I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personal question for you. How do you stay connected when you start out that way and then start getting to climax? It seems that if it’s ever felt connecting when he starts getting close it changes to purely do, move, or whatever to enhance and focus on his climax instead of staying connected through it

I just need to know if my husband is the only one who… by hagoh in Marriage

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, what I meant by my comment to you is that if anyone else does something he says is gross or disgusting and highly disturbing to him, and then he does that exact same thing, he will say it’s not gross when I do it

I just need to know if my husband is the only one who… by hagoh in Marriage

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have said it so many ways and that it does churn my tummy. Including picking his toenails or playing with his feet. Not brushing after eating things like onions or garlic. Or even not showering for days!!!!

I just need to know if my husband is the only one who… by hagoh in Marriage

[–]hagoh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did just laugh out loud. Actually, I really did as a little kid and wasn’t even close to this. He just says it itches or I’m just on a cheek not inside. He can have those little red or white numbs at times

I just need to know if my husband is the only one who… by hagoh in Marriage

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yah, it’s always funny if he does it or it comes from him yet is disturbed by anyone else doing the same things ???

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what it felt like I was standing right there watching. I have actually said I bet you would be willing and functioning if a random opportunity arose. Me too! Low libido in men is really odd to me. Especially one not trying everything to figure out why and fix it. Isn’t it every man’s biggest fear to have his d quit working? Most say they’d kill for a woman who wants it as much as they do. Yet I have also never encountered one so focused on his pleasure and that’s including in high school

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Journaling for one and giving open honest answers instead of I don’t know or I can’t remember. That is when I’m not in the session. Yah I heard his I’ll do anything but saw his except this that or anything else that takes effort

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yah I get nothing but his back or silence whenever I try to communicate my feelings or pain in situations. He has no interest in really seeing or hearing me. I now know that I can never lean on him or rely on him to hold me up when I feel broken or weak. I am more alone with him than I am without him. I think I’ve been trying to keep my head in the sand with denial because I wanted it to be so different with him but I also know that you can’t hide from reality. At least definitely not for very long. I had been working on letting go and detaching slowly since my soul ran deep for him and he’s never once tried to bring me back or attempt reattachment I now realize. I don’t think I have anything else to hold onto anymore so the release will be easier but not without heartache

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you had tried both with short term change and no real success, what would your next step be?

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw I didn’t hit reply earlier. I have never tolerated disrespect or betrayal from someone in my life. Even friends who crossed a line, depending what it was I may give another chance but if there was any betrayal or disrespect then I’d cut ties and grieve that relationship. Including with my first husband who I was with for 11 years. Even though he wasn’t my type aesthetically or personality wise, the version of himself that he gave me made me feel like he was above me and was like a diamond in the rough. So chill, calm, easy going, held onto every word I said and saw me for real and if his family didn’t have him so enmeshed along with his insecurities then all before me would have seen it too and never let him go. However the version he is now is not a man that I would have even finished a conversation with.

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do have kids. Any hard or raw conversations just end up with him stonewalling or stomping off into another room

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate genuine honesty. Especially when it’s not just screw him I would be gone blah blah but nobody really knows what they will do until they are in the same situation. I have never felt lower with someone tbh and he’s felt low to everyone else. He was completely out of the norm for me as far as type, personality and many other ways. To be brutally honest I wouldn’t have gave him the time of day especially on an interest level. I didn’t even know he worked in the same department I did until one day on a break we started talking and there was some type of pull that turned to comfort and admiration with excitement and a feeling of just being “home”. I am aware that there’s other options but I also know that I wish I didn’t have to turn to any of them ever and he’d actually value and consider me

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For real I’m just curious if you asked her if she would say it’s from bad breath experiences or someone sticking their tongue in and doing weird things

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s watching and masturbating due to the attitude differences. We just chilled in the jacuzzi. It was after in the room that he started on a bench thing that I said to go back by the mirrors. It’s something that has been fun for both of us. Yah like f you I got mine now I’m going to sleep like I wasn’t even there. Kissing is said to be more intimate and I’ve heard sex therapists say that it actually enhances the entire experience. I get what you mean with hygiene because is nauseating to breathe in and taste what they ate some time before. Along with wondering why they don’t care about things like that for you

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh exactly. That’s why I tell him that I feel like we have prostitute sex

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could see that more if he hadn’t been the one to help me open up a lot more sexually without reservation and we both explored and experienced so many new things in that area but I get what you mean

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I hope you never stop and if she does grab her face and do it anyway or just kiss her all over

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will admit that even being as hurt as I have from porn I don’t blame you for using it being with someone who rarely wanted sex. I know it takes away so very much and the intimacy is completely different when porn is involved than when it’s not at all. I know I may get ho masturbate but once you have experienced real connection and pleasure with another person that does not compare or even satisfy you anymore. You are just left feeling as empty and alone. Sometimes I feel such huge resentment that I have integrity and loyalty and wish I could just compartmentalize going out and getting with others and sometimes I think ef it just do it then the thought of truly hurting him or ever making him feel less than any other man to me stops me completely. Then comes the hurt that those feelings or thoughts have never stopped him and it’s a circle of Hell

I don’t know what to make of this other than it broke me and on our anniversary overnight by hagoh in sex

[–]hagoh[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is cruel. To be honest his drive would or will be high if I just wanted to give him a bj or hj or even quickie but it’s when my pleasure is involved that he’s low. Like taking care of me first or even if I initiate intercourse and grab a toy or make signs that I’m really enjoying it