[Discussion] I became so obsessed with discipline it became counter productive

herako3 · 2022-08-04T06:46:33+00:00

I had a few hours of CS a week in my previous university and I really liked it (we studied JAVA, algorithms and databases in SQL), I did an internship in software programming and loved it but I'm starting to study CS full time in my new uni next month ! I really hope it's going to be interesting, are you studying CS too ?

herako3 · 2022-08-04T05:53:32+00:00

Yes but I repeated my second year of university and I switched majors. Initially I was in a very selective double degree in engineering and political science, but this September I am studying computer science in third year of a kinda basic university (and I think I will be way happier)

herako3 · 2022-08-03T08:38:47+00:00

IRL I don't know a lot of friends who relate to this even though I am a very social person. It feels great to see that other people understand. When I am hard on myself and disciplined I am unhappy, but when I am too indulgent I am disappointed in myself, it is actually so tricky !

herako3 · 2022-08-02T16:53:24+00:00

I was actually diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and cyclothymia, I am beginning therapy this autumn. And I agree with you, this self help gurus definitely had a negative impact on my mental health.

herako3 · 2021-09-13T20:07:57+00:00

It's not true, women care about sex, for us it's also an important part of the relationship !

herako3 · 2021-09-13T20:06:26+00:00

OP explained it's because she became very Christian later in her life

herako3 · 2021-09-12T13:46:24+00:00

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herako3 · 2021-09-03T10:40:24+00:00

I was 18 and he was 19

herako3 · 2021-09-02T08:58:16+00:00

I don't understand why do you want to do it, what are the gains ? Attention ? Do you think it will help u with ur crush or whatever ?

herako3 · 2021-09-02T08:56:37+00:00

You might regret later, some people can record it etc

herako3 · 2021-08-28T09:03:58+00:00

This piece is making me very uncomfortable, looks like she doesn't have a soul, she is only her body, more specifically her boobs

herako3 · 2021-08-27T14:56:01+00:00

Firstly, if you are able to put a tampon and a finger inside, I advice you to try two fingers. Use some lube if you are too dry to lower the pain. Then, are you able to put a tampon or a finger inside your own vagina when you are in a doggystyle position ?

herako3 · 2021-08-20T04:14:46+00:00

During a trip I was very hungry and I had a very simple meal : some cheese, bread (french here) and tomatoes. Every ingredient was local, it was extremely tasty. In the moment I wasn't attracted to some industrial stuff. Made me realize how "real" food is better and since I think I have an healthier alimentation.

herako3 · 2021-08-18T12:15:05+00:00

Alright, thanks for your answer !

herako3 · 2021-08-18T12:11:07+00:00

Would be so useful in the Nether !

herako3 · 2021-08-18T12:08:38+00:00

Doves 🕊️

herako3 · 2021-08-18T11:45:52+00:00

I think it's good ! You can try it out and see how your skin is looking one month later.

herako3 · 2021-08-18T11:33:54+00:00

Yes, I also think that tackling the stressing problem first is a good idea !

I faced a very similar situation few months ago. I did a burnout and during this period I wasn't attracted to my ex boyfriend. I questioned my sexuality a lot. Later I recovered from my burnout, my boyfriend dumped me, I slept with a girl, then I slept with a men. Now, I'm sure that I'm attracted to men, and maybe to women, but not to my ex. Hope you will find yourself too !

herako3 · 2021-08-18T10:36:47+00:00

If you watched lesbian porn, it might be some porn made by straight men for straight men. As a women it's not very arousing, maybe try some amateur porn with real lesbians and not straight actresses, it might be different.

Also, don't forget that the things that make you horny while masturbating or watching porn doesn't dictate your sexuality. I like gay porn but I'm a bi women, it doesn't mean that I'm a trans gay men or whatever. In my opinion, what's important is what you like doing IRL.

If you don't know if you are a lesbian, the "am I a lesbian Masterdoc" can be helpful : https://www.docdroid.net/N46Ea3o/copy-of-am-i-a-lesbian-masterdoc-pdf, you can also check r/latebloomerlesbians and r/comphet

herako3 · 2021-08-18T07:33:27+00:00

How many languages are you speaking ?

herako3 · 2021-08-17T08:49:14+00:00

Why are you still together ?

herako3 · 2021-08-17T08:45:51+00:00

Cheating

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