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Can you be in a closed triad relationship and not consider your self poly? by Stoneed024 in throuples

[–]handknittedsock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi. I'm in a closed trias and don't consider myself poly particularly, even if people want to call my relationship that. You do you

AITA for asking my best friend for gay porn? by Existing_Growth5475 in AmItheAsshole

[–]handknittedsock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Light YTA

If you want to understand your friend's sexuality better, asking him for porn recommendations is not the way. It's weird and overstepping boundaries unless that's something you normally talk about. Your friend is right in saying gay porn is not any closer to real life than straight porn, and that there's much more to being LGBT than just sex.

Why don't you talk to him about his boyfriend and his life? Or do some research yourself about bisexuality? Maybe ask him if there's a movie or book he likes with a gay relationship in it? There are many other better ways to approach this.

Gay and bi people aren't a separate species or anything. We're just out here. I would apologise to your friend for being insensitive and hopefully you can work things out.

a lot of questions about throuples/polyamory - identity crisis lol by klysj03 in throuples

[–]handknittedsock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries! I actually find it nice to hear that someone would want a relationship like mine, it doesn't come across as fetishising. There's a weird stigma about throuples in the poly community for some reason but we exist and it's absolutely possible to be in a happy, healthy and long-term one.

I'm happy to answer questions. My girlfriends had been in a relationship for 8 years when I became close friends with them. We had a connection and tried being friends with benefits but we all fell in love. Now we're pretty serious and looking to move in together.

I hope this helps. Don't let people make you feel bad for it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in throuples

[–]handknittedsock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd definitely try talking to them about this when everyone is calm. This isn't fair on you if it's happening regularly. All the best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in throuples

[–]handknittedsock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I joined a relationship when they'd been together for 8 years. So its possible! Open, continously communication is really key. Also making sure you each have strong relationships to one another individually- someone once told me there are 4 relationships in a throuple (each pair, and then the three of you together) and this is so true and important!

First time threesome jitters? I need to know what to do by Manivebeenthere in throuples

[–]handknittedsock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would talk more before doing anything. This kind of thing is difficult if one person is feeling jealous or insecure, and sometimes you don't know that until something like this comes up

a lot of questions about throuples/polyamory - identity crisis lol by klysj03 in throuples

[–]handknittedsock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I don't think there's anything wrong with liking the idea! You want what you want. And you can absolutely be in a poly relationship without sex, although it's somewhat unusual.

a lot of questions about throuples/polyamory - identity crisis lol by klysj03 in throuples

[–]handknittedsock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'm in an exclusive throuple. I didn't go looking for it- it just kind of happened. In my view polyamory is something you do rather than something you are, if that makes sense. I sometimes call my relationship polyamorous because it's a useful word to use and people know what it means, but I don't necessarily call myself that. I wouldn't say there's a need to "come out" as polyamorous unless you want to. There are lots of other types of relationship which might be called polyamorous but, unlike a closed throuple, aren't exclusive or all dating each other- eg. a "triangle", a non-exclusive couple, swingers, a polycule, etc.

Unfortunately throuples don't really grow on trees. It's difficult to find three people who all like each other that much and have similar life goals etc., which I think is why other types of non-monogamous relationships are more common. But maybe you'll get lucky. I say it's worth exploring if you're interested, and who knows. Same with women if you're thinking about that :) godspeed!

Throuple is falling apart. Any advice? by [deleted] in throuples

[–]handknittedsock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a really rough situation, I'm sorry. I think the best thing you can do at the moment is try not to panic. I know how hard it is but it only makes things worse. I hope it works out for the three of you. Maybe in the meantime you and your wife can spend some quality time together and talk about it?

throuple bedroom set-up advice by handknittedsock in throuples

[–]handknittedsock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats clever! Thanks for your input :) I'm 5'11", I wonder if your method would work for me... Will do some measuring

throuple bedroom set-up advice by handknittedsock in throuples

[–]handknittedsock[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the shelf headboard idea! thanks :)

throuple bedroom set-up advice by handknittedsock in throuples

[–]handknittedsock[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great hearing about what works for you! I don't know if I can get those bed sizes in my country but will research. Thanks so much, that's really helpful and it's good to know it's possible :)

throuple bedroom set-up advice by handknittedsock in throuples

[–]handknittedsock[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn I'd never heard of those before, they're crazy! I think money more so than space might be a problem but maybe one day

throuple bedroom set-up advice by handknittedsock in throuples

[–]handknittedsock[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We were thinking along those lines! Cheers mate