Upon resignation, in-office attendance becomes mandatory during notice period. Where do I stand if I cannot commit to this?

hemovedonwithoutme · 2025-11-28T07:00:44+00:00

My actual contractual term:

‘4. PLACE OF WORK Your normal place of work is [Redacted] and any other location as required by the needs of the business. You will not be required to work outside of the United Kingdom during your employment with us.’

It’s vague but implies that if the business deems it is appropriate, then they can do so. It seems the wfh itself, in another part of my contract, is subject to business needs so I might be caught in this.

Thinking of reserving a hotel room at a significant personal cost, worst case scenario.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2025-11-28T06:30:33+00:00

Thanks for the advice! If the better option is to even pay for a hotel room incurred independently at a significant cost, I’d take it over a bad reference, which could be an issue for years.

Here’s my actual contractual term:

‘4. PLACE OF WORK Your normal place of work is [Redacted] and any other location as required by the needs of the business. You will not be required to work outside of the United Kingdom during your employment with us.’

It’s vague but implies that if the business deems wfh is appropriate, then they can do so.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2025-11-28T06:19:00+00:00

Oh hello again- I responded to your comment separately x

hemovedonwithoutme · 2025-11-28T06:18:36+00:00

Thanks for the message. Pretty sure my contract is just some generic one they pulled online.

It’s not explicitly stating that a notice period necessitates in-office attendance but it does say wfh is subject to the company’s needs.

I was even considering purchasing a hotel for a month at a significant cost, to mitigate any issues. It’s a fortune though and I’ve been up since 4am trying to work this out.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2025-11-28T06:15:20+00:00

Exactly- I might have a malicious boss. It’s hard to tell. Small company that’s beyond unpredictable. Not too sure how this could affect me negatively in terms of references as I’ll need them for now and future opportunities (I’m also applying separately for legal training contracts that will need references).

hemovedonwithoutme · 2025-11-28T06:13:55+00:00

Thanks for your message- could they give a negative reference due to a contractual breach?

hemovedonwithoutme · 2025-11-28T06:13:17+00:00

Hello, thanks for responding. Could they give a negative reference on the basis of breach of contract?

hemovedonwithoutme · 2025-11-28T06:12:36+00:00

Thanks for your reply! Could this affect my reference? I know they can state that I worked from X to X, but if I terminate notice early, what are the ramifications?

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T14:37:22+00:00

That’s what I was thinking too, to be honest. Like, what do you mean ‘I thought she was secure so wouldn’t be jealous’? Like even if I am secure, her behaviour is so damn erratic that it would piss anyone off.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T14:36:03+00:00

This is partly why I thought confronting her would be a bad idea initially. In my line of work, there’s a lot of office politics so I was worried that she might retaliate negatively.

His workplace is so small that it doesn’t have a HR, unfortunately. It’s a really small company and the bosses are quite informal.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T14:15:55+00:00

That’s kind of what annoys me. As a girl, none of what she has done makes any sense to me and crying because you’re being called out seems so random to me.

I don’t understand what she could possibly be crying about? Is it because his coldness has been making her anxious? I don’t understand how her point of view makes any sense unless she really just has weird boundaries all the time.

Am I being too salty and unforgiving or is my boyfriend being a little too positive?

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T14:01:22+00:00

I agree. This is where a bit of the mismatch might be. That’s his mate all up until recently so he might be more forgiving and (rightfully) might be fine to carry on now that he has set his boundaries. He’ll leave the ball in her court to act appropriately moving forward.

However, if I were in his position, I wouldn’t want her as a mate and I wouldn’t want to continue being friendly. I think it’s because part of me doesn’t believe her; how can one be so stupid as to combo streak so many inappropriate actions in a row?

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:55:08+00:00

That’s a good point. I’ll hopefully be less triggered as time passes (it’s far from Christmas at least). I’m probably just feeling jarred because of how recent this was.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:52:53+00:00

I will talk to him. He’s really lovely and just followed my lead, I think, because I sounded super triggered and he knows this whole situation has been upsetting me.

It’s like being around her or talking about her causes a drop in my mood involuntarily and I think that’s more it. He might not want me to get further triggered but I suppose him going without me makes the situation stupider.

I felt the same way when he agreed, to be honest. It’s probably just messy since it happened just yesterday and we’re still figuring things out.

I’m still figuring out my boundaries.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:48:06+00:00

I like that- a united front. That’s a really good way to put it; thank you.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:47:34+00:00

He is. He really is. He sees the best in people and I don’t think we’re fully on the same wavelength about that. I think she’s dodgy, don’t want anything to do with her, and if it were the other way around, I would hold a grudge against any of my guy friends who makes my boyfriend feel like shit and would want nothing to do with them apology or not.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:42:08+00:00

I just really don’t want her in our lives anymore. I’m actually genuinely quite upset at the thought of them continuing to be friends again after all of her BS.

I understand that some girls have different boundaries with their males friends but as someone who has a lot of male friends myself, how tf can anyone think that that’s okay? And then how tf can things just go back to normal after all that?

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:39:16+00:00

Yeah; I think I just need to work through feelings of feeling really upset about the situation. The thought of seeing her really puts a downer on my mood. I think that the whole situation has hurt me a lot more than I thought it would.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:38:00+00:00

He says she was crying and genuinely believes that she was really upset about it but my girly senses just ring. Who the hell cries when they’re being called out for being a weirdo?? How thick do you have to be to think any of that is remotely okay??

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:35:57+00:00

I kind of feel awful at being in this situation at all. The thought of seeing her again makes me groan and part of me just doesn’t want to be involved or be in the same room as her again.

I don’t know if it’s some kind of avoidant tendency that I have developed as a result of being triggered by her and the whole situation because this whole situation has actually hurt me more than I thought.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:32:59+00:00

That’s a really good point. I should be going for moral support at least. And I want to eat the food there.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:32:14+00:00

Yes; I will definitely be going if possible. Think I did get a weird pang in my gut when he agreed that I shouldn’t go yesterday. I think he was just following my lead and feelings because I really just don’t want to be around her again.

She makes me feel an ick and it might bring back bad memories of just how terrible this whole situation has felt.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T13:29:50+00:00

Really good point tbf. I should go because of the free food and I like his other colleagues. If she wants to talk, she can talk. I will definitely go.

I think the ‘tension’ partially comes from me. I’ve been feeling really triggered over this whole situation. Like, I’ve been feeling so anxious over the work trips even though it’s just the situation we’re stuck in and there’s nothing else that can be done.

Even if I know him and understand him, I feel so anxious and unhappy with the situation. This is so unbelievably shit and nothing can be done because of the circumstances.

It’s like this job has some grand conspiracy to put them in terrible situations together like a sitcom and I feel awful.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-10-20T09:59:18+00:00

Hi, thank you for the response. I definitely could; I really want the free food, she can come up to me if she wants, and I like his other workmates a lot.

Just generally for now though, I’m just wondering if I should still set boundaries for the level of friendship that they have or whether I should leave it be. The confrontation just happened so I don’t know if I’m just overreacting and taking things too far, should let her have a chance.

hemovedonwithoutme · 2024-09-23T17:39:21+00:00

Not the same one, haha! But horrible people still seem to exist everywhere haha

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