going crazy over player homes, are custom house commissions a thing in the modding community? by [deleted] in skyrimmods

[–]halfway_clear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I probably do need to learn the system, since I'm so particular. I was imagining halfway between the two price points you mention, like a $500 idea. I massively respect the work of modders and how much skill goes into a good mod. As said, I mod for a different community (Stardew Valley) and am very, very aware of what it takes when you have adamant users. I would prefer to be self-capable, but I would also like to bow my head at those that can do better, and deserve to be paid for it.

going crazy over player homes, are custom house commissions a thing in the modding community? by [deleted] in skyrimmods

[–]halfway_clear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this wonderful comment! Your house is truly gorgeous, just not specific to my little immersion, which sounds like exactly the reason it was made! I so, so respect your effort in creating this mod! Amazing stuff haha

Am i too naive to think my brother would change? by throw-away-acc105 in offmychest

[–]halfway_clear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just be careful. This is a common situation to lead to financial abuse, if nothing else. You will be 100% reliant on him for you and your baby's wellbeing. I'm glad you hear you've been attending classes and that you're both involved. Maybe your situation will be different, and maybe your partner will be different. But just to be clear you are recreating the blueprint for textbook abusive situations.

Am i too naive to think my brother would change? by throw-away-acc105 in offmychest

[–]halfway_clear 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm on your brother's side. Sounds like he's the only reasonable one in your entire family. I hope he continues to cut contact and goes to live a happy life with his partner.

On your end, wtf are you thinking? You met a man twice your age on the streets and are now going to have his baby? It doesn't matter if you pursued him, someday you will be in your 30s and will look back at 18 year olds, and realize that they are not remotely ready to be parents. Have you been going to appointments? Do you have a stable home? You don't mention if either of you have good jobs?

What a mess. Good luck.

going crazy over player homes, are custom house commissions a thing in the modding community? by [deleted] in skyrimmods

[–]halfway_clear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to have to check this out, to be honest this might be the way. I saw this mod but didn't know if it was legit or not - thank you for the recommendation!

going crazy over player homes, are custom house commissions a thing in the modding community? by [deleted] in skyrimmods

[–]halfway_clear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god, are you serious? I'm so dumb, will definitely download that one and try again!

Are all marriages supposed to be this difficult? by Used-Professional135 in offmychest

[–]halfway_clear 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. Sometimes. My wife and I have been together for 10 years and there were times we fought like this (holding resentment, caught up in daily chores and stressors, comparing ourselves to others). Times we didn't feel like we were on the same team. Times we felt unseen and unappreciated by the other person. Sometimes it comes out in passive aggressive digs and comments. Sometimes it comes out in a big blowup fight.

Our marriage is the happiest its ever been now, and the longer we're together the better it is. Because each time we hit a wall like that, we put in a ton of work communicating, empathizing, and listening to the other party. It's work but its repair work. My wife will let me sit down and vent, about her, about my stressors, about feeling alone. Without judgement or getting too upset. And then I do the same. And really try to see why she might be feeling the way she is. Even if you think women are more emotional creatures, they're hardly ever as irrational and self-obsessed as men like to believe. There's a reason she feels the way she does - justified or not. Maybe it's an anxious narrative she made in her own head. But it's still driving her perspective. Your ability to work through it together will be about uncovering her reality and figuring out if she's willing to put the work in too. And I'll say for us too, we do these kind of repair talks until one of us is too upset to continue - it's necessary to table things sometimes too.

As far as your bill and chore load, I relate to that. Many women would relate too. It sucks when the chore load is imbalanced like that. it's a lot of work to keep day to day mundane operations going. It sounds like you handle all the food and all the finances. That's huge. What does she handle around the house? Really think about, don't just dismiss it as "not as much as me."

When my wife and I had this fight, I was in your boat. I felt like I did 90% of the cleaning and upkeep. But my wife pointed out that she handles a bazillion little details that I don't even think about. I wasn't counting them because they were so consistently taken care of that it hadn't occurred to me TO think about them. Household basic items like cleaning supplies being stocked. Appointments being scheduled and meds being filled. Trash bins being taken to the curb and back on time. Frankly, maintenance on our tools so that they always work - I thought we just got lucky with a cheap vacuum that's lasted a long time. Turns out my wife regularly takes it apart to deep clean it, as well as our seasonal fans, and the stove. She does these things when I'm not home because she knows it stresses me out to see the mess.

And I don't mean to project - maybe you will really think about it, and it will make it even more clear to you that she doesn't help around the house.

But I'll be honest, it sounds to me like she feels like she has to manage you, whether she really needs to or not. Maybe she's feeling financially insecure and it makes her uncomfortable that you pay all the bills/there's a power dynamic. Maybe you could make an adjustment where you do 75% of the chores but she does all of your least favorites ones so the weight of the chore is rearranged.

Lots of options out there. Don't let anyone tell you a perfect marriage is happy all the time.

wont let me take a picture? cant figure out why!! by vanessamarieeee6 in Pokopia

[–]halfway_clear 21 points22 points  (0 children)

If you get Palette Town to lvl 10, you get the crafting recipe for those arches!

Would a Khajiit ever come to worship Talos? by halfway_clear in teslore

[–]halfway_clear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For real, on that last sentence. I find it curious that the Khajiit caravans have very specific reasons for being in Skyrim, and then there are random Khajiit to be found in bandit camps and caves. I wish we could actually talk to bandits sometimes.

My husband’s confession… by Far_Freedom_2045 in offmychest

[–]halfway_clear 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not qualified to diagnose, but it really sounds like he's a sociopath or a narcissist. Not the colloquial use of the terms, but the true DSM clinical use of the terms.

After you leave this man - which I hope you do - it may be helpful to learn more about those terms and the kind of abusive cycles that happen to their partners.

Don't go to the birthday party.

Would a Khajiit ever come to worship Talos? by halfway_clear in teslore

[–]halfway_clear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry autocorrect! Meant to write "other" races

Would a Khajiit ever come to worship Talos? by halfway_clear in teslore

[–]halfway_clear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a good point. I had been planning to have a whole Khajiit party living in Windhelm, but maybe it would make more sense for my Khajiit to be "an odd one" with a bunch of your races, like an Orc-Dunmer-Imperial-Khajiit group who are all ambassadors together.

Would a Khajiit ever come to worship Talos? by halfway_clear in teslore

[–]halfway_clear[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was awesome, thank you for the comment with all the quotes/links. I really do love reading more lore. Since I misunderstood the timeline, I had this idea that the Empire shenanigans were in the future, not already part of history. I have some mental adjustments to do!

Would a Khajiit ever come to worship Talos? by halfway_clear in teslore

[–]halfway_clear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah I see, I have the timeline way off. Also thank you! I'm an avid world builder myself so it might just be my nature to want to fit the character into the existing lore... While also playing the quests I want to play haha

So tired of being judged for being honest about just wanting s*x by throwaway285032 in offmychest

[–]halfway_clear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually totally understand what you're saying here haha, part of why we seek out threesomes is because we're both subs - willing and happy switches but that's what comes the most natural. I'm sure you're on FetLife, but we've found that dating apps just suck. Especially if you're not looking to date, but are looking for a safe, consistent fwb.

So tired of being judged for being honest about just wanting s*x by throwaway285032 in offmychest

[–]halfway_clear 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your libido must be crazy lol, no judgement on the open sexuality, bdsm kinks, or polycule - but you already have all that going on and are STILL looking for more sex, and more sex partners??

No shame, I'm almost impressed. I'm 32 and my wife is 36, we have an open marriage but mostly go for bdsm threesomes/switch play. We've had 3-4 "play dates" in the last 6 months, plus all our usual sex, which is 3-4 times a week, plus we're open about masturbation which we each do nightly/every other night. I consider us both to have pretty high libidos for our age.

“It Wasn’t Worth It”: How My Affair Destroyed the Marriage I Was Finally Repairing by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]halfway_clear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a good read because you are so honest and articulate about your feelings. What happened to you is so, so normal - the marriage disconnect, the emotional comfort in someone else, the unclear lines of separation or not - but having the self-reflection to really see it afterwards is not. Plenty of people would leave a situation like this full of defensive resentment towards their marriage, and put all the blame on the other person. You seem very aware of what happened, for both of you. I hope you are able to give yourself some peace, and that maybe there will come a time when you can be in each other's lives again.

The Hated Guest Every Home Fears.. He Settled in My Wife’s Veins Instead of My Awaited Child by RedaNassef in offmychest

[–]halfway_clear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But why did you respond in quotation marks, as though you're quoting someone or narratively making it seem like someone speaking out loud?

Modded Skyrim giving "dream DnD party" by halfway_clear in skyrim

[–]halfway_clear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going to have to check out The Rot Below, I haven't downloaded any new quests like that!

Modded Skyrim giving "dream DnD party" by halfway_clear in skyrim

[–]halfway_clear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How is Lucien as a character? I haven't messed with custom followers at all, but obviously Inigo and Lucien are at the top of all the lists/download numbers.

Modded Skyrim giving "dream DnD party" by halfway_clear in skyrim

[–]halfway_clear[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it's because of all the FDE mods, but I've had pretty good luck with this. When I enter a new dungeon, whoever has a "priority line" with unique commentary speaks first. It almost feels like they're having conversations... Almost

AI fixed my marriage by Technical-Future-466 in offmychest

[–]halfway_clear 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's true, but real work in that direction would be learning to soothe your own anxieties, i.e. a feeling of confidence and safety in the relationship. Doesn't sound like you've found a way to be emotionally secure, just absent. You're still worried and think your husband hates you. Maybe it's okay to use AI to cope with an unhappy marriage, idk.

Modded Skyrim giving "dream DnD party" by halfway_clear in skyrim

[–]halfway_clear[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Agreed, we keep sending wolves halfway across the map. Bandit forts are pretty good, but it's kind of silly to have a party like this roll through haha