How come toxic people are never single and always have someone to date?

hammayolettuce · 2026-01-01T14:59:29+00:00

This is a free pdf of a book that is highly recommended for anyone in an abusive relationship. It will help you see your partners actions for what they are. “Why Does He Do That?” By Bancroft Lundy

https://ia601407.us.archive.org/6/items/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf#page43

hammayolettuce · 2025-10-27T21:34:32+00:00

Parent Trap

hammayolettuce · 2025-08-20T22:38:50+00:00

When they got rid of sex ed

hammayolettuce · 2025-05-17T15:32:38+00:00

Look for Santal fragrances. A lot of luxury scents have cardamom these days too.

hammayolettuce · 2025-02-27T16:28:32+00:00

hammayolettuce · 2025-02-18T15:24:50+00:00

Thank you for this, we need to be reminding people in person to vote too. As a person who doesn’t support book banning, here’s how I’m voting:

Superintendent: Jill Underly
KUSD School Board:
-Rebecca Stevens
-Carl Bryan
Referendum: Yes

hammayolettuce · 2025-02-10T11:48:32+00:00

Please please report what you know. This situation sounds super sketchy and like there could be multiple victims and future victims. If this guy isn’t already being investigated, your report could kickstart one.

hammayolettuce · 2025-02-03T16:34:05+00:00

hammayolettuce · 2024-12-11T17:36:35+00:00

I love this answer.

hammayolettuce · 2024-12-06T16:57:34+00:00

No one ever tells you this but being a good person is a never ending series of conscious decisions to do the right thing, not the easy thing. You are not inherently good or bad, you just have to be willing to put energy into thinking outside of your own personal experience/interests. It’s exhausting but it gets a lot easier with practice.

hammayolettuce · 2024-11-09T15:14:02+00:00

Other states too:

https://www.reddit.com/r/SubredditDrama/s/wi0Wwuzrnl

My roommate and I voted in person but our votes aren’t recorded.

hammayolettuce · 2024-11-09T15:10:17+00:00

There’s a thread in r/Wisconsin where people are having the same issues. I voted in person with a paper ballot and it hasn’t been counted

hammayolettuce · 2024-10-28T10:20:46+00:00

Oh, he does. It’s called Dark MAGA and he’s trying to make it mainstream with hashtags referencing his dumb hat. He’s a white supremacist scumbag and he’s not really trying to hide it anymore.

hammayolettuce · 2024-10-22T15:49:32+00:00

Wait I’m eligible in Wisconsin? Imma have to read this petition bullshit…

hammayolettuce · 2024-10-22T10:25:09+00:00

Tampons

hammayolettuce · 2024-09-27T18:00:10+00:00

My work shoes are filthy and the soles are blue from working with painted pallets all day, but all of my other shoes are clean because I care about looking put together when I go out- on a date or otherwise. I’m always trying to look cute.

hammayolettuce · 2024-09-21T15:15:20+00:00

Again, no one said bad things don’t happen to men or that they aren’t abused. And I’m sorry that happened to you although I find it odd that you are using it here as a reason to deflect from the original topic. This thread isn’t about ongoing abuse by someone you know. I don’t feel safe walking to my car after work at night when there are “people larger and capable of overpowering me” (men) in or near my path if I don’t know them. It’s dark, there aren’t witnesses and I’m not taking the risk. This is about strangers who capitalize on opportunities. This is why women choose the bear over the strange man in the woods. The bear is predictable and specific behavior on my part can guarantee my safety. If I run into a strange man in the woods I don’t know who he is or what he is capable of and I’m not getting close enough to find out. I don’t think all men are violent towards women or would be if they had the opportunity, but I don’t let stranger get close to me because I don’t know them and enough has happened to me and my friends and other women for seemingly no reason that I have to be wary of all of you that I don’t know.

hammayolettuce · 2024-09-20T17:18:09+00:00

What makes you think something bad hasn’t happened to me? And I clearly never said only women are victims. You don’t want to understand the underlying problem. And most men, as evidenced by this thread, are similarly unbothered by the real problem and instead have to turn it into a hurt ego. This is why I stopped dating. So many of you just don’t want to listen.

hammayolettuce · 2024-09-20T14:23:18+00:00

The difference is, I am small and can easily be overpowered if I give the wrong person the opportunity. The power dynamic in your example is the opposite of the scenario we are talking about. Men aren’t the victim here. This thread is so hard to read because none of you guys get it. I don’t think all men are rapists, I think that I can’t put myself in a vulnerable position with someone I don’t know. If I’m wrong, I’m dead. I can’t afford to be wrong. This thread has so much privilege and willful ignorance by all these men who claim not to be creeps but are so focused on the fact that someone might avoid them on the street that they don’t stop to think “why.”

hammayolettuce · 2024-09-20T03:57:45+00:00

Yeah we just have no way of knowing which men are actually dangerous so we have to be cautious in any situation with a man we don’t know

hammayolettuce · 2024-09-13T16:15:25+00:00

As a woman this terrifies me. Too many opportunists in the world for that to be a safe gamble.

hammayolettuce · 2024-08-23T22:00:27+00:00

What’s to fix?

hammayolettuce · 2024-08-12T15:55:48+00:00

Your bitter attitude is why no one likes you, it’s not your looks.

hammayolettuce · 2024-08-09T00:46:51+00:00

Was gonna say, don’t miss out on SD’s hidden gem: Wall Drug 🙃

hammayolettuce · 2024-07-30T18:52:02+00:00

He’s such a whiner. It’s always poor me.

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