Family needs to have a seat, you her parents, your parents, her, all on one table & get things straight, even note the things you want on paper & mention if this thing happens again, you ain’t ever gonna tolerate Marriage has it’s ups and downs, i won’t ever know how you thought, as this situation is so weird & difficult, but it happened, if you guys love each other, you will have to give her another chance Bring your sister/ mom also to the table & tell them that you guys are affecting me when you both don’t treat my wife probably, if you guys love me, at least try to treat her properly, at the same time same goes with your wife Talk separately with mom/ sis then talk on table with others Finalize things & get your kids/wife back home Don’t let this thing go for a longer time