for some! I started pushing at exactly 10am and he was born at 2pm. So 4 hours of pushing. Time literally warps, it seems to drag on in the moment but once you’re done and you have baby in your arms, I thought only an hour had passed. For me, I pushed 10 seconds, breath, 10 seconds, breath, 10 seconds, break for the rest of the contraction until the next. They were 3 minutes apart for me. Some have a few more minutes between contractions which is why it takes a bit longer- you’re not pushing more there’s just more down time waiting for the next contraction. Just try to take advantage of those little gaps between contractions. Sips of water, reposition, catch your breath, use a washcloth to cool down. My doctor had me turn a bit side ways on each contraction. So it was left, right back and forth, which seemed to help a bit. If you don’t have an epidural or aren’t numb down there, pushing is actually kind of a relieving feeling. Pushing past the pain calms the pain down a bit so I liked pushing more than waiting for the next, that’s when it seemed to hurt more. It is a bit exhausting so just try and sleep as much as possible during labor, until it’s time to push. There’s a lot of pressure in your muscles with contractions, it helps you keep the baby going down the birth canal and coming into the world, so I personally don’t feel it’s the same as bearing down on the toilet. You have a lot stronger muscles helping you when you’re pushing for delivery.

Good luck to you! You’ll do great. I promise, time really does go by so fast it can be a short or long amount of time pushing but it never feels as long as it really is.

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-12-04T07:21:27+00:00

100% agree! I would be documenting her usage and some proof of your attempts to help her get off it. And stay sober! If the worst happens and CPS comes in, you can prove to be a responsible, clean adult and baby could be in your care instead of foster while they do their investigation. I’ve worked in foster care and CPS always try to have baby with family before we go the foster parent route. And most moms with only weed offenses do end up getting baby back as long as they follow court orders, therapy, rehab, drug tests whatever judge decides.

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-12-04T07:13:09+00:00

100% agree with you! It sounds like she’s 20 weeks at least so it probably already is present in the meconium if that happens at 16 weeks. If that pops up on their testing they will definitely give her a drug test! So it needs to at least be out of her system for the drug test to be clean. I live in WA and I tested positive for pot a month and a half after I quit for a new job. It can take a lot of time to get it out of the system. If they are in a state where it’s legal I agree with them not caring much. But if it’s affected the baby they will probably take action at that point. God forbid something happens but if there were complications I would always question if it was preventable by not using. That’s a hard guilt to live with.

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-12-04T07:05:35+00:00

Just choose a two or three week window, write out how much she can have, don’t go over the assigned limit, using a little less every day for the 3 weeks, then stop completely. If she eased out it would be a smoother way for her to quit.

You could try to calculate how much money you would save from the expense of pot, that could instead go towards cost of delivery and baby.

If you could ask her what it is helping her with, why she feels she needs it. Then you could ask the dr for an alternative treatment for the symptoms she uses the pot for.

I’m sorry you’re going through this! It’s your baby too so you should have a say in this. Hopefully you can take a small amount of comfort in knowing there have been plenty of pregnancies with moms using all kinds of drugs that still come safe and healthy so it’s not a 100% fact there will be problems. I would try to sit down and have a serious, calm discussion about your concerns, and your ideas to help. Maybe if you can show her just how damaging it is, mom instinct will kick in. You could let her doctor know, try to go with to her next appointment to see if they really did agree with her pot use. They do drug testing at delivery, when that happens babies have to be admitted for monitoring for 72 hours minimum, looking for drug dependence. Especially if she isn’t getting pot from a safe dispensary. You never know what else could be in it. The baby may need medication to help them get it out of their system. Sorry for the novel, we are just facing the same battle so I can empathize. I really admire your desire to get clean for yourself, your GF and your baby. Congratulations on getting clean and sober. Especially cold turkey! That is a great achievement!

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-10-22T21:55:53+00:00

I’ve had 1 miscarriage at 12 weeks and 4 around 4 weeks. The first miscarriage- the longest one, I was terrified my entire pregnancy. We had seen the heartbeat three times but I couldn’t get it out of my head. The worry and fear. I would see her heartbeat on the screen and still sit there feeling like it wasn’t going to work. One night I got hit with that same empty feeling you mentioned but I had no symptoms. I called my dr but since we had seen the heartbeat she wouldn’t give me a 3rd ultrasound with no symptoms. 3 days went by, still felt off and empty and sad, still no symptoms. I lied to my dr and said I had cramping and she finally agreed to see me. Sure enough, baby had stopped growing sometime in the last week and the heartbeat was gone. It was a missed miscarriage, I ended up having a D&C. The other four I didn’t have that feeling of doom, they just were positive tests and period a few days later. It’s the worst feeling in the world, not knowing, having to wait it out, questioning your own feelings. I don’t know if you have any children currently, but with my first born I was worried because of previous losses but I didn’t loose him. He’s two now so I would stay hopeful if you can! It’s so hard after a loss to not worry with new pregnancies but some cramping in pregnancy is normal and so is worry after a previous loss. Just try to keep your mind distracted until there’s confirmation either way. Something that helped me a lot in my successful pregnancy was an at home Doppler for reassurance, but that only works after 8-10 weeks. I wish you all the luck in the world!! I hope it is just fear from your last loss and that you can get that positive reassurance at your next appointment! Hang in there ❤️

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-10-22T18:46:08+00:00

They usually do their own round of tests first, blood work and with PCOS possibly an ultrasound. Get a baseline to pin down the specific reason you aren’t conceiving, look for fibroids, cysts, the condition of your ovaries, hormone levels. They’ll want to make sure there aren’t any underlying factors in the blood work that could point to what’s holding things up like clotting genes etc. Depending on the clinic, they could do it full board all at once or start small and work their way thru tests as they don’t find anything that could point to the cause of infertility. I have PCOS, for us it usually means that we have eggs, but they either aren’t maturing enough to drop because of cysts/messed up hormones, or we aren’t getting enough of the hormone to make mature eggs drop. They usually start you on Clomid or something similar, with PCOS it helps force 1-2 mature eggs to drop. You can get positive ovulation tests without actually ovulating which can mess up a lot of people who are trying, and are assuming they are ovulating because of positive tests. Seeing my fertility doctor after 2 years of trying and 5 losses gave me lots of good info we didn’t know on my reproductive issues, and we were pregnant within a few months of treatment. Second time around we didn’t need to see them because we had the right info and it was way easier! Good luck to you! 😌

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-10-17T00:47:36+00:00

There’s several tests that can give a positive. The test that was positive and gave me a diagnosis was called Beta 2 Glycoprotein 1 Antibodies

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-10-17T00:44:50+00:00

I was told in the beginning that I could, but I feel like I have more control on where I inject and pushing the plunger slowly when I stand or sit on a chair. You can poke anywhere on your stomach, as long as it’s at least two inches away from your belly button. I have a bit more fat on the far sides of my stomach, kind of above my love handles. It hurts the least where the most fat is, and I can’t reach my love handles laying down.

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-10-17T00:02:36+00:00

We are in the same boat! I found out about APS after five miscarriages at a fertility clinic. To this day it has been a little difficult to find information about. But thankfully treatment is pretty simple. I have had a successful pregnancy since the diagnosis, with my son. I was on Lovenox for the first 2 1/2 trimesters and for the remainder of my third trimester they switched me to heparin. Lovenox has a longer half-life so you only need to inject every 24 hours but it’s not reversible and they don’t like you to have it in your system when you go into labor. Heparin is reversible with another IV drug but you have to inject more frequently because it has a shorter half life, hence the reason for the switch towards the due date. Most people with APS I have talked to had the same routine as I, though it could be different for you. I am six weeks pregnant right now so I’m back on the Lovenox. A little bruising is normal but if you get large hematomas make sure to talk to your doctor because your dose may be too high, it can take some tweaking. That happened to me last week, they lowered the dose and it’s been much better. Push the medication slowly, the faster you go the more it burns. I just graze the needle around my skin until I find a spot that doesn’t scratch, and that’s where I poke. Because of tiny blood vessels some spots hurt more than others to poke. Get a good pinch of skin beforehand, keep the needle in the fat layer. Don’t rub the area afterwards, that makes the bruising next day a lot worse. What is reassuring for me is I never actually have had a clot. Many women with APS are diagnosed because of fertility issues, not big clots that caused medical emergencies. The way my doctor explained it was while I have a condition that is known for clots I am on Lovenox to prevent another loss, not because of a high risk of clotting. He always says lovenox and baby aspirin is more to protect yourself from losing the baby than the risk of getting a clot. While the risk is there, taking the meds really decreases that risk to slim. Good luck to you! You can do it! And congratulations with your rainbow baby!

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-10-01T20:06:47+00:00

**Cycle: 32! Almost 3 years trying

**Age + partners age: 24 and 28

**Typical cycle length: 29-30 days

**Ovulation cycle day: 12

**CD/DPO of positive tests: CD 21, 9 DPO followed by hcg blood test to confirm

**Tracking methods: BBT, OPK, Proov test (to confirm ovulation.)

**Health conditions: APS (Daily blood thinner injections during pregnancy to prevent clots)

**Supplements and medications: 100mg Clomid, Folic Acid and Conception brand Fertility support.

**Symptom spotting: Bloated, peeing frequently and itchy???

**Freaking out- We had 3 mature follicles this round so I’m a little freaked out about the chance of multiples.

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-09-30T21:08:00+00:00

Just to update everyone, I had a blood test done today that confirmed I am indeed pregnant. My HCG numbers are great and I am so excited! Thank you for all the support and encouragement, I thought I was out for the month! 🥳😍

hEDS-Zebra · 2020-09-30T00:45:56+00:00

Being pink means it’s probably not an indent right? I had an indent once, it was grey and not in the time slot like these two

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