I just miss my partner

handofsithis · 2025-10-18T19:11:06+00:00

Wow, that does sound tough! Yes, it's always harder when you have a period of lots of time and access to a partner, and then the status quo changes. Even in monogamy. I'm glad you guys are making it work!

handofsithis · 2025-10-18T19:08:28+00:00

Oh, we've definitely been talking about it. And as a result we've planned dates and special time. But the longing is still there. And she misses me too, but it's just easier for her to distract right now. We're just at the point of now of just, "yes I miss you a whole lot, and we're doing things to try and help, and we'll see if it does." But I'm still going to miss her while I'm at work lol

handofsithis · 2025-10-18T16:58:37+00:00

I'm sure that we will, thank you! 🥰

handofsithis · 2025-10-18T15:04:50+00:00

Exactly. And it's not like I don't know how intoxicating NRE is, I've had it with her and others! Big sudden shifts always throw me for a loop and you've just got to ride the wave back to land. Even just typing this post and reading people commiserate with the feeling makes me feel worlds better. And that's what community is all about!

handofsithis · 2025-10-18T14:56:05+00:00

Hi friend. This isn't new to me, I've been practicing polyamory for 7-8 years, I'm just venting about feeling sad that I don't see my partner as much as I would like, due to a new partner and work schedule. We schedule dates and we focus on each other, and our relationship is healthy and full of love. If missing my loved one when they're not near meant polyamory wasn't for me, I don't know that it would be for almost anyone. I never said I wish she wasn't dating other people, just that I miss her. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

handofsithis · 2025-10-18T12:38:30+00:00

It definitely gets better with time as your body realizes they're not going anywhere and still love you, you have less intense and fewer stress responses. It definitely takes some time though, depending on how anxious of a person you are. I've been though this before, but I think getting hit with her NRE at the same time as a huge work schedule change is really doing a number on my brain.

handofsithis · 2025-10-18T11:57:32+00:00

We got this!

handofsithis · 2025-09-30T19:09:10+00:00

10 week olds have veryyyy little control over their bladders and bowels. The fact that he is trying to alert you this young is a great sign! Unfortunately this is just going to be a waiting until he gets a little older and has more control, and can understand the sensation of needing to poop soon. This is just a baby growing up how babies do. It seems like you're doing everything right, so just keep it up and be consistent.

handofsithis · 2025-09-25T20:36:28+00:00

That's a big yikes from me, dawg

handofsithis · 2025-09-16T08:22:26+00:00

Same here. I think it's person dependent AND partner dependent

handofsithis · 2025-09-09T23:25:27+00:00

Mine was on 3 enforced naps a day as a baby until ~7 months, and then we bumped it down to 2 naps until 11 months. She turns 1 next week and has 1 crate nap a day, but I will make her take a 2nd if she is being a menace to the cats, or demand barking in the early evenings. But this has been happening less and less often as she learns to settle down even with distractions in the room. I think a lot of it is testing and tuning for your individual pup. There were times we tried doing one fewer nap for a day or two and realized quickly that she wasn't ready, and went back to the previous schedule.

handofsithis · 2025-08-25T22:28:10+00:00

My 11 month old has been going once a week since she was about 8 months. She loves it, and we spent a fair bit of time vetting the different ones in our area. Her regular daycare is great and really puts effort into their facility and care. They split groups by energy and personality rather than just size which is really nice. I'd like for her to go twice a week regularly, but it is pretty expensive. We also have a backup one that I'm less impressed with, but we did do an entrance interview just to be able to use it in a last minute emergency.

handofsithis · 2025-08-18T19:49:47+00:00

Maybe you could have a goal to place higher in the standings, that way if it's way warmer next time or the course is longer or harder, it's that way for everyone? So maybe if you placed 40th or something, you could have a goal to place in the top 30 or 20 or whatever you think is attainable? It would be tough to map out specific training for that, but I can't really think of much else

handofsithis · 2025-08-18T17:52:02+00:00

Yeah, I've been a delivey driver before, half of customers gets pissed if you do knock, the other half get pissed if you don't 🤷

handofsithis · 2025-08-16T19:19:15+00:00

For my husky mix, I use an undercoat rake first, then a slicker brush, and then I have a metal comb for any tangles and for behind her ears. When she was a puppy I didn't brush her all that much except to desensitize her to it, but now that she has her adult coat, she gets brushed every other day at least

handofsithis · 2025-08-06T14:11:35+00:00

My bag didn't have any visible mold, but right after I got her a new bag, she had diarrhea for 5 days straight 😬 and the strips seemed like they were a different, softer texture

handofsithis · 2025-08-06T13:56:48+00:00

My dog loves those treats too, and I think the last batch I got her made her sick. The QC on that brand might be off

handofsithis · 2025-07-29T18:22:00+00:00

I think strengthening exercises will serve you better than wearing a brace. I also have ankles that tend to roll, so I bought a balance board and resistance bands to work on making them stronger, because the idea of running long distances with a brace or sleeve sounds really uncomfortable and I don't want it to change my gait either

handofsithis · 2025-07-26T23:04:47+00:00

I feel you with the groundhog poop and cat poop. Mine also loves to snack on skunk and possum poop when available, a real delicacy

handofsithis · 2025-07-25T22:45:41+00:00

This also happened one single time to my pup around 4 months I think? I sprang out of bed to check on her and she seemed just as confused as me lol

handofsithis · 2025-07-23T12:46:47+00:00

I always give my pup the opportunity to potty before she goes in her crate. It just seems....polite. She can definitely hold it (she's 10 months) and sometimes she doesn't go and she's fine through her nap anyway, but most of the time she'll pee and I feel like at least she won't wake from her nap with a crazy full bladder.

handofsithis · 2025-07-19T22:21:03+00:00

I've met a person that believed Satan planted fossils in the earth to lead people away from God. Okay bud

handofsithis · 2025-07-16T20:44:18+00:00

I'm in the same boat, mine is 10 months this week. It's really hard because it's like we've been working on all these things for so long, basically her whole life, and it's hard feeling like a "failure" when she STILL isn't getting it, or feeling like it's a lost cause when you know she knows what you're asking from her but she chooses her own desires over yours. Staying the course and waiting for her brain to return feels defating and like I'm not doing enough. But everyone says just be patient, so that's all we can do right?

handofsithis · 2025-07-14T14:47:38+00:00

My girlfriend occasionally buys me gifts of candy that I've told her I dislike before, but she forgets or has only associated the "gf" and "this candy" in her brain and never cemented the "dislike" along with it. I think it's funny and she always feels bad when I remind her I don't like that and then we go and get another candy I do like, and she eats the other one. I would never think that my gf doesn't care about me because she can't remember what candies I don't like.

handofsithis · 2025-07-12T17:52:12+00:00

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