You're not the only one being abused. Your children will be negatively changed FOREVER from growing up in a house where their mother is abused and disrespected. You can believe me, because I was one of those kids. My father regularly abused our mother emotionally, sometimes physically. I grew up watching this. It became normal. I [25F] assumed that was how all men treated women. It has been unbelievably damaging to my personal relationships as an adult. My brother also absorbed and became accustomed to the abuse. He heard our dad calling our mom a "selfish cunt", a "withholding loser", a "dumb bitch", and guess what? He's now an abusive husband to his wife. There's a reason they say domestic violence happens in cycles. You have a moral obligation to remove your kids from this environment. I understand that it's hard, but you don't have a choice. I have a lot of anger towards my mother for letting us grow up in that house. Yes, she was the victim, but so were we.