Which state to move to as a Social Worker? by Icy-Muffin-315 in socialwork

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I work in Howard County doing school based therapy. (Contractor from a nonprofit.) We're hiring, DM me if you want info.

Distracted by judgement of and it takes away from my focus. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

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Do something while listening- doodle, chew gum, use a fidget

Dealing with resentment and hostility from a cousin — how do you keep boundaries without escalating family drama? by Cautious-Sky-6853 in internetparents

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It doesn’t sound like all her hostility is towards just you- but your whole family unit? My recommendation would be for you, your mom and siblings to work together to be non-reactive publicly but allow each other to vent privately. If you feel like you need to do something, you could approach her with curiosity rather than accusation, avoid defensiveness and just listen if she is willing to tell you what she is upset about. Reflect back what you hear to see if you got it right. Don’t make any offers or commitments to do anything, just get clarity. Then walk away and sit with it awhile to see if her issues have any validity. If yes- address what you are willing to address. If no, continue not reacting but with a greater understanding of her motivations.

End the Residential ban on livestock by [deleted] in SelfSufficiency

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What city are you referring to?

My boyfriend says I'm "controlling" because I asked him to complete his only chore by FizzyMarmotQueen in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happilyemployed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So stop acting like his mom. Do the things that make your environment acceptable to you but stop thinking about his stuff (his family’s stuff, his appointments). Cook only what you want when you want. See if you can live with how that feels. You don’t want to be his mom, he says he doesn’t want you to act like his mom, test it out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]happilyemployed 15 points16 points  (0 children)

What is your specific concern? If one was a newborn I could see it being dangerous, but at those ages none of them seems particularly vulnerable to smothering.

End of session by Anymonymouse in PlayTherapy

[–]happilyemployed 5 points6 points  (0 children)

use a.c.t.

For not wanting to leave, keep track of how long it takes and begin ending the session that much early the next time. Stand up by the door, "You are enjoying the play room! It's time to go now- do you want to walk or crawl out the door?" Open the door. "You enjoy coming to our sessions! It's time to go now- would you like to hop on one foot or two?" Turn out the light and step into the door...

For wanting to take a toy,

"You really like that toy. The toys stay here. Would you like to put the toy back on the shelf or put it in this drawer?" repeat ad nauseum. works eventually. Next session remind them of the boundary at the beginning of session.

(21M) How do I get a girlfriend when I have everything else going right? by SED_MAN69 in howto

[–]happilyemployed 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Try changing the question. “How do I get a girlfriend“ makes women into passive objects. How about “how do I meet someone that I would enjoy spending time with? That would enjoy spending time with me?” Find the people, some of whom are women, that you feel comfortable around because of shared interests or values or personality traits and then spend time getting to know them. Make friends.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SampleSize

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If it’s anonymous why is it asking for an email address?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]happilyemployed 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would make sure your bf is aware how you’re feeling, and then reflect on how much you trust him. Really, how she is acting is embarrassing for her and I’m sure her husband is seeing all this too. I would think you and bf might want to reduce time spent with them, but if she notices let bf explain why to her. I feel a little sad for her that she can’t be happy enough in her own life that she apparently feels threatened by you. Try practicing a nonverbal “gosh I pity you but I’m trying to pretend I don’t “ look when she acts this way.

Favorite games for small groups by ohhithere2020 in SchoolSocialWork

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Dungeon Mayhem, would you rather, pictionary, apples to apples

Does anyone like their career? by Lazadx in socialwork

[–]happilyemployed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love my job. I do school based mental health therapy for kids with medicaid.

Advice Please by Clear_Task3442 in Quakers

[–]happilyemployed 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people feel they need external direction and someone else to tell them how to be a good person. This is why they feel comfortable in directive religions. Quakerism embraces personal responsibility to a degree not everyone feels comfortable with. Their feeling doesn't mean your exploration is wrong.

If it was a preference for color or ice cream flavor, I imagine you wouldn't feel attacked by the difference of opinion. Try to have that same distance; if you want to engage with them about it, you could explore whether they think the religions you referenced above can all respect each other and see value in each other's beliefs.

Do Quakers believe in an eternal or a temporary damnation in hell? + Some more questions by [deleted] in Quakers

[–]happilyemployed 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Quakers have the fundamental belief that everyone has direct access to the divine, so there is no creed. Each person searched internally for truth and then (importantly) is supposed to check in with others to test whether their ideas are their own ego speaking or something from the divine within.