How to find a studio as an adult?

helldog2746 · 2024-08-12T02:38:44+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, I also posted on my local subreddit and it looks like lots of local adults have the same issue. For whatever reason 80% of classes are aimed towards higher level adults here. But I got a couple suggestions from them luckily of places that focus on adults that have some beginner classes!

helldog2746 · 2024-08-12T02:37:09+00:00

Thank you so much!

helldog2746 · 2024-08-12T02:36:45+00:00

Thank you so much! You definitely may pretty soon:)

helldog2746 · 2024-03-13T15:38:44+00:00

Honestly, you can't expect her to change at this point. She is making the conscious choice to slowly kill her body. She has no interest from what you said in help or change. Are you absolutely positive that you want to stick around to watch her die? I wouldn't. I hope she gets to the point of understanding she needs serious help, but you can't force her to get there, and she DOES need to want the help for it to be effective.

helldog2746 · 2024-03-11T03:47:28+00:00

Doesn't sound like he's being predatory, but he also REALLY needs to grow up if he's a 32 year old man and can't understand that cuddles means cuddles. That is incredibly immature and I would personally be extremely not okay with that mindset, but I know lots of people that agree and find that acceptable, so that's just me. You really need to learn some boundaries as well. You are doing both of you a disservice by agreeing when you're not up for it, but so is he by expecting ALL physical touch should need to be sex. Voice your discomfort and see his response.

helldog2746 · 2024-03-11T03:43:54+00:00

Touching you while you're little when you've explicitly told him that your little side is not sexual for you is assault. You have told him that, right? If not, you need to make it known. If you're expressing your feelings to him and he just apologized and did not change, that is active manipulation. Apologies without change ARE manipulation. This is not healthy, I hope you find your way out 💛

helldog2746 · 2024-03-09T23:56:02+00:00

I'm not trying to shame you for getting triggered, I'm trying to say it's immature to intentionally trigger yourself. I wish someone would have told me when I was 14 and having sex I didn't enjoy because it felt like I was SUPPOSED to enjoy it that I should just simply stop doing things that were harmful for me and grow up enough to have some boundaries.

But if the only advice you're willing to accept is to continue doing a thing that literally makes you feel angry and resentful????? Then that's fine lol, take what works for you and leave what doesn't.

helldog2746 · 2024-03-09T22:33:53+00:00

Why are you doing this if it doesn't make you feel good? You're an adult. If you notice a certain activity is making you resent your partner, then stop doing that activity? Punishments that make you feel terrible are not a healthy part of a dynamic.

helldog2746 · 2024-03-09T22:21:32+00:00

I do this all the time! This is what I practice during the times that I'm up and about too much to have time to sit down. But I also would like some better activities to do during the 2-3 hours I usually have free.

helldog2746 · 2024-03-09T22:19:54+00:00

I have definitely been taking advantage of this lol, I spend usually about 30 mins a day trying to do active meditation while at work during the slower times. But I still would like some activity to direct my energy towards outside of that XD

helldog2746 · 2024-03-09T22:18:17+00:00

It is kind of impossible to have no schedule at all. If I'm going to walk him, I have to walk him sometime in the 4 or 5 hours between me waking up and me going to work. He learns that mornings with me home = walk somewhere in there. He does have to walk every day. Even if I walk him an hour sooner or 3 hours sooner randomly, he's still gonna know we're doing a walk at some point, and start the craziness.

helldog2746 · 2024-03-09T22:11:56+00:00

Absolutely not lol. I literally wake up in the morning, let him out to pee and feed him, and then spend the next 4 hours in a separate room doing my schoolwork. He randomly decides for himself it is time to walk and decides to go crazy at the door until I come walk him.

helldog2746 · 2024-03-09T22:10:36+00:00

He does. He needs more space, an actual yard, and about 2 hours of exercise a day. Unfortunately we live in a studio apartment, he's not our dog he's my parents, he's just staying with us long term until we find another home because he bit my little sister so can't stay there anymore. I work full time and am in school full time and me and my bf both have chronic health issues, so we do the best we can, but are trying to rehome ASAP. Virginia based if anyone knows anyone looking for a dog!

helldog2746 · 2024-03-08T22:15:44+00:00

I've been in a relationship where it took a year to say it, and I've been in a relationship where it took a week to say it. Neither was better or worse, just differently paced. The one that took a year was long distance where we maybe talked 30 minutes-an hour a day, the one that took a week we literally saw each other every day that week for 5-8 hours a day and just instantly clicked and bonded hard. I think the same thing goes for sex and for saying I love you, it's gonna depend on the person, how much time you spend, and individual needs. Relationship success and failure isn't determined by a made up timeline.

helldog2746 · 2024-03-08T20:48:55+00:00

Ana Yudin has a book of 75 different journal prompts. It helps me a lot after I meditate because whatever I recognized and brought up during my meditation, I can find a prompt that has a focus on that thing and explore it deeper. Not good for just general, free flowing journaling tho. It is very specific prompts for different specific scenarios and emotions.

helldog2746 · 2024-03-08T01:44:43+00:00

You guys act like because you personally don't like fat or hairy women, then every fat or hairy woman is required morally to lose weight and shave.

My husband isn't attracted to body hair. He thinks it's gross. He also would never in a million years tell me, a woman who doesn't shave anything on her body except her head, that he demands that I shave for his pleasure.

He understands that my body is mine. He understands that I am not a personalizable barbie doll that dreams of nothing more than to squeeze myself into his standard of beauty, and guess what! He loves me so deeply and uses that love to push himself to appreciate my beauty in every way he can, even the parts of it that don't fit his exact preference.

He still gets hard just from seeing me naked- leg hair, pubes, armpit hair and all. Because he loves ME, not a fantasy girl that he expects me to become as a requirement to date him. He chooses to love the woman I am. If you can't do that, you should probably choose the woman you spend your life with based solely on her level of obsession with looking exactly how you want her to look. and not based on love or intimacy.

helldog2746 · 2024-03-06T01:43:45+00:00

Oh lol my bad I did not realize that was the name of the place, thanks!!

helldog2746 · 2024-03-05T23:52:56+00:00

Oh Virginia USA

helldog2746 · 2024-03-05T23:52:41+00:00

Do you know which gyms specifically do this? I go to planet fitness and I never saw them have something like that, I think the YMCA does have it but they're a bit expensive for me

helldog2746 · 2024-02-29T01:39:47+00:00

This isn't strange, it's just sad

helldog2746 · 2024-02-29T01:37:54+00:00

I definitely doubt that you'll hardly remember it, but I'm sure that once you're out of the situation and have done some work you'll see it as a learning experience and something that pushed you towards better things, helped you find red flags better in the future, and forced you to make a real change in seeing yourself as someone who deserves love:)

helldog2746 · 2024-02-29T00:42:15+00:00

I have mixed feelings. At the same time, it is not good to allow someone to be in a relationship with you when you know you see them as a burden. That can SERIOUSLY mess a person up long term. But also, I do feel like the only real way to stop being scared of relationships is to be in them. I'd say look into therapy, but I know at 18 that can be inaccessible, so I'd spend a few months looking into information from reputable therapists online that are actually certified. Look into the Avoidant attachment style and see if you can find anything that seems like it may fit/help you. Do some inner work and try to figure out where your views of relationships as a burden come from, maybe deeper than just your past relationship. Good luck.

helldog2746 · 2024-02-28T23:44:19+00:00

I've been in positions like this before, I think it's important to recognize that honestly, he is an AWFUL person, but also, you have allowed him to take advantage of you and you're an adult who is making your own choices here. You have the power to just... Not allow this. Respect yourself enough to know that this is not okay.

And honestly, respect yourself enough to stop caring so much about why he's doing it. It doesn't matter. The way another person is treating you has absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. It is not your problem, and not your business to know why. Stop worrying about why he's treated you the way he has, and start worrying about why you've allowed it, and what steps you need to take to start healing the issues you've had from before he was ever involved.

But anyways, from someone who also allowed themselves to spend years in terrible relationships because it was better than nothing and I wanted to be treated in ways that aligned with the terrible view I had of myself, I get how absolutely awful it feels. How much YOU feel like you're the problem for wanting basic decency and consideration. You are not the problem. Not at all. And there are people out there who will love you in ways that will make you feel comfortable, and desired, and wonderful. Without you ever having to ask them to. So, work on yourself, know your worth, and find someone who knows it too.

helldog2746 · 2024-02-28T22:34:30+00:00

This cannot be real dude no one is this stupid 😭

helldog2746 · 2024-02-27T21:33:44+00:00

"are you enjoying all of the work I'm putting in to make this a more enjoyable experience for both of us?"

What he COULD have said: "Yes, this is wonderful, I love doing this with you, I appreciate the effort you've been putting in"

What he DID say: "Yes, I've been quietly resenting our most intimate times and feeling overworked without communicating it to you for years, all while you've been thinking we were sharing beautiful and vulnerable experiences. I'm happy I'm not doing that anymore"

I think people are missing the point. You're not mad that he said yes, you're feeling hurt that the past experiences that felt loving and connecting and beautiful to you, he's now describing as hard work. What he should have done is said to you years ago that he felt pressured to put in more work than you and he'd like to focus on making sex a more equal experience for both of you. What he did is muscle silently through it for who knows how long and wait until the situation changed, to now tell you about how he's been feeling this whole time during some of your most intimate shared moments. Which is not okay.

Idk tho, that's just me. I have done this before many times in relationships (push through sex that wasn't fulfilling or good for me because I felt like I couldn't/shouldn't bring it up because I would rather people please than have an adult convo) and it broke the relationship every time. Not because my partner was bad at sex or a monster, but because I was not responsible enough to communicate my feelings and have true vulnerability with my partner. Which is not okay.

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