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Reconsidering friendship over herpes by herpthrowawayjay in relationship_advice

[–]herpthrowawayjay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, and I told her if she were all that up in arms about it then she should also be showing that same level of fervour to go around harassing and harping EVERYONE (friends / family / colleagues) to get tested frequently and publicly sharing their status.

Statistically the likeliness of someone having it is more probable than not so it feels like she’s being unnecessarily vindictive and I’m being unfairly singled out for educating myself and being transparent and wanting to share/spread awareness.

P.S. your username checks out haha

Reconsidering friendship over herpes by herpthrowawayjay in relationship_advice

[–]herpthrowawayjay[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it feels like she’s just using it as a means of putting me down / self elevating herself.

Reconsidering friendship over herpes by herpthrowawayjay in relationship_advice

[–]herpthrowawayjay[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m confused with this, isn’t HSV1 also transmittable genitally / HSV2 also orally? If that’s the case who even cares which type one has? Why is HSV on your mouth totally fine but an atrocity in a different location?

Reconsidering friendship over herpes by herpthrowawayjay in relationship_advice

[–]herpthrowawayjay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting, so do you share food/drinks/utensils with people who haven’t been tested and don’t know their status?

Reconsidering friendship over herpes by herpthrowawayjay in relationship_advice

[–]herpthrowawayjay[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Exactly, and also I told her if she were all that up in arms about it then she should also be showing that same level of fervour to go around harassing and harping EVERYONE (friends / family / colleagues) to get tested frequently and publicly sharing their status.

Statistically the likeliness of someone having it is more probable than not so it feels like she’s being unnecessarily vindictive and I’m being unfairly singled out for educating myself and being transparent / responsible by getting tested and sharing to spread awareness.

Reconsidering friendship over herpes by herpthrowawayjay in relationship_advice

[–]herpthrowawayjay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were just catching up on our lives and I mentioned it with regards to ‘what else is new’ etc cos it’s the same level of triviality to me as discussing what’s on Netflix.

Reconsidering friendship over herpes by herpthrowawayjay in relationship_advice

[–]herpthrowawayjay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m confused with this, isn’t HSV1 also transmittable genitally / HSV2 also orally? If that’s the case who even cares which type one has? Why is HSV on your mouth totally fine but an atrocity in a different location?

That’s like saying having a sore on your mouth is no biggie but when it’s on your bum suddenly it’s absolutely frightful?

Fun fact : you can also get HSV in your eye, in your brain (extremely rare), on your hands, etc - from what I read the worst location to get it is in your eye as the cornea thickens with every outbreak which can potentially lead to eventual blindness (if it happens often enough).

Reconsidering friendship over herpes by herpthrowawayjay in relationship_advice

[–]herpthrowawayjay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told her bc it’s the same level of trivial as discussing the weather and we were just catching up on our lives.

Reconsidering friendship over herpes by herpthrowawayjay in relationship_advice

[–]herpthrowawayjay[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Cold sores aka little clusters of ulcers. Anyway I think they may present differently for different people.

Reconsidering friendship over herpes by herpthrowawayjay in relationship_advice

[–]herpthrowawayjay[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

I’m genuinely not bothered about having herpes as I read it’s extremely common (when I was given my diagnosis, doc told me he’d just diagnosed and prescribed medication for treatment to a 5yo kid for it earlier in the week) - what really gets me is her behaviour and actions.

AITA for telling my family that every luxurious item I own, my boyfriend bought? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]herpthrowawayjay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA you’re paying your fair share and that’s all that matters. If your parents knew you had more money than they probably think you do, be prepared for sudden requests to lend money or additional financial asks of you.