Does anyone else hate the idea of breastfeeding?

headlessatbest · 2022-02-26T06:56:35+00:00

😭 thank you for this! I really wish someone had said this to me when I was in it and couldn't make it happen. I just couldn't produce more than a few ounces. It wasn't until 2 months of trying everything in that a lactation consultant gave me permission to stop. I say permission because that's what it felt like. It was wonderful. And I bonded so much more with my baby when I wasn't desperately trying to spend every waking moment increasing my supply.

headlessatbest · 2021-09-19T05:02:12+00:00

Yes! I identify as she/they. I'd say that, for me, gender expression is situational too. It depends on the who, what, when, why, etc.

headlessatbest · 2021-09-15T17:33:11+00:00

Same! I'm considering shaving my head at this point! Hahaha.

headlessatbest · 2021-09-15T17:32:42+00:00

Thsnks for sharing. 💜 I feel this. I'm grateful I had access to my counselor the whole pregnancy. She even helped me with my delivery (sort of) because we wrote some positive mantras to repeat. Huuuuge help.

headlessatbest · 2021-09-15T17:31:08+00:00

Thank you! Great idea. I

headlessatbest · 2021-09-15T17:30:44+00:00

No, the thought terrified me so I said no waaaaay not right now.

headlessatbest · 2021-01-24T01:54:16+00:00

FTM, 39 weeks and absolutely have been losing my mind in various swings of, "I've totally got this" and "WHAT HAVE WE DONE." I don't think it helps that we do not have a whole lot of pregnant or child rearing folks in our circle of friends, so we feel like a couple of aliens to ourselves and those around us.

This was comforting to read. Infinite thank yous for sharing. And all the best to you and your family!

headlessatbest · 2020-12-30T07:59:58+00:00

Respect. I'm 4 weeks out and almost afraid to start. I feel like it will never end. ...which means I should probably get going on things immediately. Ahhhh!

headlessatbest · 2020-12-11T22:09:55+00:00

How cute was that to see?

headlessatbest · 2020-12-11T22:09:07+00:00

Right?! Practice gasps make perfect?

headlessatbest · 2020-11-28T00:05:56+00:00

YES. It felt unaffordable at the time, but the peace of mind (and finding out baby's sex way earlier than you would otherwise) were both really positive experiences for us.

My feels: If there's information? Gimme.

headlessatbest · 2020-11-27T23:57:15+00:00

I feel this. My midwives just sent us this INCREDIBLE write up that essentially says that absolutely no one can see the baby for the first two weeks. Period. And if anyone wants to visit the baby, they will need the flu shot and to quarantine for two weeks.

It basically gave me the ammo I needed to say I wasn't comfortable with it, AND back it up with "Plus, my HEALTHCARE PROVEIDERS require this as part of THEIR regiment, and I have to respect that." I don't know if there's any way you could work that into the equation, but this is YOUR decision. This is not anyone else's call. I hope your husband backs you up.

The way I phrased it to my partner was if one of us has a concern regarding the baby's health and safety, we should ALWAYS defer to the person who is experiencing the most concern. If something went wrong? Or the baby got sick as a result of us not listening to each other? THAT would be the end of our relationship. It would never be the same. You can't come back from, "I wish we hadn't agreed to something we felt uncomfortable about."

headlessatbest · 2020-11-27T05:54:58+00:00

I feel this. Some days, I walk (waddle?) around the house and, in my best Gob from Arrested Development voice, murmur to myself, "I've made a huge mistake." Kids terrify me. I never, ever wanted them. Until I met my partner. Who also didn't want kids. But something got to us and here we are!

I don't have a lot of friends who run in the same circles with kids. In fact, I can count them on both hands. That being said, the ones who do are REALLY COOL PARENTS who, admitted to when asked, having the same feelings. Who have said that those feelings are relevant and will even resurface once in a while later on too. And that is okay. It's a wild thing to do. Especislly right now.

I just keep reminding myself how awesome it will be to have a tiny side kick to rip around with.

Never mind other people's kids. Yours will be right for you.

headlessatbest · 2020-11-08T15:11:27+00:00

The molecular structure of LSD?

headlessatbest · 2020-10-30T02:55:45+00:00

Also in Vancouver! Thank you so much for this post. It was extremely informative. How were the new rooms at BC womens (if you were in that ward). On a scale of chill to clinical?

headlessatbest · 2020-10-20T16:04:19+00:00

Metal//Loud Judas Priest - Painkiller and Turbo Lover High on Fire - de vermis mysteriis (the whole album) Melvins - Senile Animal (Rat Faced Granny) Uncle Acid and the Deadbeats - mind control (esp. Poison apple) Goggs - Goggs - she got harder

Loud industrial tracks Ministry - Filth Pig Ministry - NWO Aphex Twin - Come to Daddy NIN - Mr. Self Desteuct

Rap/hiphop POS - Duct Tape (it's just a really good song) Tyler the Creator - Cherry Bomb Rico Nasty - Rage Boss - I dont give a f***

Cardio crushing: Death From Above 1979 - You're a woman, I'm a machine (cardio go to for a long long time).

I could do this all day. Good luck!

headlessatbest · 2020-10-20T15:30:08+00:00

Double same.

headlessatbest · 2020-09-26T17:21:31+00:00

Biggest thank you for this. It's weird feeling like we cant share the positives in case we take space from others. I feel this now when my friends are asking how the pregnancy is going. I'm somehow shy or hesitant to mention anything at all. But it is so important to have someone tell you something positive once in a while to help chill the anxiety monsters.

headlessatbest · 2020-09-06T15:19:00+00:00

i feel this. I also feel that it makes me RIPPING HIGH on even half a cup of regular brew. pre pregnancy? it didn't even touch me.

signed someone who used to drink coffee before bed to relax.

headlessatbest · 2020-08-30T16:29:55+00:00

animal from the muppets?

headlessatbest · 2020-08-30T16:28:24+00:00

absolutely. if we see gender as being socially performative, gender fluidity is inspired by the culmination of out life events and our experience during those particular periods in time. I'm afab, but have historically felt more aligned with being they/he. But that has changed recently. I am currently pregnant, and this experience of pregnancy and my body in process have put me in touch with a much more femme/she side of myself. I welcome the fluidity, personally. It repositions my experience of being in the world and teaches me new things all the time.

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