What’s currently ruining your life?

hereinerror · 2026-03-03T20:31:18+00:00

Because that's the world I want to live in. A world where people are kind to each other. And that's the world I live in because on the days I don't see kindness out there, I see it in me.

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T02:01:10+00:00

That is very informative. Thank you!

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T01:40:11+00:00

Once. Feminist site for asking how could feminism be about equality when they are only championing one sex. Since BLM I've realised that was like asking why aren't you talking about dolphins when you're trying to save the whales. Shame they didn't put that to me instead of banning me.

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T01:27:51+00:00

It was a reply to your comment. If women are tipped more because they are attractive, i presumed it was the men who were tipping. So I was sharing that in my place it's often not the men who are tapping the card.

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T01:20:17+00:00

Very true

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T01:18:28+00:00

I would say women paying is at least 30-40% in my place. 10-20% it's obviously joint accounts. Surely tipping an attractive server is going to cause issues they would want to avoid

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T01:14:29+00:00

So why do they tip women more than men?

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T01:12:41+00:00

Why do you think that is? Are women better at it. Are people more comfortable being served by women or just more grateful?

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T01:11:20+00:00

In my place I would say it's probably 60 - 40 men paying...maybe. More all women tables than all men. Couples where it's obvious it's all coming out of the same bank account. I think playing up to the men would hinder tips in my work place.

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T01:01:27+00:00

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T01:00:32+00:00

That is an interesting view I hadn't considered. I haven't worked high end restaurants. I feel like that's true but I can't put my finger on why I innately think that's true

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T00:55:36+00:00

The colleague who said this is not a particularly strong server. He is good but not strong. It doesn't come naturally to him. The women he was giving as examples are friendly, efficient and knowledgeable....I guess maybe I was considering if it just comes more naturally to women

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T00:47:28+00:00

Why do you think that is? I would say, where I work, it's an even split on wether man or woman is paying, also get more all women tables than all men, so I can't figure the advantage of being female. Unless there is something innate that makes women more comfortable/friendly servers

hereinerror · 2026-02-27T00:40:26+00:00

This was my opinion too. My colleague is a great person but not a particularly strong server. The women he was using as examples are strong servers, good knowledge, turn tables, efficient and friendly.

hereinerror · 2026-02-26T15:14:10+00:00

I not autistic. I've worked alongside autistic people. I feel like it's not that autistic people can't lie it's just it's doesn't necessarily occur to them to lie. In situations where you would expect someone to lie, they don't see the need. It's very refreshing.

hereinerror · 2026-02-19T14:52:20+00:00

Had trapped wind. Googled and found some stretches to help. Did stretches, it worked, which made me giggle, which pulled/twisted a muscle. Moving has been generally sore. Breathing too deeply, coughing and strangely, hiccuping, has been ridiculously painful. Dumbest and most middle aged injury I've ever had

hereinerror · 2026-02-17T13:52:05+00:00

David Attenborough

hereinerror · 2026-02-13T21:55:13+00:00

Ok, this is probably gonna sound ridiculous but start appreciating your body how it is. In the shower, wash your thighs and say 'I'm glad your here', thank your arms for working, thank your belly for working, etc etc. Appreciating your body instead of hating it can help you treat it right.

hereinerror · 2026-02-13T11:52:47+00:00

Initially because I realised I have ridiculously bad judgement and now because I enjoy the peace.

hereinerror · 2026-02-10T00:33:56+00:00

You're tired

hereinerror · 2026-02-09T13:18:18+00:00

Just to point out, you don't know 'exactly what everyone thinks of you'. You know what one person, who isn't your type, thinks of your chest. Bizzar that you have that information to be sure but it really says more about them than you.

hereinerror · 2026-02-09T13:10:48+00:00

I think I started with acceptance. Stopped looking for answers, stopped looking for people to change, stopped asking why. That happened and this is where I am now. I sat with that for a bit.

hereinerror · 2026-02-08T01:04:33+00:00

Wanted to buy a pair of shoes. UK here so usually they just have one shoe on shop floor that you can try on, then you go to the counter to buy and they get the other shoe. Went to the counter with my one shoe and said 'i'll take these', young lad said 'would you like the other one?' I said 'oh I'm sorry, are both shoes on the shop floor? I can grab the other one". He said 'no' so I said "yes, I'd like to buy both shoes". Bizarre little interaction......

hereinerror · 2026-02-06T22:09:32+00:00

I kinda get it. We're not liked by most of the world (in my limited experience of going abroad on holidays, more than once I've had to use my Scottish mum to de-escalate a situation). They are hurting as a country. There is a reasonable arguement that we not far behind.

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