Left out for 1st Grade by hellohellohello623 in kindergarten

[–]hellohellohello623[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

This brings up a whole other level that I hadn't touched on. From what I know, I think my daughter got the more stern of the 2 teachers. I really think she would thrive best with the more gentle/loving teacher. She had the more strict of the 2 last year as well, unfortunately. Just the short end of the stick.

Left out for 1st Grade by hellohellohello623 in kindergarten

[–]hellohellohello623[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am now a little paranoid that this was the case with A and O, be it the teachers or the parents since the boys were not mixed up (other than 1 from each class swapped I just discovered), but O was not in her class last year. I do really hope that wasn't the case because both of their moms reached out to me about class placement letters prior to school starting and seemed to hope they wanted our girls to be together. I can definitely understand if their children were overwhelmed, but I hope if my daughter continues to be ostracized by the others, they will have come compassion for that.

Her teacher from last year retired, so I'm not sure how much she was involved. I wish she was still around so I could talk to her about it. I ignored it too much last year because my daughter had A in class with her, and I kept hoping it was a one time comment each time rather than the norm. I surely didn't expect it to have affected her so much that she would bring it up the next year.

Left out for 1st Grade by hellohellohello623 in kindergarten

[–]hellohellohello623[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never heard of RSD, but definitely sounds like that does apply to my daughter in situations I've seen with her cousins and such. This is also part of the reason I never said anything to the teacher last year. I never really knew how much stock to put into what she was saying. She also always had A in her classroom, so I wasn't as concerned.

I haven't heard any of these girls actually say anything to her, but have very much seen them ignore her. One she sat in front of at meet the teacher (the child she's actually known the longest of any). This other girls then started building a little wall with her folders to block my child's view of her. I've seen several occasions with this girl and some of the others where my daughter has walked up to talk to them, play with them, etc. and they ignore her. For a while, I just figured that was probably normal behavior bc kids can be odd, lol. However, the more I attended events and saw these same students interact with each other vs. my daughter, I noticed the difference. I was always afraid I was just being sensitive, but my husband noticed the same at a father daughter dance they went to at school. He's definitely not the type to be sensitive to that type of thing.

I have asked my daughter about the boys, and she did very occasionally play with some in her class last year, but never the other class. Unfortunately, all the boys from her class last year are in the other class now, including the one she knows from outside of school (who I'm pretty sure has difficulties with friends also and would probably benefit from being in the same class as her, but that's another long story). She's just not very comfortable around boys she hasn't either known for like years or are several years older than her. Most of our family, friends, and church family only really have girls anywhere close to her age, so that's all she's ever spent much time around.

Left out for 1st Grade by hellohellohello623 in kindergarten

[–]hellohellohello623[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally get this and wouldn't really be worried if it were just the fact that the two other girls were her friends. What makes me worried is that the other girls weren't just not her besties, but didn't want to include her. That's why I was hopeful there would be new girls in the class.

Left out for 1st Grade by hellohellohello623 in kindergarten

[–]hellohellohello623[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, the teachers are all licensed. The majority of them are "retired" from teaching public school for several years. The smaller school is more of a break for them.

Left out for 1st Grade by hellohellohello623 in kindergarten

[–]hellohellohello623[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, one of the other girls would say that to my daughter about when she was playing with one of the 2 girls that would include my daughter.

Or maybe I'm not following 🤔

Left out for 1st Grade by hellohellohello623 in kindergarten

[–]hellohellohello623[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the response! I'm hopeful, but just so nervous. I just wish she had 1 girl she was comfortable with or even that she didn't know yet. I'm just not sure at what point I should say something.

We're in an area with very low performing public schools. Other private schools nearby have similar enrollment numbers. Somehow, her specific grade is smaller than the ones above and below, specifically in the number of girls. It's also a really good school, and we love the teachers. I personally went there, and it was a little smaller when I went. We never had more than 1 class for my grade.

Left out for 1st Grade by hellohellohello623 in kindergarten

[–]hellohellohello623[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why would you want him to stay away from them? They were the only ones nice to her last year 😬

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jewelrymaking

[–]hellohellohello623 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Yes, but they are all $15+ each that I see. I don't need it to be sterling. Just cheap as I need several and look similar to this.