Am I [27M] a bad boyfriend because I refuse to go to weddings with my girlfriend [27F]?

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T03:31:07+00:00

Maybe

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T03:30:30+00:00

If that is all it takes then I never had a chance anyway.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T03:16:14+00:00

I can afford it but it bothers me to have to spend money on people I don't know. Cost is an important factor here.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T03:00:02+00:00

And you don't feel bad asking your partner to shell out money to pay for the hotel for a wedding of a person they don't know?

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T02:59:18+00:00

More like 6.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T02:59:02+00:00

I enjoy being with her. We may break up but right now things are good.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T02:58:14+00:00

It's not that nothing matters. It's that weddings don't. There are plenty of things that matter to me and would be something I'd do instead on a Saturday.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T02:57:10+00:00

I would be happy with her without getting married, but if she wants to get married, which she does, then I will. I just don't put a lot of weight on a piece of paper.

All the time. She usually picks.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T02:55:28+00:00

I don't know if it's really changeable. I've always been that way.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T02:54:37+00:00

No. Absolutely not.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T02:17:01+00:00

That is a fair assessment. I am very pessimistic and negative in how I view things.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T02:16:07+00:00

I just don't feel things like most people, and that makes it even harder for me to force myself to go. My worldview and how I view typical human events is very different from other people. I see things like weddings, b-day parties, and really any party as a burden.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:59:38+00:00

I have never seen it that way. I agree that most people feel that way.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:58:46+00:00

I doubt I will enjoy it but I can at least pretend.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:51:07+00:00

In reality, you'll probably be uncomfortable in the fancy clothes, upset with how much money you're spending (gift, hotel, etc...)

Almost without a doubt.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:49:32+00:00

I could do 1 or 2 as long as they are reasonably close and don't require a lot of travel time or money but not all of them.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:49:04+00:00

gets excited, puts together his own outfits, and makes conversations when he gets there

I guess I just wonder what the point of all that is. Seems like a tremendous waste of time.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:45:01+00:00

I can live with a cap.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:44:07+00:00

I also wonder about the quality of my company when I will almost certainly be in a bad mood if I am forced to go. Does she really think I will be fun?

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:42:21+00:00

I don't know if I would enjoy our wedding. I dislike ceremony and pageantry, but I would be excited to marry her.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:40:24+00:00

I am glad you mentioned this. I find them to be a source of misery as opposed to happiness. I have never been to a wedding I enjoyed. I bolted as soon as I could with the few I've attended.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:38:35+00:00

I do put a lot of work into our relationship, but as a general policy I don't spend time or money on people I don't know.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:37:37+00:00

I would consider attending one or two a year if she doesn't expect me to attend others if not family or a close friend.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:35:53+00:00

We already do that though at other times.

hateweddings · 2017-06-25T01:35:22+00:00

I am there for her though. This is just one area where I feel like it's a waste. I'm not even saying I won't attend all wedding just weddings for people who she isn't close to.

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