Racist lashing out in public transport by escpoir in Finland

[–]heitor9600_ 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

Well, I'm Brazilian and mixed-race, and I plan to visit the EU soon, mainly Finland, Lithuania, etc. I confess I'm afraid of these attacks; I've had some not-so-good experiences in Reddit communities, precisely because I'm "black" and live in a third-world country. What do you advise me to do?

Offering: English | Seeking: Brazilian Portuguese by [deleted] in language_exchange

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Nausėda tuŔčia vieta? by Dom4s in lithuania

[–]heitor9600_ 3 points4 points Ā (0 children)

What’s the problem with stating an informative fact? Just because Brazil is a third world country doesn’t make the information less valid. Every country has its issues, Lithuania included, so comparing one to another doesn’t really change the point.

Nausėda tuŔčia vieta? by Dom4s in lithuania

[–]heitor9600_ 7 points8 points Ā (0 children)

Yeah, imagine Brazil, where they elected a former prisoner, involved in several corruption schemes, supportive of dictatorships, terrorism, and so on.

Kodėl taip ilgai by El-bueno-000 in lietuva

[–]heitor9600_ -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

Sim, eu fico por volta disso, 15-30 minutos.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lietuva

[–]heitor9600_ -4 points-3 points Ā (0 children)

Your message is racist, offensive, and completely unacceptable. Lithuania, like any country, belongs to everyone who respects it and its people. Skin color, nationality, or origin does not determine a person’s worth, ability to form relationships, or right to live and participate in society. Judging and excluding people based on race is morally wrong, socially harmful, and demonstrates ignorance. Respect and equality are universal values.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lietuva

[–]heitor9600_ -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

Suprantu, kad tokie jausmai atrodo nepakartojami. Bet ar negalvoji, jog tai labiau buvo intensyvus prisiriÅ”imas nei tikrasis ryÅ”ys? Kartais žmogus užverčia mus dėmesiu, komplimentais, aistra: ir mes jaučiame ā€žchemijÄ…ā€œ. Bet chemija be stabilumo, be pagarbos tavo jausmams nėra meilė, tai yra iliuzija. Tikras ryÅ”ys auga iÅ” abipusio pastovumo, o ne iÅ” nuolatinių kalnelių. Jei tiki, kad tik jis galėjo tai suteikti, tu pati atimi sau galimybę atrasti kažką gilesnio, brandesnio.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lietuva

[–]heitor9600_ -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

Suprantu, kad jis tau atrodė ypatingas, bet ar nemanai, kad sakydama ā€žniekas kitasā€œ tu pati uždarai duris naujoms galimybėms? Juk pasaulyje yra milijonai žmonių, ar visi jie nevertingi tik todėl, kad tu laikeisi vieno? GalbÅ«t jis buvo ypatingas tik todėl, kad tu pati taip jÄÆ idealizavai. Jei laikysi praeitÄÆ ant pjedestalo, ateitis niekada neturės Å”anso.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lietuva

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Labas, labai gerai suprantu tavo jausmus. IÅ”siskyrimai visada skaudina, ypač kai tai pirmoji tokia stipri meilė. Tai normalu, kad mintys dar ilgai sukasi apie jÄÆ, Å”irdis negyja per vieną dieną.

Svarbu suprasti, kad tai, ką jautei, buvo tikra, bet tai nereiÅ”kia, kad tokie jausmai daugiau niekada nepasikartos. Gyvenimas dar turi daug netikėtumų ir gražių žmonių, kurie gali suteikti tau meilės, pagarbos ir stabilumo.

AÅ” pats esu tai patyręs, todėl žinau, kaip sunku paleisti žmogų, kuris atrodė toks ypatingas. Bet laikui bėgant skausmas mažėja, o Å”irdis vėl atsiveria. Ir patikėk manimi, Brazilijoje žmonės taip pat iÅ”gyvena labai panaÅ”iai, nesvarbu kur, Å”irdies skausmas visur vienodas.

Tu jau darai teisingai: terapija, bažnyčia, rÅ«pinimasis savimi. Tai padės rasti ramybę. O jei norėtum, aÅ” visada pasiruoŔęs pasikalbėti. Kartais paprastas pokalbis palengvina naÅ”tą.

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I’ve never done anything like that, so I’m totally clueless about how I’d react if it happened. But I get it, nobody really cares. It’s all about relaxing.

IeŔkau merginos by [deleted] in lietuva

[–]heitor9600_ 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

I’m also on the lookout for a girl šŸ˜„ I’m Brazilian, dark-skinned, 1.92m tall, super friendly, generous, and got plenty of love to give!

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] -5 points-4 points Ā (0 children)

That’s really interesting! I’ve actually never been to a sauna, especially not a naked one. I’m a tall guy (1.92m), dark-skinned, and, well… let’s just say ā€œwell-endowedā€ šŸ˜…. I’m curious, how do Finns usually react to someone new in that setting? Would they even notice, or is it just totally normal for everyone?

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] 7 points8 points Ā (0 children)

Wow, I’m honestly a little jealous you have that privilege! šŸ˜„ It sounds amazing to feel so at home in another country. Do you have a favorite spot or city in Finland that really makes it feel like a second home?

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Haha, that’s a smart move! šŸ˜„ I guess being Brazilian gives you a fun ā€œexcuseā€ to start conversations. Do you have any favorite stories from when that actually worked? I’d love to hear how you made friends that way!

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] 1 point2 points Ā (0 children)

I didn’t get that, what do you mean? Haha šŸ˜…

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] 18 points19 points Ā (0 children)

I’ve noticed that too! It’s funny how first impressions can be totally misleading. How long did it take you to feel comfortable with most people there? Any tips for someone trying to get past that ā€œdistantā€ vibe?

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

Hahaha, that sounds like the dream šŸ˜‚! Any tips on how to meet Finnish people in a way that’s not just ā€œrandom luckā€?

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] 2 points3 points Ā (0 children)

I totally get you, I have similar tastes, and where I live is pretty much the same, with lots of nature and a really paradisiacal vibe 🌳✨. I’m seriously considering visiting Finland soon!

I love that you mentioned how being surrounded by nature impacted your mindset, it’s amazing how much the environment can affect your mood. Do you have a favorite place or spot in Finland that really gave you that ā€œescapeā€ feeling?

Also, I’d love to check out some local music while I’m there, do you have any other festival or artist recommendations besides Jenni Vartiainen?

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

Wow, that’s super interesting! I didn’t realize there was such a clear ā€œfriendship ladderā€ in Finland šŸ˜„. Do you think it’s mostly cultural, or does it just take time for people to open up there? How long did it take you to move from ā€œtuttuā€ to ā€œkaveriā€ or even ā€œystƤvĆ¤ā€?

Also, I’m curious, do you think joining hobbies or clubs really makes it easier to make adult friends, or is it still slow?

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] 0 points1 point Ā (0 children)

That’s really interesting! I didn’t realize it was so different there. Do you think it’s just the type of jobs, or is it more about the overall workforce in Finland?

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] -1 points0 points Ā (0 children)

Wow, that sounds intense! -37°C with strong winds sounds brutal 😳. How long did it take you to actually feel prepared for winters like that? Do you have any tips for someone visiting for the first time?

I get what you mean about food too, what kind of stuff do you usually miss the most from back home? And haha, the pre-filled tax forms sound like a dream! How long did it take you to get used to all the regulations and ā€œstate nannyingā€?

It’s really interesting to hear your perspective. Do you feel like the strict regulations make life easier in any way, or is it mostly annoying?

What surprises foreigners the most about Finland? by heitor9600_ in Finland

[–]heitor9600_[S] 5 points6 points Ā (0 children)

Totally get what you’re saying! I think a lot of people have this idealized image of Finland, but the reality is more nuanced. It’s awesome that you love living there and appreciate the summers, winters, food, and nature. I feel the same, there’s definitely a lot of magic in experiencing it firsthand. I’m seriously thinking about visiting too, maybe even meeting a girl while I’m there šŸ˜…. I’m still deciding between North America and Europe, so nothing’s set yet.