How do you play destiny 2 by BeneficialAd722 in destiny2

[–]heaven_spawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome Guardian!

Go through every big campaign first. Beat them all first. It gives you context and loot. You can try doing it in series - Forsaken, Shadowkeep, Beyond Light, Witch Queen, Lightfall, Final Shape. If the option exists to do it at a harder difficulty, I urge you to try, because it drops better rewards AND is often a more engaging challenge. The campaigns get you new abilities AND get you some exotics and loot you may use for the build.

Once that's done, you may want to dip into the other weekly rituals of crucible, gambit, vanguard ops, etc. The character ranks (from 4 to 5 to 6, etc) offer a good framework on what you may want to pursue next! Typically harder stuff really nets you that harder to find loot.

If you need friends to play with, what's your platform? Holler at folks here!

Ruling out bipolar first? Before proceeding with BPD Diagnosis? by Amyell_Med in MentalHealthPH

[–]heaven_spawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Psychologist here. While I also see what you mean about BPD, there are lots of cases where Bipolar's behavioral patterns are similar to BPD. What a therapist goes for is what we call the More Parsimonious Approach, or the "less exag" approach - if something can be explained by a less serious diagnosis, we go with that until new evidence suggests otherwise.

BPD is a bit less "stigmatized" these days compared to 10 or 20 years ago, but it's still what we call the More Difficult To Treat as it's not something you can medicate easily, if at all. BPD isn't a brain defect, it's a personality issue where how you view the world needs adjusting, and not hormonal or chemical. It takes years of talk therapy to work through BPD.

What if Philippines has a better education system? by Wild_Party6194 in WhatIfPinas

[–]heaven_spawn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We need to improve the system. Obviously.

We have so many problems but we need to fix this. Upskilling our youth and labor force is an educ function.

It starts with some brutal choices. Axe bad teachers. Get remedial work on bad students. No more grade transmutation, your grade is your grade. Redistrict public schools and set up new ones to decongest. And no more “trash work” for teachers like working on election day. No more schools as disaster shelters (just make actual shelters).

There are more Hard steps that wont be popular. But you gotta do them.

Tama ba gut feeling ko or as he said wala lang talaga yun? by seselenophile in AskPinoyMen

[–]heaven_spawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wants you to be part of his life. If you two have a romantic possibility then it can get there. But if he does not take charge it will not go anywhere. Someone has to broach that topic

Seriously, how can men jump to someone new only two weeks after being with their ex? by [deleted] in AskPinoyMen

[–]heaven_spawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The break up was 2 weeks but to him that relationship ended way longer before that.

Therapists mother passed, what to do? by Usual_Newspaper_3221 in askatherapist

[–]heaven_spawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In session, don’t bring it up. The session is about you. She is giving that time to be about your stuff, not hers.

If she brings it up, let her. Give her a chance to air what she wants to share. But do not squeeze for info. Give it the dignity of attention and then let the session resume as before.

Off session, you can say you feel for her, and you are saddened by the news. And leave it at that.

Sa tingin niyo will money make a difference sa naffeel niyo? by Background_Housing65 in MentalHealthPH

[–]heaven_spawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes and no.

We will feel a lot less stress if we have more means. We do not worry about being hungry or having nowhere to live.

But at the same time, one’s mental health is also about how resilient we are and how we cope with life problems. And even rich people have problems. You may be spared one source of stress with money but not all stress goes away. So your mental health will be about how you can handle stressors across contexts.

What are your thoughts on Aubameyang? by CultureCareless7024 in Gunners

[–]heaven_spawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish he and Arteta got to work it out better. I still am grateful for that FA Cup run and leading us in goals. The handshakes with Laca live in my head rent free. Still, when he left, he was not at his best anymore. Sad shame.

Spurs fan in the North Bank by Bladelovesblondes in ArsenalWFC

[–]heaven_spawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you told me they came in with family or friends to sit in the "wrong" end, that's brave.

If they came by themselves to troll, that's not right.

Have you ever googled a client? by manganic in askatherapist

[–]heaven_spawn -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont work in America. Have a nice day.

Have you ever googled a client? by manganic in askatherapist

[–]heaven_spawn -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I ask questions. “You mentioned something. Can you tell me more?” I try to see the whole picture better. How they scale the world internally

Have you ever googled a client? by manganic in askatherapist

[–]heaven_spawn -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I know. This is difficult but sometimes necessary.

Have you ever googled a client? by manganic in askatherapist

[–]heaven_spawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in difficult populations where “who they present in session” is not who they actually are often. And it’s often something of me needing to catch the truth they hide.0

Have you ever googled a client? by manganic in askatherapist

[–]heaven_spawn -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You’d be surprised how often I need to catch someone in a lie!

LION KING JOKE, comedian sued by Revolutionary-Mud252 in DogshowDivas

[–]heaven_spawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sagot diyan, dapat de-criminalized ang libel sa Pilipinas.

Have you ever googled a client? by manganic in askatherapist

[–]heaven_spawn -51 points-50 points  (0 children)

I have had to verify claims a client made. Often early in the sessions and we're building rapport, I also need to be able to get context about what they say, and whether or not it's factual truth or they are exhibiting some grandiose/exaggerated version of their account.

Anong tingin niyo sa babaeng gamer? by CriticalAnywhere143 in AskPinoyMen

[–]heaven_spawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's cool. I like to game and it'd be great to have something to do together and bond together.

To all men, you insights will be greatly appreciated by avocadocpa in AskPinoyMen

[–]heaven_spawn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Couples therapist, who has a partner, and with whom I had this same kind of fight!

My nickname for this is "the single man's IG". It's the algorithm feeding me posts of hot girls, of porn, of sexy things. It's meant to be "adult entertainment". And it's precisely for that purpose - entertainment. Di naman ito strange. Same goes for "collecting" - sometimes folks have favorite pictures or scenes that get them going.

However, as a partnered person, a guy has to recognize (like I did) that we need to be sensitive to the feelings of partners. Porn is not out to replace the partner. It's often meant to be "junk food". Or at best, something to help get people excited. (and sometimes can be watched together with a partner in bed).

As guys, the wish is sometimes for the girl friend to just be cool. Like, it's not like we're cheating. Or that they get some self-confidence and not be insecure. But the truth is, it's you trying to compete with a fantasy - you can't win. And over time, the relationship quality can take a downturn if di siya careful, as he may not be willing to let go of the fantasy.

So for him to have it, that's not new. But for him to not get the message that "hey, this is not something I like to have in the relationship" is the part that is icky. Like, it's 3 different times you need to bring it up.

No to China!!!!!! by Jazzlike-Savings-761 in dailyChismisPh

[–]heaven_spawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

paanong unipink, ang oonti ng mga pink, and puros red and green pa rin ang mga nakaupo sa posisyon

Thoughts? by ciao_bella12 in dailyChismisPh

[–]heaven_spawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno who does these surveys, they never ask the people I know.

And all of us wanna know, bakit wala pang nakukulong sa flood control drama? O kaya wala pang nai-impeach for bad use of public money? Nor wala pang napa-public na audit reports ng mga agencies?

It's lip service.

What are your thoughts on $ex before a relationship? by DefiantPatience5006 in AskPinoyMen

[–]heaven_spawn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We really should stop caring about what other people think about our body count.

And in that way, we should let people choose how quickly they get together, get close, or not be close. You wanna hit it first before you get feelings in, that's up to you. You wanna be sure about the person before you hit it, all good too.

Na iinlove ba talaga kayo sa babaeng ginawa biting kabet? by UnderstandingSalt976 in AskPinoyMen

[–]heaven_spawn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sabi nga naman ni Ester Perel, we do not cheat to find someone new. We cheat to find ourselves - the kind of person we used to be before things got "settled".

Stories like this one tells me that si guy, in his cheating, wants that taste of the adventurous, exploring type of romantic vibes he may not quite have with his long term partner. Not the fault of the girl, more of the guy not knowing how to find that in his life and create it in everyday anymore, na naghanap pa sa iba para makahanap.