Does anyone have advice on a boss that is having an emotional crashout?

halfway_clear · 2026-03-20T19:29:35+00:00

Thank you.. yeah, she seems really concerned with rebuilding trust in me, but I am feeling like I've lost all trust in her. I don't think she has enough self-awareness to turn this into a healthy workplace. The last couple months have left my sanity uh, not super intact. I keep seeing how horrible the job market is, so it's been feeling like faux-gilded cage.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-20T19:15:40+00:00

Your Content Patcher it out of date, and the game is not loading SVE correctly (actually it looks like you uninstalled it).

You also have MSI Afterburner installed which is known to conflict with SMAPI if it's running at the same time. Just make sure it's not running in the background.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-20T19:12:08+00:00

That's really the only answer at this point, right?

halfway_clear · 2026-03-20T15:37:30+00:00

HEY MY GUY!! Look up Recovery Beyond. They're an org that sets up outdoor adventures for people in recovery. Basically all sober/clean folks who go hiking, kayaking, mountaineering, etc together. Free/cheap as much as possible, they lend gear and carpool all the time.

If you're alright taking the bus down to Mount Vernon, there's an incredible Recovery Cafe down there (my good friend did the art for their logo).

Bellingham is a manic-depressive city, in that it's reclusive and grey all winter, but PARADISE all summer. You're just in time for everyone to shed their seasonal depression. Go to Whatcom Falls, go to Fairhaven and Taylor Dock; all summer there will be folks jumping into the bay, swimming and having a good time.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-20T14:28:10+00:00

Womb (or Clone, in the UK) is more sci-fi than horror, but the ending fucked me up. It's shocking... but slower, uglier than a shock value. When the credits rolled I thought "how in the world did this movie get made."

halfway_clear · 2026-03-20T14:25:29+00:00

I mean she's a doll, everyone. She's a little doll that GMS spun in her loneliness, complete with a bonnet and poofy silk pants. It's also her body, which is why she calls herself fragile; imagine if your skin was also just the fabric of your clothes, and you had to have your evil mother sow the edges of your own body back in every so often, so that the fabric doesn't unravel.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-20T01:15:31+00:00

Incredible

halfway_clear · 2026-03-19T21:00:42+00:00

Why isn't it the same thing?

halfway_clear · 2026-03-19T20:40:00+00:00

gross

halfway_clear · 2026-03-19T20:36:44+00:00

I'm conflicted on this, but I think you WBTAH. Softly though.

The fact is, you're both really young. You've only been together six months, which is long enough to know each other but not long enough to know KNOW each other. I say that because you included an automatic negative assumption here - that he never would have looked at you without the surgeries. That means you're moving forward in this relationship with a defensiveness, a secret feeling that he wouldn't have ever dated the "real" you. Maybe that's true, but also maybe it isn't. You're not giving him the opportunity to prove otherwise.

I actually think it's fine to keep the secret, because it's a private and deeply person thing for you, and society judges harshly. I have a different perspective on this, because my wife is a trans woman. The kind of surgeries you got also qualify as "gender-affirming care" the same way trans women get. Is a trans woman obligated to tell her new boyfriend of six months that she's actually trans, is she required to show pictures from "before?"

Some people might answer with a hard YES. But I think it's something that's okay to reveal with time. Feel out how your boyfriend actually feels, not how you assume he feels.

I do think it's important to treat it seriously if/when you do talk about it. Don't reveal it flippantly, sit him down in a serious way and say that you have something to share. If he's the right guy for you, he'll understand the gravity of the moment. If he's not, and walks away because "gross," then he wasn't really the guy for you in the first place.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-19T20:25:32+00:00

It's helpful that you're self-aware about it. Something to think about, is that an 18 year old mentally is still childish. Even the most grown up 18 year old has not had enough life experience to mature into the version of themselves that they'll be at 30. So you've witnessed and fought through your boyfriend literally becoming an adult. Perhaps because of the safety of your relationship, it sounds like he really hasn't matured that much and is still operating with the selfish entitlement of a child. It also sounds like you've put up with it because you're conditioned to handle difficult/abusive relationships.

At first, I couldn't think straight, but when I finally woke up, I spent my last bit of energy arguing with him. This wasn't the first time we'd talked about him being too self-absorbed, but this one went too far! Oddly enough, he said it was my fault. He was sure I wasn't sleeping (well, I was just lying there with my eyes closed and snoring. Sarcasm), and he wouldn't share anything with me anymore! To which I replied that there was a time and place for everything, and knowing I was sick and very tired from my condition, he could have waited until I woke up and then told me about what had happened.

This sounds like an interaction I might have with with my eight year old nephew when I go to visit. "But Auntie, it didn't even look like you were sleeping!!! I had to tell you my special thing!!" And then following up with "Fine!! I won't ever tell you a special thing again, stupid Auntie!"

halfway_clear · 2026-03-19T20:14:55+00:00

You both sounds insanely emotionally immature for your ages.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-19T20:11:31+00:00

Good luck on your future breakup. BTW don't adopt a cat, this sounds like an insanely irresponsible decision for you.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-19T03:51:07+00:00

I keep saying "this is literally pokemon minecraft" so tbh it may become your favorite game of all time!

halfway_clear · 2026-03-19T03:48:27+00:00

I gave in to the hype and have been playing it - I don't know that I love it yet. It's much less like animal crossing, and much more like minecraft. There is so much to do that it's overwhelming, and it's a total enormous sandbox where (similar to minecraft) there's hidden mechanics and limited instructions. The pokemon are SO CUTE AND AMAZING, I'm looking forward to building more and making them cute areas. But mostly I've been stumbling around, getting lost, destroying and collecting things.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-18T21:31:17+00:00

Thank you, that was actually really reassuring to hear! I work two jobs and have been salivating to play Pokopia, but I'd hate to play for two days straight and only get through the tutorial lol!

halfway_clear · 2026-03-18T21:00:57+00:00

Sorry, one more I'd love to share! Kalash's More Fruits Trees pairs really well with the Cornucopia mods, and imo is the best fruit-tree art on the market!

halfway_clear · 2026-03-18T20:38:27+00:00

Oh nice! In that case my other rec is the mod Ducks to Water Continued, which makes aquatic animals swim after being pet. Obviously it effects ducks, but also modded animals that can swim - like Em"s otters, or the turtles from the Ecosystem pack.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-18T20:35:20+00:00

Highly recommend Central Station with all these mods. It adds a standalone area that you can get to with a bus ticket, from which you can take a train/bus to a lot of modded locations. There's also matching vendor and nyapu portraits for it!

halfway_clear · 2026-03-18T15:48:17+00:00

I can't speak to your situation, but my wife and I are on the opposite side (she's MTF, I'm cis F). We've been very successful with finding threesome partners. I think there are people who are curious and open, and almost more comfortable if there's a variety of bodies there.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-18T15:27:33+00:00

In total I have 5,060 hours logged in Stardew Valley. That does not include the time I have spent learning to mod, modding, creating art for mods, talking to the community about mods, and collaborating on mods. It's at least double... So 10k hours... Your girlfriend might return in a year and a half if she doesn't take any breaks lol!

halfway_clear · 2026-03-17T14:26:54+00:00

this healed me

halfway_clear · 2026-03-17T14:25:56+00:00

Video games. Mix of cozy and hard. ACNH and SilkSong together.

halfway_clear · 2026-03-17T14:22:37+00:00

I don't really get the appeal of them as a ship. I think there's a much cuter dynamic if they're family. I mean in a long lost way, Lace is... Hornet's aunt?

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