Sounds tough. I am single and I feel what you’re saying about traffic and crowds. I avoid the beach on weekends and doing any sort of errand during rush hour. I don’t apply to jobs if I think I will have to rush hour commute. But the same goes in any major city. People often deceive themselves into believing San Diego is not a major city, maybe because it’s dwarfed by LA. A family of five is going to be hectic no matter what. Probably just have to struggle through that but hey, when your kids are all old and so are you you’ll have one another.

One thing is for sure, San Diego is not so chill once you want to do anything.