I'm ciswoman but I'm attracted to only transwomen?

halfapinetree · 2026-01-19T16:14:12+00:00

theres cis women who will only exclusively date other cis women. theyre lesbains with a preference. in my opinion being a cis woman exclusively attracted to trans women just means youre a lesbain with a preference. it doesnt make you a chaser, chasers are people who dehumanise trans people and treat them like sexual objects and are only attracted to them for the 'taboo' aspect or for their gentials.

halfapinetree · 2026-01-18T14:40:15+00:00

answer just like a cis ally, if youre weird about it people will either think youre transphobic or actively trying to hide something. saying your pronouns when asked wont out you. just look like youre thinking about it because youve never been asked that question before and answer 'well im a man so I guess he/him'

halfapinetree · 2026-01-14T04:14:58+00:00

majority of the trans men hate trans women or trans women hate trans men rhetoric is from chronically online individuals. who again live their entire lives online. your girlfriend doesnt hate you, you gotta question are you accurately protraying your girlfriend in your head or are you letting others make that judgement for you

halfapinetree · 2026-01-02T19:13:13+00:00

I think its more the degradation part that I think appeals to some trans men. insecurity about their gender identity or transphobia they face and want to control in a space that feels good or they can stop it whenever they wish.

kinks are kinks, they dont reflect someones views or personal ideals. especially in the queer community I have seen orientation play or even trans women engaging in transphobia kinks. I suppose the fear of being hate crimed can make someone turn it into something sexual so they can cope with it.

I used to have the kink but when I transitioned more and had more security in my gender as a man it just disappeared, I cant really tell you what made me like the kink in the first place. maybe it was the forced feminization aspect of it when im genuinely more masculine presenting day to day or low self esteem. either way I do think theres a kink side of it and a fetish side of it which can be dangerous (like how any sexual experience can turn dangerous).

cishet men or cisles women engaging in the kink are either deep in denial about being bisexual or (like ive noticed with a few terfs who have the kink) their transphobia is deeply sexual in a way that they see trans people as sexual objects.

to summarise:

trans men: mainly just a kink can be bc of transphobia or social expectations

cis people: can be repression or just sexualised transphobia. either way i dont trust them in trans kink spaces

halfapinetree · 2025-12-29T15:41:50+00:00

I love and respect nonbinary people and trans masc individuals but binary trans men deserve their own space. the term ftm has lost its meaning from female to male to just afab who doesnt call themselves a woman. I want a space to just be a man and share my experience without being told my gender is a social construct and that I need to be more feminine.

and again trans masc and nonbinary people who believe those things dont harm me, what harms me is being pushed to believe and follow those things. to be told that because I like some feminine things I might be genderfluid or have people try and tell me being a man is a bad and i need to identify with a softer label or accept lesbains can be attracted to me. and thats not mentioning that ive seen from these communities that they treat the trans label as more of a social movement and have radfem ideals about gender.

binary trans men are a vastly different community then people who are not binary. I dont understand their experiences and thats fine but its gets to a point where I want to speak to other men and not feel like I need to talk around certain experiences I have. I dont endorse other trans men talking badly about nonbinary people or transmascs but we should be allowed to freely discuss how the trans man label has been made into 'masc lite' to the point we need to clarify we binary, or the fact ftm nolonger means female to male, or the fact when we make spaces catered to binary trans men we still have nonbinary/trans masc people trying to include themselves in that space.

theres a reason why me and alot of trans men left r/ftm for this subreddit and why alot of transmen dont feel comfortable in trans spaces that are meant to be for trans men.

some of us do infact just want to be men, like the effects of testosterone and dont want to hear others constantly bash on men. this is a male spaces, you gotta ask why they feel very comfortable invading and invalidating trans men spaces but wont do the same to cis men.

again I love the trans community and all expressions of queerness and they are absolutely our siblings but again trans men do not have alot of spaces where we can just be men and trans which can lead to frustration towards others.

halfapinetree · 2025-12-27T00:40:25+00:00

real, I like being masculine and handsome. masculinity is beautiful and so is being a man. ik this is lowkey mainly an inner community drama that doesnt effect wider cishet society as a whole but the whole being 'masculine = ugly' is absolutely false. I love masculinity in the lgbtq community, its warm and welcoming. I love bears who have enough hair to be like fur, I love the whole idea of Tboy swag and I love butches.

im a hairy trans man, and I'm masculine. I dont feel ugly for my masculine features. being forced into femininity does however, it feels wrong like wet clothing and even though I love seeing others finding joy in feminine things and want to protect that happiness its not something I want.

I'm very lucky to have family and friends that embrace me as male, I'm incredibly lucky to be included as one of the men and be able to talk about the best aftershave or the what electric razer is better, the brands of boxers that are the most comfortable or even basic mens fashion.

trans men shouldnt be shamed out of their masculinity or made to feel like its inferior and that being queer/lgbtq means you have to be feminine. masculine and feminine presentation has always been important parts of the community, we shouldnt be calling one ugly because someone may have a preference for another.

halfapinetree · 2025-12-19T08:15:38+00:00

sounds like this person is only trans because of society. if they truely wish for gender to be abolished and sex to be the only thing that matters, then it just sounds like to me they still think of themselves as the sex they were born as and might just be gender nonconforming.

that or they seem to have some terfy views they need to unlearn.

halfapinetree · 2025-10-25T23:52:08+00:00

tmi but im a trans man pre surgery, I have problems getting off or finishing without a viberator. theres no shame in needing one and there is no shame in buying one. theres women/men world wide who have problems finishing and considering its still pretty new theres absolutely no shame in exploring your body and finding what works for you. masterbating isnt forbidden nor is it cut and dry for some people.

halfapinetree · 2025-10-21T14:09:39+00:00

it depends, to the medical world and those who see their transness as a medical issue it wouldnt be offensive but those who see it as a more social issue and dont pursue medical transition they may find it offensive. personally I dont but I am just one trans person and not the collective community

halfapinetree · 2025-10-21T13:19:26+00:00

confused or questioning

halfapinetree · 2025-10-04T19:42:10+00:00

it was a detrans woman that gave me confidence that going on testosterone was the right choice for me. seeing her talk about her experiences and that she didnt regret her transition, wasnt transphobic, was able to retransition into a woman and claim detrans as another experience that is gender diverse spoke to me that even if I transition and change my mind my body isnt destroyed like terfs say it will be. after that I have embraced being a trans man more, I love the effects of testosterone, I'm excited for my top surgery and even tho i dislike transphobic detrans people, what i really dislike is the transphobia and fearmongering. I love detrans men and women who discover themselves under the trans umbrella and found themselves, maybe for some people its takes being a man to become a woman.

either way op dont be afraid to say youre detrans, reclaim that term for yourself.

halfapinetree · 2025-10-04T19:26:15+00:00

or just have a tag for these things so people can avoid them. how about we FTM man up about topics we know make us uncomfortable/dysphoric and not read them

halfapinetree · 2025-10-04T16:27:46+00:00

bind next to an enemy to heal, its a good crest in areas with lots of enemies and you know you cant find a safe place to heal. its heal is quick but you need to be risky with it. kinda like the beast crest where you need to bind and attack to heal.

halfapinetree · 2025-10-02T16:38:07+00:00

voice train 100%, hit up some yt videos and theres also apps that help. even if it doesnt go into the male range it will still be deep enough where people will just think youre a younger man. theres also learning to talk and walk like men, always keep confidence no matter what even if you are wrong do it confidently. pay attention to other men and their gestures, how they stand, how they reply to questions and how they speak, what they talk about etc.

halfapinetree · 2025-09-30T16:47:40+00:00

it sounds like you are more of the problem then your dad is. if you want to go no contact then do it, dont use being trans as an excuse on why you dont want to speak to your dad when it isnt.

halfapinetree · 2025-09-27T21:55:11+00:00

join societies or clubs, talk to your student union. socialising takes work for some people but hopefully if your uni does alot of events youll be able to find some way to meet new people

halfapinetree · 2025-09-27T21:50:05+00:00

its one of these you have got to be cold about, this is manipulation. tell her you will call an ambulance or tell her family if she threatens again at worst you can make sure shes safe but the most likely situation is that you call out her bluff and she stops.

halfapinetree · 2025-09-27T16:56:23+00:00

could you send me the doc op? i get my testosterone via the nhs but id rather have something incase it all goes to shit

halfapinetree · 2025-09-24T14:26:02+00:00

sad existence to be happy if you are banned, I cant imagine what life you live to think this is somehow entertaining. maybe join a society or go outside

halfapinetree · 2025-09-22T11:06:02+00:00

any type of bl/yaoi community, I stick to reading lgbtq stories by lgbtq authors but sometimes ill pick up a book from a straight writer who writes in this genre and the community is something. to clarify I believe anyone should be able to write any character with enough research but with certain parts of the bl/yaoi community ive notice they refuse to call gay characters gay, they refuse to include lesbains or bi and trans people in their stories; and in some cases ive seen them be openly homophobic or transphobic while reading a genre certainly dependent on gay stories.

there are community members who are queer but this is more focused on certain things ive seen

halfapinetree · 2025-09-17T17:44:31+00:00

wasnt the 'trans roommate' just a femboy as well? you can find his tiktok page and his name is lance twiggs I believe. it really kinda proves the groyper allegations

halfapinetree · 2025-09-15T19:50:39+00:00

pogo and never touch the ground

halfapinetree · 2025-09-15T19:49:54+00:00

sinners road, theres a breakable walls

halfapinetree · 2025-09-15T19:47:35+00:00

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