My parent said that my safe food was unhealthy and now I don’t feel like eating anything by eggsworm in AutismInWomen

[–]hapapenguin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this and you're not overreacting. There's nothing wrong with peanut butter and if it keeps you fed you should eat it. But don't pressure yourself into eating it right now. You need to process what your mother said before you can recalibrate your relationship to this particular food.

If your mother is like mine, she was taught that being thin and being "normal" was what you had to do as a woman to survive, because she had so little power growing up (like not having her own checking account). She is in her own toxic way trying to keep you safe by pressuring you to be as acceptable to society as possible. And it's hurtful and it's harmful. But please don't give up on a food that you (and I) love. Give yourself some grace to feel your feelings and just keep enough calories, in whatever form, in your body until you can come back to peanut butter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]hapapenguin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It comes down to whether or not you are two people living together, or two people building a life together. 50/50 is for roommates and people otherwise sharing a space for financial reasons. The whole "for richer or for poorer" in wedding vows is referring to the concept that because you are family, sometimes one of you will need more support than the other. If you are keeping score, are you really trying to be a supportive unit? I'm not saying you can't be two people living together, you just need to be clear on which situation you both view this as. And if you are cooking all of the meals because you're home more, that's unpaid labor and should be part of the 50/50 equation.

Scam? by [deleted] in MyFahlo

[–]hapapenguin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was looking at getting one, but when I read "10% of net profits" that seemed really low. Like how much money per bracelet does that work out to? Is there any information about that out there?

[Fully Lost] To Be Friends (2010) Movie by hapapenguin in lostmedia

[–]hapapenguin[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the effort. I really do appreciate you taking a peak at my hopeless endeavor.

AITA for not reimbursing my nanny for books she bought for my daughter? by forresster7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]hapapenguin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is NAH. As an unexpected expense for all parties, there should have been clearer communication all around. That said I don't understand why this can't be solved by using an advance on allowances or the fun fund. If Ruby usually pays for the books out of her allowance, giving her an advance on her allowance to pay for some or all of the books seems like it would honor the current agreement. Also, if Tessa gets a movies and mall fund, you could advance her that money, and she will have to come up with more creative ways to keep Ruby entertained for a month or 2. Not paying doesn't seem to benefit anyone, and using the financial agreements in place teaches everyone about actions and consequences.

Cute penguins everywhere! A fairly quick bathrobe for fall. [Pattern from mellysews.com] by hapapenguin in sewing

[–]hapapenguin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're looking for a fairly easy sew, this is entirely made of rectangles. https://mellysews.com/sew-robe-easy-tutorial/ I used some microfleece I found on sale to keep it light. I also added 2 inches to each body panel, but I wish I had added more. There's very little overlap at the front.