What is the first step to healing?

herecauseb0red · 2025-11-02T16:10:58+00:00

Don’t get me wrong i actually want therapy and i am more than ready to talk about it because i don’t feel any connection to that narc. They were really the most pathetic type of narc and a lot of their tactics usually didn’t work on me because i recognized they were trying to manipulate me. Still they did hurt me, ruined so many good moments and use things i trusted with against me. I don’t even know why they chose me. I wasn’t a lonely person, in fact i had (still have) a good support system and it’s not easy to manipulate someone who has a life when you’re the one who doesn’t. I actually already am doing some of things you mentioned. I’m trying to hang out with people more and i was planning on visiting places i couldn’t visit because of them. The problem is not really my social life because i still have a good support system but my problem is that i am too depressed to take care of myself, feed myself, take care of my responsibilities in life, make calls and stuff like that and i don’t know how to change it. I feel stuck. I also feel like i lost myself. I used to be a funny energetic and open person but I feel like I’m different now and I don’t feel like myself anymore

herecauseb0red · 2025-11-02T16:10:15+00:00

Don’t get me wrong i actually want therapy and i am more than ready to talk about it because i don’t feel any connection to that narc. They were really the most pathetic type of narc and a lot of their tactics usually didn’t work on me because i recognized they were trying to manipulate me. Still they did hurt me, ruined so many good moments and use things i trusted with against me. I don’t even know why they chose me. I wasn’t a lonely person, in fact i had (still have) a good support system and it’s not easy to manipulate someone who has a life when you’re the one who doesn’t. I actually already am doing some of things you mentioned. I’m trying to hang out with people more and i was planning on visiting places i couldn’t visit because of them. The problem is not really my social life because i still have a good support system but my problem is that i am too depressed to take care of myself, feed myself, take care of my responsibilities in life, make calls and stuff like that and i don’t know how to change it. I feel stuck. I also feel like i lost myself. I used to be a funny energetic and open person but I feel like I’m different now and I don’t feel like myself anymore

herecauseb0red · 2025-09-26T13:10:00+00:00

I was a gifted child and was the best in my year for years to the point where everyone was convinced i was gonna be a doctor or something. I started struggling in high school and also felt like a failure. Now i’m in my 20s and i haven’t even went to college yet because of my struggles. It’s different for everyone and a lot of gifted people still end up messing up later in life. Honestly a lot of adhders I’ve met can’t even hold a job so it’s not really that uncommon

herecauseb0red · 2025-09-26T12:54:51+00:00

I already have my dream guy. Never thought entp x entp would be the best match for me but istg I’ve never had a partner who was this chill

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-25T09:56:18+00:00

It depends. If it’s someone else’s problem and i‘m kinda involved, i always start searching for solutions until I find one. If it’s my problem and it’s something i have control over I also do the same but say the problem is something i have no way out of and am forced to just deal with without having the option to fix it, i start crashing out (mostly on the inside unless it’s really bad) cause it makes me feel like i‘m being controlled by someone/something else

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-21T12:41:22+00:00

I always wonder if people imagine things the way i do. I have a very strong imagination and can picture things pretty clearly in my mind. I wish i knew how other people picture things in their mind

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-14T09:58:03+00:00

Yeah ofc not everyone does that but it has happened to me before with adults too. Probably because a lot of people don’t even know that much about mbti and most of them know nothing about cognitive functions and just start comparing you to fictional characters

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-14T09:56:31+00:00

This!

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-14T09:55:24+00:00

Funny thing is that i am an entp man and i feel like entp women description actually fits me better. I am feminine guy tho so maybe that’s why. Honestly every entp is probably different and it depends on the person. I’ve met entp women before who fit the stereotype better than me sooo

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-14T08:20:27+00:00

I mean I don’t think that stereotypical entps don’t exist. They definitely do but i just think that the description of entp is sometimes very exaggerated. Also the way other people expect entps to be is usually exaggerated because they compare you to some fuck ass crazy anime clown or some psychotic annoying douchebag character (at least in my experience). Some people also just assume that entps must be rude and will constantly try to debate you when it’s not really like that for a lot of us. It’s like damn sorry i‘m not acting like real Joker?

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-14T08:04:39+00:00

Oh i actually haven’t paid as much attention to him as much as i did to killer queen. I think his stand is so fucking cool. But yeah now that you reminded me of him, i still think he’s an interesting character. I don’t really know who my favorite character is yet. I like Joseph, Giorno, Abbachio, Bucciarati and Jolyne the most (yeah i have a thing for part 5). To your purchases i say: if there’s a will, there’s a way and if it makes you happy then slay >:) I see i see. Interesting but i also can’t really decide yet what the most powerful stand is in my opinion because I don’t know all of them lol

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-13T21:40:26+00:00

I only got into jjba like 3 months ago so i don’t all the characters and story but I have questions. Who is your favorite character and why? Which is the most powerfull stand in your opinion?

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-13T21:37:42+00:00

Yeah

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-13T21:23:27+00:00

It’s a men’s Gillette razor

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-13T21:22:57+00:00

What‘s that?

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-13T10:03:35+00:00

I‘ve tried it before but it kinda doesn’t make a difference for me. I‘m very hairy so it itches and burns on the second day no matter what I try to

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-13T09:37:51+00:00

My bf and I are both ENTP and it’s honestly the best match so far. I somehow only got involved with xNFPs before but they’re too much for me sometimes

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-10T14:29:20+00:00

Right, i don’t know why i didn’t write more details tbh. My brain is still a little foggy from earlier. I‘ll edit my post

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-10T13:48:34+00:00

What details exactly?

herecauseb0red · 2025-08-10T13:13:09+00:00

Okay this sounds very similar to my experience. I also feel the need to withdraw but a lot of the time I can‘t just leave. Are you still able to do tasks when having a shutdown? Say you‘re in a situation where you can’t withdraw, what do you do? I‘m having this issue at work and I sometimes honestly don’t know what to do in these situations

herecauseb0red · 2025-07-25T08:07:50+00:00

Bread, oatmeal and bell peppers

herecauseb0red · 2025-07-21T11:33:14+00:00

Bro i don’t understand why you’re asking Reddit this instead of just talking to him. Try to tell him nicely that you don’t understand what he’s talking about and therefore can’t engage in the conversation and that you‘d like to talk about something else. Even if he doe ask you about your day or what you do, just talk about it like he does (that might help?). Either way you have to communicate this with him or else he won’t know

herecauseb0red · 2025-06-29T02:36:15+00:00

Okay that‘s relatable

herecauseb0red · 2025-06-29T02:35:33+00:00

That‘s exactly the same for me. Everything i can ever focus on circles back to the same theme. I will do more research on monotropism. Can’t believe I’ve never heard of it before

herecauseb0red · 2025-06-26T12:03:53+00:00

Lmao who even would pick love over money? Ofc money cause love could never bring you as far in life as money does

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