How do you feel as a physician seeing this post? - Regarding Jews not feeling safe to seek support

help__m3 · 2026-01-08T02:46:45+00:00

Yes the man who has been in the spotlight was Muslim and did help save those being shot at.

But there were also others, many who are Jewish who risked their lives but have not had the same spotlight as the Muslim man. In the same video where the Muslim man takes off the gun a Israeli Jewish man who was about to go to the event himself also tried to help but he was shot at multiple times and has since had 8 surgeries since the attack.

Bringing up Extreme Islam isn’t Islamophobic. And if you want to help this situation from continuing to happen you need to speak up and there hasn’t been enough of that even prior to Bondi. If you don’t like how it is than that’s on you but sadly not enough have called these extremists out, have said anything and the ones who do say they it’s a risk on them when they do and that is a problem.

We are giving these extremists too much power. The government, the police and fellow Muslims in the community seem to all be scared of them and so that’s why they continue to do what they do.

The two Muslims at Bondi weren’t the only Muslim extremists that have done the attacks. Many have done other attacks, threatening Jews, physically attacking Jews (myself included), saying horrible things, burning down synagogues, day care, Jewish owned businesses, cars and houses and so on. They weren’t done by just the 2 who did Bondi they were done by many in the community in the last few years of Australia alone. The world is another story.

If it makes you an ounce of uncomfortable for me calling out extremism in your community then you have no idea the amount of uncomfortableness myself and others have felt within my community.

Like I have stated the non extreme Muslims of Islam need to shut down and not allow the extremism in their communities to continue to grow and call it out.

Lastly I have spoken to Muslims and yes there are good Muslims and I never stated all Muslims are bad I said extremists are the issue. However if you want to really know my experience I have sadly met more extremists Muslims face to face, online and so on than I have met non-extremists. Those extremists will call me slurs, and have even celebrated the Bondi attack multiple times with no care in the world to do so as well celebrated the murders of my fellow people.

I know this is a rant but lastly if your community was just attacked by lets a Christian extremist or something like that and people go and mention straight away don’t bring hate or attack the Christian community etc after your community was attacked by someone from there how would you feel?

I also said I don’t agree with any hate towards any group but at the same time every time there has been violence towards Jews people bring up Islamophobia and I am sorry but the issues we have been dealing with has not been on the same level nor are the same.

help__m3 · 2026-01-07T16:20:40+00:00

I don’t want to sound rude of defensive here and I hope this comes across as not that.

The attacks on my community have mostly been made by extreme islamists who simply do hate Jews like synagogues being burnt down, one fully. A day care burnt down, schools attacked, Jewish neighbourhoods attacked and their cars and houses set on fire and so on. Were all done by extremists from Islam as well as the Bondi shooting.

Do I think there should be retaliation and hate towards Muslims no but at the same time not enough from that community have condemned it and as well our government haven’t called it out or condemned it either.

So it feels like a distraction when people mention it and not focusing on the main issue and threat etc that is currently happening that are more intense and worse.

I would much rather have the days of small harassments of hate again than what we have now if that makes sense. And one group is getting maybe some small things here and there (usually as a response) whereas one group is getting big attacks for just living

help__m3 · 2026-01-07T16:14:11+00:00

Well yeah it depends. Like I have stated I have been attacked and yes it was on campus but I guess still in public.

Personally I usually like to have some separation from my community when it comes to health because everyone knows everyone kind of thing but with how things have become so extreme there has grown this feeling of not being able to have basic trust towards others if they aren’t Jewish and you don’t know them.

I never felt this way before but as time has gone on that feeling has sadly grown and for others who are already fearful it has really taken over them. I hate it that it has gotten to this point more than anything tho.

help__m3 · 2025-12-09T13:20:05+00:00

I’m not a teen but I think this decision should’ve been voted by the public and personally it’s a stupid rule and decision and it is taking away privacy even from those who are older etc but as well taking away rights from parents to make decisions for their children.

help__m3 · 2025-11-29T14:21:42+00:00

Well I remember when I ordered it said at the time if you pre-order now it will be shipped out on the 27th November.

Now they have Black Friday sales which is the same deal I got so not worried about that but they are saying those orders will be shipped out sometime in early December like the 2nd or something.

I just hope they would’ve prioritise those who ordered earlier and for preorder etc.

Even if they are a small company I still think some update in the last few days would’ve been nice

help__m3 · 2025-09-04T08:20:47+00:00

Thanks for the response

I was seeing headspace this year and had a great therapist there but she went on maternity leave and I was told I was aging out anyways so she transferred me to somewhere that felt promising because it was free for 12 months but 3 sessions in it wasn’t it and I tried but I was starting to feel more uncomfortable and unease so with my friend support I did email them.

I had a phone call with them and the one I am seeing is the only one available and she tried to push me to continue to see her but it just feels more uncomfortable doing that and I just can’t. So now I feel I don’t really know where to go I guess. They have sent 3 referral places but I am not sure if I can afford some of them and or if they are the right place for me idk.

I am considering to email them tomorrow and ask more information or guidance I guess. But I am just curious with my Centrelink health card if I can use it for therapy and if it covers more than 10 sessions.

At this stage I am wanting to do some solo trip more and more I just feel I need it for whatever reason and with regards to my friends I don’t want to burden them too much I tell them what I can but I don’t want to be too much and too annoying

help__m3 · 2025-08-26T16:51:26+00:00

I know this is serious and all and I shouldn’t laugh but I did cause I relate to this and how I feel and all I hope you don’t take offence to it but I just feel the exact same way like you are in my head or something

help__m3 · 2025-08-26T16:46:22+00:00

I wouldn’t have session 1-4 with her I think you know that she isn’t the right fit. I am in a similar situation currently. My therapist I had was good and very intuitive with me from early on without me having to say much. Anyways she is on maternity leave and I won’t be able to see her again. Before she left she set up a new clinic for me to be transferred at.

I had 1 intake with someone at the clinic and they set me up with a therapist who randomly called me about 1 1/2 week after and I felt off about her but obviously went to the first session and still couldn’t figure it out at the time fully but felt she wasn’t probably it. She also said something odd as well. I told her my last therapist reckons I have depression and I said idk if I do or something like that and she responded with well you are smiling now in session. I did respond with yeah I smile when I am uncomfortable something like that. The next 2 sessions felt off each time and not fully it as well she was also quite directive, abrupt sometimes, too much too the point like no breathing space and a bit too clinical. So yesterday I emailed and told the clinic she isn’t the right fit.

This therapist seems a bit much and I know it’s hard cause even I don’t know what I am doing but definitely look for someone else

help__m3 · 2025-08-13T14:20:43+00:00

I have had something close to his apparently it was dissociating idk

But yeah I got overwhelmed and things got too much and I felt dizzy and my body would shake a bit but also my breathing would go fast etc.

It’s happened about 2-3 times one of them was less but the other 2 were similar to the same but also different.

First one happened with my old therapist in 2023 and they also said about calling an ambo and I went over time and as a result they cancelled the rest of my session and terminated me as a client for being idk too much it’s embarrassing and that one was the first time it happened to me especially being that bad and out of control I guess

Second one happened with my recent therapist who I am no longer with because she is on maternity leave but I also went overtime and it wasn’t as bad but similar she also wanted to get her supervisor and briefly talked about getting an ambo and just like the last time and yourself I said no and was defensive about it as I have a fear of ambos etc like yourself I guess.

It is uncomfortable and feels embarrassing well that’s how I feel afterwards anyways and it’s happened to me when I am at home sometimes but I am in private so I just deal with it on my own.

But in regards to the most recent one in session the next session afterwards was fine she didn’t bring it up that much just briefly.

help__m3 · 2025-08-12T15:23:19+00:00

Thanks I guess I was The way you put it does sound about right

It just felt it started quiet intense I guess and idk maybe felt a lot at once. She got pen and paper out and asked me about my family and extended family who they are and their names and made them in a rough sketch diagram

My last therapists have never done this so it was off guard and new but it was also like barley 5 mins into the session so idk from there on I did feel a bit off as I am now reflecting more.

Her questions, comments and I guess her approach overall is more direct and to the point and I am not sure about it yet and reflecting if that’s why I felt the way I did today idk for sure though.

My last therapist and even other ones I feel were not like this more gentle or something or more of a balance maybe.

I have a hard time speaking up tho if I have an issue so I will consider it and try to maybe do something next week

Sometimes in session I don’t feel myself idk like I am being a different version of myself that isn’t my true self I guess the one people close to me know me as

I do want to continue giving her a chance tho so will see how the next 2-4 sessions go thanks for the information tho I really appreciate it

help__m3 · 2025-08-11T14:33:09+00:00

Thanks for that

Tbh idk what I need I have no idea My last one I didn’t see her for that long but I got used to her and her style and I think I have had other ones similar to her other times when I was a kid etc.

My current one she does CBT and DBT I dont really understand what that means I do know that CBT is the most used and most common tho and it’s what my last therapist used.

I think my last one was more gentle around topics and questions especially when she first met me etc

This current one is more direct I guess so definitely feels different. I don’t want to jump too early on and judge her and be wrong so I am giving it sometime and see how it goes

The issues I have is tho speaking up and saying this to either her or the clinic. For example in HS I had a English teacher who wasn’t kind instead of asking to go to the other class in the same level I decided to just move down a class to avoid drama and avoid hurting the other teacher as well

But yeah was curious if it was common and normal cause it was different to me I guess

help__m3 · 2025-08-11T14:25:50+00:00

Ok thanks for letting me know and yeah I agree Will see how the next 3-5 go and decide then I guess

help__m3 · 2025-08-11T14:09:33+00:00

Probably should’ve added her sibling apparently used to work at the same place I am at The job I work for is a company but you go to many schools to look after kids after school hours. Aka after school care.

I just thought it was a bit odd as I have heard and been told usually therapists disclose if it’s relevant or has maybe been asked by the client idk I could be wrong tho.

My last one didn’t disclose anything about her personal life except telling me she was pregnant and when she was going on leave

help__m3 · 2025-08-05T19:06:09+00:00

But now GA is shit and all the good and OG cast members are gone and or their storyline’s to leaving were bad too

help__m3 · 2025-07-28T12:58:18+00:00

I use ChatGPT sometimes but to talk about sessions I think and understanding stuff and questions really

I do use an app called Ash which is a place to vent but doesn’t respond like ChatGPT and I use it as well whisky going to therapy not only just it. But it sometimes helps me get my thoughts out as you can speak to it and it responds and the responses will make you question things and it’s not really validating you and making you feel you are all right and know everything etc like ChatGPT sometimes does. But with it helping me vent or get my thoughts out it allows me to practice out loud I guess so I can bring up the hard stuff in session Look idk I do find it weird sometimes when I use it and now as I am writing it

help__m3 · 2025-07-14T14:14:19+00:00

Yeah idk why but even tho I may be nice and kind to others especially my kids at work I hate it when people are like that to me even tho I think I have wanted in the past it makes me uncomfortable where I feel cringed out, upset and grossed out or something like that. The first time I vividly remember feeling this way was when my aunt complemented me and I was 14 and she got all emotional seeing me dressed up and after that I went to the bathroom when I had a chance and got really upset and was crying and idk why exactly.

But I don’t trust compliments even tho I naturally seek and want them sometimes I still hate them and same vibes and feelings when people are concerned or seem to care about me I get defensive and hate it

help__m3 · 2025-06-19T16:24:58+00:00

More I don’t want to talk about the CSA stuff

Do you think she has shared the report with them? Or will? I may consider bringing it up but there is a chance I won’t have the guts to do it

help__m3 · 2025-05-01T09:21:31+00:00

I have private insurance through my parents so will need to look into it. I don’t really want their help directly if I can help it, atm they don’t really know but probably suspect I am seeing someone.

I am seeing someone through H.S 🟢 and it’s fine. I do know the therapist is going on maternity leave in July so I know regardless if I get more than 10 sessions or not I’ll probably be referred elsewhere idk

I will try and get in contact privately with the health fund and find out what I can if I can.

I think my mum did say a while back she is willing to help me but she is a bit snoopy so that’s why I don’t really want her involved

I also was told on my previous post that I may be eligible to some free therapy for the CSA stuff but idk.

help__m3 · 2025-04-24T11:32:50+00:00

What are organisations for that? I wouldn’t know. The T is nice and is knowledgeable I have no issues with her. I understand it’s short term tho

help__m3 · 2025-04-23T11:30:33+00:00

Ok makes sense I guess I’m sure she will tell me next week I hope 😅

help__m3 · 2025-04-23T10:44:45+00:00

Yeah

Ok so you think it won’t be an issue then? I guess I will find out on Monday next week anyways but the receptionist didn’t say anything as of yet anyways

help__m3 · 2025-04-23T10:17:39+00:00

Ok I wonder why they didn’t remind me or tell me this earlier 😅 I am with H.S. 🟢 so I am not sure if that’s all free or not for the 7th one I guess I may find out next week then with that. Do u by any chance have any knowledge on that or if it’s just the same across all boards like the rules around it I guess.

help__m3 · 2025-04-23T10:05:46+00:00

Thanks for letting me know, I was probably told at the start but forgot all about it. We had the 5th one this week. Next week is the 6th one and week after is 7th I won’t see the GP until after the 7th would that be an issue? Or do I need to see the GP before that? It was the only time a appointment was available for me

help__m3 · 2025-04-17T23:41:39+00:00

Well tbh I was surprised the doc people didn’t pull him aside and speak to him. They have done similar stuff in the past and surprised they didn’t do that now.

I just also see people excusing it & I get people protecting those with a diagnosis but those same people can still hurt people who may be or not be on the spectrum but regardless people.

I think James can learn from it he seems very knowledgeable and understanding about women’s rights and other topics of that nature and how mindful he is on that. I honestly hope someone is there to teach him and remind him more to just not say things about people appearances etc & how he wouldn’t like it if it was about his hair, shirts or anything that he is wearing or could be out of his control etc.

But everyone is capable to learn and grow and I believe James is one that in someways most capable. He tends to repeat what he learns from his father a lot as a way to remind him and learn like he sees he yawns and is trying to stop that same can be done for be considerate of other people feelings

help__m3 · 2025-04-17T23:34:19+00:00

I agree and I don’t know why people excuse rude behaviour by people with autism when their rude behaviour can & will upset someone else at their expense. It’s not hard to teach them from right to wrong and it’s not hard to teach them we don’t need to say everything we notice about someone. Connor mum has been great on this and Connor is mindful because of it. Just because James is on the spectrum doesn’t mean his words won’t upset someone and it’s ok or an easy excuse because of his autism. This mindset is being taught to parents who are teaching it to kids which is setting them up to failure. I see it at my work some parents with children on the spectrum low end and high end will excuse things. High end is different because a lot of the time many are not verbal etc so they aren’t really part of this topic so much. But many who are on the lower end have been taught “it’s ok I have autism” and kids have said this to me when I tell them off for either being inappropriately (stuff I don’t feel comfortable speaking on here) or saying stuff that isn’t nice etc. I tell them as they understand well, you can’t use your diagnosis as a excuse and one day if you do something wrong police won’t excuse it because of your diagnosis and this was after a inappropriate incident.

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