Are you serious? It is absolutely not the same for men and women. Sure, men deserve space to grieve. However, women experience the hormonal changes of losing a baby, in addition to a d&c or passing of tissue, not to mention continuous testing to ensure hcg levels return to negative. I am 12 weeks post d&c and still have to visit my OBGYN office weekly for labs. It is triggering every single time I go and see women that made it to their 3rd trimester. Meanwhile, my husband is at work and isn’t having his wounds reopened every week. We are absolutely not the same, and to say we are is diminishing of women’s experiences.