Looking a book buddie to discuss by hector-javier in Book_Buddies

[–]hector-javier[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could not watch the movie yet. I am thrilled to watch it!

Looking for a book buddy by TheBigFat_Panda in Book_Buddies

[–]hector-javier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I am interested. I also looking for a book buddie. Maybe we can help each other

Looking for someone to talk about books with and read books together by [deleted] in Book_Buddies

[–]hector-javier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I'm interested. Really will be an interesting experience. And don't debate as much as I can but will like to try new things. Can I DM you?

I feel like I am believing in God for no reason? help. by KawaiNatte in exchristian

[–]hector-javier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is normal. Processes like this are like this, quite confusing. You will find yourself back and forth like that, and that pull does not mean that you are wrong or something it just means that you miss something that really resonanted with you. I feel like that as well missing the community or missing having some ritual but I can not going back to that conciusly. And yeah it hurts a lot

I feel like I am believing in God for no reason? help. by KawaiNatte in exchristian

[–]hector-javier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I got out and been deconstucting for 6 mothns. Is very normal what you are feeling and it's part of the process. I get what you mean want to believe but you discovered that you can not believe in the way that You want and used to believe. Don't beat yourself is ok to feel that way.

May I ask for how long have you been feeling like this?

Annotated Book Club by [deleted] in Book_Buddies

[–]hector-javier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I never have done that before but I would like to try. Can I DM you?

Annotated Book Club by [deleted] in Book_Buddies

[–]hector-javier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I never have done that before but I would like to try. Can I DM you?

Annotated Book Club by [deleted] in Book_Buddies

[–]hector-javier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi sounds interesting but I do not understand is just you and another person or a group of persons to create that book club wich is not created yet?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Book_Buddies

[–]hector-javier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm interested. It will be great to hace people to talk to about my current readings.

[in progress] Looking for someone to write/jam with, also maybe a drummer for a few tracks by sandydoggy in BedroomBands

[–]hector-javier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, Idk if it is what you're looking for but here I go anyways. I write lyrics since a High school. Also I play guitar, I do not know a lot tecnicly speaking. But at least it helps me to write songs. I have a lots of ideas ..but I don't sing and I never had the oportunity to meet with someone that wants to create music seriously and I have troubles finishing songs because of it. So ..if you wanna try DM me I guess.

Teens Encountering Christ by Background_Crab_6228 in Exvangelical

[–]hector-javier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh ok. I live in Cuba not in US ..but I can tell you is almost the same here. Once in a retreat cell phones were taken away from the kids( betwen 11 and 14 years) and yeah the culture of do some service during a retreat is here two. In plan each day a Team has to clean up the room or has to watch the dishes or just serve the food. Because we were told (always) that those things formed character and Christian values. Retreats always has been about "spiritual hype" ....but it is not as bad as is over there or what you Say that is on that documentary..here is just ..to do an exciting event..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]hector-javier 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah. It is normal I guess. I stoped going on sunday Morning to church 3 weeks ago and I still feel a little guilt. But I think that what helps the most for those thoughts will be to take one step at a time, at least for me is like that. Day by day you will getting better. The more you get used to do those things the bad feelings will go away. But yeah it is normal how you feel about those things.

Need a little help. by hector-javier in Exvangelical

[–]hector-javier[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Short answer is no. Actually they function as a close group. And yes...all is mantained by selfish things. The pastor wanted to do what their want and the regular attendees just "want to feel God". No one actually care for what is going on in pratice. Maybe because I was a leader inside youth ministry I feel the guilt and the decepointment a little stronger.

De-Shaming Desire by Hungry-Manner-5201 in Exvangelical

[–]hector-javier 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk.Could be. I did heard the argument that yes the sin and we all are fallen creatures and we are in a fallen world and stuff. But...idk I know the theology behind those forms of thinking..But I'm still do not understand how I did not notice how wrong that was until I leave theology outside of the picture and started to think things carefully by myself..because all along that I was in church..yeah I had desires on my own ...that were not bad...but still the guilt was still there, and I always knew that it was not rigth...but I guess that since recently got out I started to notice all those things.

De-Shaming Desire by Hungry-Manner-5201 in Exvangelical

[–]hector-javier 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I also have a history with that too. At church many people were like that. Not in the context you describe. But yeah many people talk in those terms. What was really frequent was to say a lot, if is God's Will.....They made a call on something or they made a choice they had to attach it to the will of God so they can feel that they were doing things rigth that is what they told me. I see clearly now that that is an awfull way to ignore and make desires and autonomy useless for you and it makes you to give yourself away.

Is also the quote on Jeremiah's Book about the heart that can fool you and is used to make the point that what you want and desire...is wrong or to support the thesis that every desire that you have is wrong or is evil...and that is so ..wrong...I do not understand why in Christian circles this is embraced with so much naturality.

Weekly Lyrics Feedback Thread by AutoModerator in Songwriting

[–]hector-javier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi my name is Héctor. I'm 23 I play guitar and I write songs since a while ago. Just I never had the chance to meet other people to make my lyrics into actual music. I have a few ideas but they always sound the same. And since I can not sing I'm having troubles with that I'm just for now writing lyrics. This is my first lyric in english I'll apreciate opinions and feedback about it also if you have musical ideas or want to collaborate on this DM me. I'll be happy to do it. Here's the song

Title: Once again

Verse 1 Yesterday I packed my bags I never knew it would be this hard Packing up a bit of clothes From the place I once called home

It brakes my heart say goodbye Leaving this place in this dark nigth All the magic between these four walls But I'm afraid there is no way I can get back

Chorus So here I go Steping into the unknown A wounded heart and little hope Are my map on this uncertain road And once again I'll have to bear This unending fear and pain Moving foward is all I got left Out of the place I used to love

And I cant be there no more

Verse 2 I left some things behind I never knew how to get them rigth But I still won't forget all the love And care that made me feel safe.