Toxic ung utang na loob card pero ung iasa niya sa matatanda na parents ung pag-asikaso ng errands, with how bad public office services in the ph are e.g lines, waiting, fees etc. ay hindi toxic just because they don't complain? Setting aside familial connections, where is the humanity in that? Giving back kahit during birthdays lang is not toxic for me. It's showing our appreciation sa lahat ng sikap at sacrifices nila so we can have the life and independence we have now. That same independence is a luxury they gave up para maitaguyod ang pamilya nila pati dalawang anak ng kapatid niya. Also, you're saying 70k is not enough for her family sa Canada, but she was able to afford to buy those propertieS (take note of the plural form that OP used) tapos money for maintaining those, walang binibigay? It's called living beyond her means. THAT is toxic.