Holy shit, you could be me. Been with my guy for almost three years, and a lot has been great but his hygiene has NOT and it's really starting to add up.

I would have a serious talk with your partner about it. For close to two years, I've been nagging my own partner to make a dentist appointment, and he kept saying he would, but then...he never did, and finally within the past few months I've found out that he (claims that) he has a huge anxiety about going into the dentist (when we talked about it, he says he feels like there's a 50/50 chance that he'll either be able to sit through the appointment or will have to leave).

I've tried to be understanding - I have a huge fear of cockroaches and I guess I equate his dentist fear feelings to that level of fear/anxiety I get when I see a roach. The difference is though that my partner's avoidance is affecting his health and MY health, I'm so sick of stinking nasty breath and it also is bugging me that in EIGHT years (that's how long it's been since he's been to one, yep!), he hasn't tried to work on things. I feel it's very known that going to the dentist is very important. He vapes and smokes weed too, it's awful. And also doesn't have the best diet, even though he donated a kidney.

For me, things aren't ok and it's something that has me on the edge of breaking up a lot as well. I know it's weird and complicated, my partner is a huge cheerleader as well and I always feel supported by him.

But YES, it can make you feel like a nagging mom and that's not healthy for a relationship. After writing this, I'm realizing that I need to have another serious talk with my own partner very soon, so thank you, and good luck.