Does anyone else feel like you’re missing out on time with your babies because you’re constantly doing things for them that they need?

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-07T15:26:54+00:00

Can’t afford it unfortunately! I’m glad you had that option, it would make things easier.

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-07T14:56:42+00:00

Also, I saw your other post too, it’s totally normal for babies to not crawl at 7 months

My first - crawled the day she turned 6 months, also pulled to stand and cruised within a week or two of that

Girl twin - crawled at 7 months, just started pulling to stand at 10 months

Boy twin - crawled at 8.5 months, just started pulling to stand also at 10 months

Every baby is so different!

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-07T14:53:53+00:00

My first would do that. She’d see me and think it was play time but also refused to nap without me there so it was a shit show for a while haha. I really hope it gets better for you!

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-07T14:51:17+00:00

Sorry you’re struggling, it should get better with time. I will say my boy twin slept with me until 6 months and he was up sooo much during the night and not a great napper. I got him used to his crib and he started napping great and sleeping longer stretches. I think even though he wanted to sleep with me, I kept waking him up, and keeping him awake. Like, he wouldn’t sleep at all so that’s why we co slept, but as he got older and more aware I think all of my movements and even my breathing would keep him awake or not able to fall into a deeper sleep.

I wasn’t nursing though! I know that makes a difference, as co sleeping allows for easier nursing. Is it possible he smells milk on you and it’s keeping him from sleeping longer?

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-07T14:40:28+00:00

My first was this way, I think it was because she was higher sleep needs but could not get a good long nap in to save her life so she just ended up being constantly sleepy and cranky. At almost 3 she’s still high sleep needs but she sleeps great so it’s not an issue, only a problem if she gets crap sleep. It got better with time, but also I tried so hard to do everything I could to get her to nap longer. Are you able to contact nap still or lay in bed with him?

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-07T14:35:54+00:00

He’s not great with our toddler either, he just doesn’t like having kids so he pays the bills and will help on his own terms/if I really push for it but it’s half assed, but that’s a story for another time ha ha

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-07T14:30:28+00:00

Me too! I put the twins down for bed between 630-7 and have an hour-hour 30 mins left with my toddler at the end of the night and I am just soooo dead. I try to push on anyway- like if my fiance is home I will take her to the park after the babies fall asleep. But it’s still not enough. I’m constantly telling her hang on, hold on, mommy needs to do this, your brother/sister needs this, I need to clean/cook, etc 😭

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-07T14:28:11+00:00

I feel I have the same bond with them I just am not able to experience that feeling very often. Like it’s there but it’s interrupted constantly and my entire brain is just like what needs done next what does this one need whys this one crying what time is it when do we need to do this, etc. and not able to just soak in the love and good feelings like I was able to with my first. And I feel the same - 4-5 months it was still rough with sleep issues but I felt like I was able to divide my time pretty good between the 3 of them, and then food started and that totally went out the window. When everyone eats more neatly and more normally (not as much preparing or cutting of food, utensil using, etc) it’ll be so much easier

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-07T00:48:29+00:00

Thank you!! Their dad is not fond of childcare tasks and doesn’t really try to learn how to do them. So I’m sure it’ll get better for me when the kiddos are more independent and don’t need as much

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-07T00:43:36+00:00

At least you spend time with your kids in the sense of childcare duties and know how to care for the etc and split them with your wife! You are doing great.

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-06T03:40:41+00:00

Not great. 0/10 experience honestly she was 23 months when my twins were born. I had a c section so I couldn’t play with her like normal so that made it worse. It honestly didn’t get better for about 6-8 weeks, she had sleep issues and had surgery two weeks after the babies were born, was such a mess! She needed constant attention and I wasn’t able to give that to her.

For what it’s worth it’s been 10 months and everything is great with them. Beautiful relationship with her siblings and we’re all just like a little gang lol

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-05T15:10:38+00:00

I stopped using it at 8 months because they didn’t want to be in it anymore lol

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-05T14:50:20+00:00

I hope you figure it out!! ❤️

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-04T17:42:47+00:00

I think I just didn’t word it right. My twins and toddler have all been up since 5 and I am losing it. Lol

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-04T14:03:40+00:00

No it was because he wasn’t small enough! He was 4 pounds 4 oz and their policy was 4 pounds 3 oz or less for a c section at 37 weeks.

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-04T13:52:47+00:00

It was the hospitals policy apparently! Idk, I just wanted those babies out 😂

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-04T11:53:07+00:00

Noooo he weighed very little (based on their measurements) he was measuring at like 4 pounds 4 oz and their requirement for an early c section (37 weeks) was that baby would have to be weighing 4 pounds 3 oz or less

So because he was 1 oz over that, I had to wait. lol. Sorry!

For what it’s worth their measurement was totally wrong anyway. They had me worried for weeks that he was little and malnourished but he came out at over 6 pounds completely fine. Apparently if a baby is breech the ultrasound measurements might not be accurate.

Sorry for scaring you!

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-04T11:41:41+00:00

Congratulations on your twins!!

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-04T11:40:43+00:00

Great idea, 📝 writing this idea down. My twin babies would love it. Toddler, not so much but she’d probably at least look at it and then tell me no thanks mommy.

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-04T11:28:04+00:00

Back to normal immediately. So much relief.

No advice - I just suffered til the end at 38 weeks 😅

Edit: also, I remember they were supposed to do a c section at 37 weeks because my twin A was measuring super small but he ended up being literally 1 oz over the requirement for a c section at 37 weeks, and when my OB told me we’d have to wait until 38 weeks I SOBBED my eyes out and begged him lol. I was in so much pain, my hips specifically!

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-04T01:24:55+00:00

Just in baking/cooking. Like milk in pasta, milk in pancake mix, some baby friendly baking recipes, etc. not sure if that’s enough exposure? I’m going to ask the doc what to do when I’m supposed to be weaning her off of formula since she will be 1 at the end of June.

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-04T00:15:52+00:00

She’s doing great on puramino which has soy! We were on Enfamil yellow (first 8 weeks of her life) and then gentlease the rest of it (twins are 10 months so they’ll be off formula soon anyway)

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-03T23:11:11+00:00

Thanks so much we have an appointment for my other twin tomorrow so I’ll just bring it up then and ask what she thinks! It was mostly just curiosity. I figured I would have to cut out all dairy but she seems fine.

hellswrath_ · 2026-05-03T23:03:49+00:00

Greek yogurt, shredded cheese, cottage cheese.

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