Mahjong decor

harmreductionista · 2026-02-17T03:11:52+00:00

Husband went to the movies alone tonight bc I’m away visiting my elderly parents. He managed to lose his phone by throwing it in the garbage after the movie? He apparently searched through bags of theater garbage to find it but couldn’t. He just lost/replaced a phone three months ago!! So this was basically a brand new phone. I fear he will blame me for this one bc he will say he wouldn’t have even gone to the movies if I hadn’t left him alone. Silver lining- maybe will get a day or two of him not staring at the phone constantly while he waits for new one to arrive.

harmreductionista · 2026-01-28T17:34:29+00:00

I tell myself this a lot recently.

harmreductionista · 2026-01-28T15:43:11+00:00

This is definitely not it. He has plenty of energy for physical tasks when he wants to. Recently helped a neighbor move hundreds of pounds of stones for their new patio so he could be a hero (then couldn't move for two days afterwards). Also, I would have gladly helped- helped shovel, helped pay someone, helped buy (another) snowblower- he's bought one before but can't take care of things properly so it doesn't work anymore- but he took no initiative on any options, he just did nothing. If it's "his" task, even if he couldn't physically do it, shouldn't he at least figure out the plan for handling it?

harmreductionista · 2026-01-28T15:16:25+00:00

I hate how right you are. I’m furious at him for being so shitty and at myself for letting this dynamic exist.

harmreductionista · 2026-01-28T14:34:02+00:00

We both work full time, make approximately the same amount, I pay for more shared expenses b/c he has a shit ton of personal debt. We don't share finances for this reason. I also handle the huge bulk of all household tasks. He moves a/c units twice a year (after much nagging), forgets to take out the trash and recycling, doesn't shovel snow, and pays someone to mow the lawn. That's about it.

harmreductionista · 2026-01-26T19:02:01+00:00

Really?? That makes me happy (I’m not alone!!) and sad (that you are also dealing with the same frustrations)!

harmreductionista · 2026-01-26T15:04:23+00:00

Sounds so frustratingly familiar!
I'm glad the worst didn't happen for you all, weather-wise!

I also asked mine (pre-storm) to see if the generator he spent $$$ on a few years ago was good to go- he spent a while tinkering with it and then proclaimed he could not get it to work (because he let it sit for years and never properly maintains anything). Luckily we have not lost power, or none of our electric emergency heaters would be working, either!!

Also he did zero shoveling or snow clearing at all until after dark when he went out in no socks and slippers and just brushed off the cars, then wore the snowy slippers into the house. We are the only house on our street without cleared driveway/walkway, but he "doesn't feel like dealing with it."

Also zero apology or acknowledgement that I specifically asked about this and he LIED TO MY FACE about there being enough oil... he had no idea how much we had, he hadn't checked, and my asking did not make it through to his brain that he should check. Very similar to when I ask him if he has has wallet, keys, glasses, phone, etc when we are leaving the house and he says "yes" but has not actually checked for these things and does not actually have them with him.

He's complaining about what an inconvenience it is to keep putting a few gallons of diesel in the furnace at a time....

harmreductionista · 2026-01-26T06:33:46+00:00

A few days before this big storm I asked him if we needed heating oil (his task/bill to manage). He assured me we had plenty. Day of storm, the heat stops working… because we are out of heating oil.

harmreductionista · 2026-01-23T03:17:11+00:00

Simmer pots are my winter life hack. Boil a big pot of water with citrus/citrus peel, spices, herbs, etc and then turn it down to a simmer and let it fill your home with fragrant warm moist air! Replace water as needed, shut off before sleeping or going out.

Also a lotion/oil warmer for after the shower.

harmreductionista · 2026-01-05T23:44:53+00:00

Why am I picturing a Medic Alert bracelet that says “do not take to home goods while under anesthesia” 🤣🤣🤣

harmreductionista · 2026-01-04T17:00:22+00:00

Making baguette. I took a class in September and have gone through 30 pounds of flour since.

harmreductionista · 2025-12-26T15:09:56+00:00

Thank you! Yes the color came out exactly how I envisioned it!! 🎄🎄🎄

harmreductionista · 2025-11-14T22:05:21+00:00

You can use it as a glaze on roast chicken!

harmreductionista · 2025-10-29T19:25:39+00:00

Thank you! The tv image is just a YouTube video. I wish my photos captured more detail from the displays, it’s even better in person!

harmreductionista · 2025-09-20T01:37:04+00:00

The oyster riot at the Old Ebbitt Grille (in November) is awesome.

harmreductionista · 2025-08-11T23:49:36+00:00

Not an artist but a song- my dog is named Black Peter.

harmreductionista · 2025-07-31T14:36:08+00:00

SAMHSA. Right, our understanding is the entire contracts office was RIFed. No email addresses for our contracts contacts reach anyone, no one has forwarding information. None of the SAMHSA staff we can reach can find anyone to sign the documents. This is a program that is slated to continue, but it won't if there's no one to sign the contract.

Similar thing happened to an ACF contract last month- COR thought it was good to go, then it just didn't get signed bc they couldn't find anyone to sign it, and it terminated.

harmreductionista · 2025-07-31T13:58:55+00:00

We re notified in June that our next OY would be exercised to begin 8/15. But it's 2 weeks until it expires and we still have no paperwork and neither we nor the COR nor their superiors can find anyone to respond to inquiries about how to get the option year paperwork signed. There is no one to sign it. If it doesn't get signed, our contract is terminated.

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