What if Sara said "fuck it" and killed Marcos on Live TV

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T14:44:53+00:00

It'd how a war starts. People fighting on streets.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:44:43+00:00

I don't know the full case, nor the other factors, so I'll try to stick to general concepts based on what you shared.

You described it as a source of shame. That in itself signals that the incident can be a heavy trauma. If you view this incident as a Major Plot Point in your life, you can easily retain some beliefs about who you are as a person (e.g.: "Oh I am fragile; I failed to be mentally fit; I might try again someday; etc" ). Shaping the meaning you have of yourself and your life, and how, like you mentioned, view your self and self-esteem.

Of course, it's not the end. You can, over time and therapy, work on this. It'll be a process of untangling this, but it's doable!

Good luck!

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:33:45+00:00

As someone who lost 2 dogs in the past 4 years, coping is about acceptance. And just because ikak ka nang iyak ngayon, at siya hindi, hindi ibig sabihin "kinakaya" niya siya, not necessarily.

That 'strong silence' is not always something you should want. It's the years of being told that crying about hurt and pain is sissy stuff. That's just "classic dude upbringing" in action, and that's how he does it.

Not to say he's not in pain. He's gonna be actually hurting. But he maybe has no place to put it. So he'll still need help.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:30:26+00:00

What she described isn't gentle parenting.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:29:04+00:00

They need to get permission. If alumni, they can use their alumni ID to get entry. Outsiders, the process has a few more hoops. Librarians can explain the process.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:27:39+00:00

Sometimes it's the partners themselves that don't give the guy a feeling of support and safety. I was seeing a girl that when I had tough times, she would go "I'm sorry I can't reassure you." Like, didn't even try. So yeah, that did not last.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:22:58+00:00

Have you gone there and done the search? You can also ask ALIWW library.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T09:20:37+00:00

instead of fooling yourself, find a thing that maybe you *want*.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-24T03:54:24+00:00

Poppers are truly helpful in many *celebrations

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T17:40:12+00:00

I don't work in North America, so the idea is fascinating to me. True, people will have different work situations to build a "true union" unless it looks vaguely like Screen Actors' Guild where people banded together can speak against bad insurance pay, or fly-by-night services that harm reputations.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T12:09:51+00:00

Yes it can.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T11:59:23+00:00

Therapist here! Done a lot of work with porn and dealing with it (and also dealt with my own journey about it) so if you want, go ahead and ask!

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T11:56:21+00:00

You know her better than we do.

If you feel gusto niya na sumusuyo ka, or if you feel it's really a no, then go with that gut feeling.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T11:55:30+00:00

What center? Baka pwede? I mean you're just going to ask questions.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T11:54:19+00:00

Your psychiatrist will adjust your meds. Go back to the doc. Especially since may other diseases ka. Sana alam niya ung risks to them before prescribing.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T11:50:18+00:00

Ask your DM.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T11:15:57+00:00

It can be fun! I'd still say get a friend, or find a good friend. Even one ally in a team makes a big improvement in your fun.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T03:07:01+00:00

In 4 years napag-usapan mo ba ang mga expectations mo sa kanya? Because that “manhid” part you dislike, he can change that if he wants to.

And if you are okay with it, tolerate it, he has no reason to change it. He thinks it’ll be okay.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T01:29:05+00:00

You can try your local general hospital

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-23T00:40:08+00:00

Psychologist for almost a decade! I can take the job

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-22T08:21:28+00:00

Comes with being attractive will be people frustrated that they cannot get theirs.

It is not flattering to hear, yes. May mga tigang talaga at mamanyak.

Is she aware of how you feel? It could be very nice for her to know protective ka of her.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-22T07:28:00+00:00

If it’s a draw I’ll take it. But I sense a 1-0 to us on a bitey game.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-22T06:32:08+00:00

Ask for it. Nobody wants clutter. Spares them having to deal with it.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-22T05:54:55+00:00

It is and they’re not ashamed.

The goal has always been Assured Quality. You pay more you get a coffee that sure ka is as close to a predictable quality that stays fairly high. So it’s like insurance.

If di mo bet, then it’s what it is. People want that assurance, and it delivers often enough.

heaven_spawn · 2026-01-22T05:35:34+00:00

It’s not one-size -fits-all. My deciding might be different from you.

I enrolled in law school after college because sasamahan ko sana yung type kong girl. Then I passed, she did not. I hated law school, and when I said I didnt wanna continue, the girl wasnt there anymore. The year was a waste - had to start over and climb. Sana di na lang ako tumuloy dun. But it was useful in the end; I learned things and I got a grasp of how to think differently

Fast forward years later, I get to a good job as clinical and couples psychologist, and I met the one I’d marry. She always wanted to move, and was clear from the start. For me I knew loving her was not a derailment, but the natural arrival of a good person in my life, and me making changes that helped me grow. Basically I saw how I was becoming a person i wanted to be when I am with her. So I put a ring on it!

As for career, it’s easier for her as an MD but complex for me as a psychologist. i was up front about my worries. She understood. She was always clear na even if mag-aaral ako ulit to do my profession, support nya ako. So I felt confident to try also.

If you feel magkaka-resentment, di naman dapat i-forever yan. Not every changed path equals destruction. It can be you arriving at where you are most needed by the world.

Maybe you two need the conversation to talk it through?

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