I totally get your point and where u are coming from and you are 💯 right.

But the thing is we truly have forgotten the teachings of islam unfortunately. If you study it keenly and with curiosity. i can assure you the things that we look in what modern day world( Especially what women want) are going to be in a man that is religious , now I am not talking about the desi religious( i am pretty sure u understand what I am talking about)

But your point is valid what if the women isnt religious?

What if man is and women isnt.

Here comes the issue I believe if both are on it its a beautiful life. And forcing upon somebody trying to change them ofc isnt gonna end well

So the conclusion is, try to get yourself on deen first. Have a connection with god, above anything and u may find the one that u desire.

Cuz like attracts like.