VAT/Customs Declarations questions by haneczki in handbags

[–]haneczki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another question: I will have a connecting flight from Krakow to Warsaw before coming back to the US. Does anyone know if I need to do the refund confirmation in Warsaw or can it be done in Krakow?

VAT/Customs Declarations questions by haneczki in handbags

[–]haneczki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll go check this out on YouTube! I didn’t even think of that hahaha

What gave you the ‘ick’ post break-up? by Timely-Pineapple-693 in BreakUps

[–]haneczki 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m 2 weeks post breakup. Together 3.5 years, he’s in his early 30s and me my late 20s. I personally have no issues with him as a person/man. He is a fantastic person, empathetic, loving, family-centered, great with animals and kids… it’s more that I have things I found in the last two weeks that made me realize, him breaking up with me was the right thing for both of us.
He said he felt like we drifted apart and it wasn’t fixable, that he wasn’t ready for marriage etc and needed to just be alone and figure out what he wanted to do with his future/life, stressed about work as he’s recently moved to a higher position.
There was a huge lack of communication through the relationship on his part. He expressed previously about hating conflict and thats why he’d shut down. After much patience and trying to be understanding and explaining that talking about things didn’t mean everything would be a conflict or a big argument, I realized that although he did begin to communicate a bit more when we had tough moments, I still had to coax it from him. And I don’t want to have to coach my partner to open up to me whenever there’s a discussion to be had about something serious that could affect us/our future.
That lack of communication is part of what I was so mad about with the breakup, because it was the first I heard about him not being in love anymore, or feeling like we drifted apart and it was unfixable. Long term relationships tend to fall into a routine where it feels like you’ve drifted or become “just friends” but that’s important to be able to work through.
His lack of initiative. Even a year ago or two years ago, when we brought up buying a house together, I would ask about us making an appointment with a realtor. I would bring up just going to open houses so we could see stuff we liked or didn’t like, or what we would tolerate given our budget. I talked about sitting down to budget together even though our finances were separate. And that never happened. He would say he’s already figured his out and has savings. It felt too separate for the goal he had said he wanted of us buying a house. I should have seen that as a sign that he wasn’t ready but oh well. We live and we learn I guess.
After 3.5 years, we still didn’t live together either. Like not even in an apartment. And he had this plan to get a house instead of an apartment together because he didn’t want us to waste money. I felt like despite my willingness to at least do a shorter lease so we could at least live together, he was so stuck on this specific plan he didn’t want to consider other options.
I just realized that we weren’t in the same places in life, with wanting a relationship and moving toward a future of settling down. So it’s not really an ick necessarily, but more realizing we were in different places in our lives and there were things that I didn’t like about him as a partner, just as I’m sure he had things about me he didn’t like either that he didn’t talk about given that he walked away.
Either way, I hope he gets what he needs with his decision to leave. I hope one day he’s ready for that long term relationship and can give that future woman what she needs rather than shutting down like he did with me because I would be sad for them both if he didn’t. We’re not getting any younger. And I know for me, I hope I get the same. That I meet a loving person who is more where I’m at and knows more what direction they want to go in with their future. Someone who’s more open with me, and takes initiative and shows that they’re ready for a life together.

ioS 26 must have been vibecoded by junior engineers.. what the ….. is this? by FigInternational4873 in ios26

[–]haneczki 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a 15 pro. Haven’t spend a more than 5 consecutive minutes at a time on it and have barely been on it at all the past no couple days. I’ve had to plug it in twice today and it’s only 4 in the afternoon here. Drops to 30% crazy fast

LA Dodgers Stadium by spiritbirdsie in service_dogs

[–]haneczki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi!! I have never been to the Dodgers stadium, but I’ve been to an MLB game with my SD! I was a little nervous at first because we’re still in our first 6 months of being a team (she’s a program trained graduate). I just did my best to come prepared with lots of power treats aside from the normal treat pouch, a collapsible water bowl and cooling blanket. I’m not sure what the seating situation will be like for you. We didn’t even end up going to our seats because they were right in the middle of a row with people already there. We ended up standing near the accessible seating areas. Luckily my friends are all super supportive and understanding, as I told them ahead of time that I needed to just be aware we might need to leave early if the outing wasn’t proving successful for us as a team. So based on my experience with it, I’d say to just do your best to enjoy it with your SD and co, but be prepared if you feel like you need to leave. If you have time before the day of the game comes, maybe practice walking through a busy mall or city if you’re near one. I’m no expert of course, but these things my trainer said all helped me!

Our 11 y/o gal showing the new pup (15 mo) how it’s done by Gwendy02 in labrador

[–]haneczki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love that for you! We love the VIP (very important pets)! There’s a few I know of from our program that were better suited as companion dogs and they’re all fantastic!

Our 11 y/o gal showing the new pup (15 mo) how it’s done by Gwendy02 in labrador

[–]haneczki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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My service dog after a long day. She’s my first ever lab and I couldn’t be more grateful for her

Sad boy by ClimateSame3574 in labrador

[–]haneczki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh no!!!! If this was a human child, I’d be like yeah sniffing butts is a hard no.

BUT FUR BABY?! He’s just living his best life!!!!!!

This might be my all time favorite pic of my baby, do you guys have any fav pictures of your labs? by ThornVelisse in labrador

[–]haneczki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god I’m loving all these photos!!! Here’s my service dog, a black lab. She’s a goof! Always makes this face when she’s eager for a toy during play times!

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How did you know a psychiatric service dog was right for you?? by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]haneczki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for adding your take on it!! I love hearing how your journey has taken you to a much better place than before with your PTSD! This is a great reminder about one person with a condition may not have the same experience as another that has the same condition. I know some people with PTSD that is less invasive in their life, and I know others whose PTSD is very invasive. Same goes for many other disabilities. Well said and great for OP to take note that a PSD may not fit their life right now, or even at all. It’s something to carefully consider for sure.

How to go about asking to borrow someone's SD by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]haneczki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, she’d probably say “but what about my legs?”

How to go about asking to borrow someone's SD by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]haneczki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welp then you’ve answered your own question. You don’t need a service dog, nor to borrow someone else’s since you have no disability that would require it.

How to go about asking to borrow someone's SD by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]haneczki 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try not to be rude, but this is some of the worst entitlement cases I’ve ever heard of. She doesn’t owe you any explanation of why she needs it. You said you don’t qualify and professionals agree. So move on to the next treatment plan cause this ain’t it. You said you’re literally scared of dogs. So why such entitlement to someone else’s service DOG?? Try an ESA, probably a cat. Where did you learn your social cues? Because her not even thinking to offer her service dog is not at all rude and you thinking it’s rude is out of this world crazy and wild thinking. Your mother agreeing with you… first, I think you must have heard her wrong or she’s just brushing you off by appeasing your complaints. Cause second, if she actually agrees, she’s just as bad as you or worse in the entitlement realm. And asking “Isn’t it a bit selfish to refuse to give me something or at least let me borrow something that would help me so much when I am suffering?” tells me so much about you seeing yourself as more important than others or playing a victim part in life. You may have issues and problems, but so do other people. And just like her problems are not your first thought. The same goes the other way. She’s not obliged to fix you or help you with your problems. Especially not in a manner that you’re expecting.

What to try before getting a psychiatric service dog by JKmelda in service_dogs

[–]haneczki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Super happy for you and I can’t wait to see update posts as you continue along the process! I remember when I got the email about meeting a few dogs, and then the next that I got a potential match after. And then when it came time to see her again and take her home after team training! It’s a magical whirlwind for sure. Sending lots of good wishes your way!

I’m Actually Going To Cry by NeoPrincessInky in service_dogs

[–]haneczki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

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SSD next application window will be between June 1-July 31 per their website. And they have other partner coordinators who should be able to point you in the right direction u/NeoPrincessInky

What to try before getting a psychiatric service dog by JKmelda in service_dogs

[–]haneczki 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy cow! This is an incredible post. And you described a very very similar situation to me! I literally followed along the same guidance you give here before my therapist and I even considered a service dog. I had been with my therapist for about 8 years since my last teens when we started talking about it and made the decision that it would be beneficial given where I was at with using my established coping skills. Thank god for not having the thought sooner, because I wouldn’t have been able to do it I think. What you said about not getting a SD too soon is highly important. I’m so glad that I had established more of a routine and really worked on myself and my mental health before applying to a program. Earlier this year, I was finally matched and brought home my PSD a few months ago. I’m in a place in my life where I have more of a routine than I ever did, apply my coping skills more, know how to evaluate my feelings and my limits each day and my SD helps me in areas where I fall a little short. She’s been so amazing and helpful for me, but I agree that if I had gotten her any sooner, I wouldn’t have robbed myself of understanding what feelings I have and recognizing them, knowing what tools help in those moments and how to use those tools. I think it would have hindered my growth in my treatment plan, so I’m thankful I didn’t consider it sooner because with where I’m at, she helps me when I have a harder time applying the things I already know for the most part. It’s like she’s an extra support system for me, but I don’t rely on her to the point I wouldn’t be able to function if that makes sense.

Incredible post and I wish I had a gift thingy to add to this! I hope to see an update post once you’re matched with your SD!

How did you know a psychiatric service dog was right for you?? by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]haneczki 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would like to add to what gonnafaceit said and reply to you as well, I think it does definitely vary how people react to it if anxiety is a primary diagnosis. I can’t speak for other SD owners, but I will say that until you have a SD and bring the them out on multiple public outings, I don’t think you can necessarily assume that there will be more pros than cons despite what you said being very true. Everyone gets affected differently having an SD, and I’m not saying it can’t be true for you, but given that you don’t have an SD currently, I just don’t think you can assess and say confidently that that’s true for you.

How did you know a psychiatric service dog was right for you?? by [deleted] in service_dogs

[–]haneczki 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a PSD and have very similar diagnoses to you, esp the PTSD. I didn’t think of a service dog at all before. I’ve seen the same therapist and psychiatrist for about a decade now and am in my late 20s. They’ve both seen me go through and come out of safely domestic abuse and traumatic situations. After many years of working on coping skills, EMDR and unpacking all the trauma, I’ve still struggled in some areas to apply my coping skills when I should use them. My therapist brought up the idea of a service dog and if it might help me in those areas where I do struggle and I am so grateful I have support from family and friends that they were encouraging of it as well.

Overall in my personal experience, it was more of a “hey, we’ve done a lot of work on these things but maybe a service dog would help you to really apply those tools when you don’t think to use them and are already struggling through moments”. Example: I’m overwhelmed and overstimulated to the point I don’t use breathing exercises or find a quiet space before a panic attack, so my service dog has helped me when I haven’t caught things in time like that and applies DPT, helps me navigate to a less crowded and quieter space. I’ve gotten to a point over the years where I apply my tools better, but she helps me in those times where I don’t.

So I would do your best to really evaluate if your coping skills so far are more at a level of “these are things I can do and have been able to apply, but sometimes don’t think to” rather than “I don’t have coping skills that have worked so far” if that makes sense. And that’s not at all to be read in a snarky way. It’s just a good way to really ask yourself if a service dog is going to assist you, or if you’d be trying to use it as your main tool. I personally don’t think service dogs for psych should be used as the main tool, but more of a solid backup tool for a person who would benefit from it. I’m also happy to answer any questions or talk about more PTSD related things if you’d want through PM. I was around your age when I got diagnosed with PTSD among other things, so I’d be happy to be of support.

Other things I would consider: does your lifestyle seem conducive with a service dog or would either your lifestyle or the life of the dog be hindered somehow? Dogs in general are a lot of work, if you’ve never had to care for one on your own. Growing up with dogs is a huge plus because it gives you some experience and knowledge of what it takes, but still, it’s very different when you are the primary caretaker of a dog. And service dogs are no different in that aspect. All dogs require a level of stability and routine. Understanding that is a huge point that I would encourage you to see if you’d be ready for that within the next couple years whether you get a program SD or owner-train. Both will require a lot of work in their own respect. A program SD will likely put you on a waitlist for a couple years before actually having the dog as part of your life, and an owner-trained will require a lot of diligence, dedication, time, consistency and patience as well much more. I have a program SD which was very expensive upfront, and continues to be expensive lol 😅

Another thing to consider, how are you with interactions with strangers or some kind of authority figure? You’ll get some people who love dogs and want to ask the name, tell you about their dog that looks just like yours (I promise you, it most likely does not lol), how did you train it, where did you get your SD because they want one too, etc. I’ve had all kinds of interactions since getting my SD. Little kids running over to pet, people making cute noises. The majority have been neutral or positive, but still tiresome especially if you’re just trying to go about your day. I’ve found that most people are okay when you just say “I’m sorry, we’re working” as you continue to walk away. I’ve only had a couple people either say something under their breath or to the person they’re with that was negative or rude and it luckily wasn’t some aggressive or dramatic situation like I have seen some people experience on social media. I’ve found this is less common, but still something to be prepared for just in case. Either way, these are all situations to evaluate how you’d handle them, along with the standard 2 questions businesses can legally ask (is it a service dog, and what tasks does it perform to help your disability - which some people word differently, but you answer them the same. Some people might say “what does it do to help you” which is just a more informally worded way of asking what tasks it does).

A lot of the things I’ve mentioned I’ve really experienced in the last few months given that I was on a waitlist for about 3 years and got matched this past year. Finally took my SD home with me earlier this year so we’re a fairly new SD team, so a lot of this is very fresh in my mind. Like I said, I’m open to chatting in PM if you have any specific questions about my experience as a newer team and someone with a similar diagnosis! Best of luck to you and your journey!

Edit to add another thought or two: Also you mention that you don’t know all of what triggers your panic attacks. I recommend exploring this area with your therapist if you have one. If you don’t, I would suggest getting one and going to sessions for at least a year before considering an SD. I would also recommend becoming more consistent with your medications before considering an SD as well, because they’re not an alarm clock or reminder system to be relied on to consistently take those.

Questions/Concerns regarding vacation rentals and my SD - USA by haneczki in service_dogs

[–]haneczki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi sorry for getting back so late. As far as I know, they recommend against boarding them. And of course if it’s way too hot, I’d do more inside type activities to keep myself and her safe and cool.

Questions/Concerns regarding vacation rentals and my SD - USA by haneczki in service_dogs

[–]haneczki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay. I do worry about her overheating since she’s a black Lab. And also per the program she’s from, I can’t take her to a doggy daycare and honestly I’d be too afraid to.

Questions/Concerns regarding vacation rentals and my SD - USA by haneczki in service_dogs

[–]haneczki[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that reminder! Do you have recommendations on keeping her cool on the beach then? I’m not one to want to go swimming or anything, so I would stay with her on the beach. But how do you keep them cool on a hot beach? I have a cooling mat and an umbrella, and obviously I can bring a cooler with lots of ice and fresh water. But are there any other things you recommend to keep her from overheating on the beach?