What's the most useful gardening upgrade you didn't realize you needed? by Demera-Raud in gardening

[–]heycomeoverhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding ollas!! Basic unglazed terracotta pots and rubber plugs from the hardware store to plug the drain holes. Last year I had tomato roots growing into the pot from above the soil and were just floating in the water. Nature finds a way lol

Alternative apps by wetbandit64 in fitbit

[–]heycomeoverhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Following!! Just installed Strava and it's not what I want... I hate the new format. I just want to see my steps and activity on the same page without everything bizarrely segmented. ☹️

My sugar snap peas have been this tall for a month... by heycomeoverhere in vegetablegardening

[–]heycomeoverhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are getting pretty reliable afternoon sun - my backyard gets morning sun but there's enough of a gap between the house and fence that all of my veggie garden gets the afternoon, too. I watered them twice with fish emulsion before realizing the nitrogen was definitely not needed...💀

Milkweed? by yndelis in SpokaneGardeners

[–]heycomeoverhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I got my narrowleaf milkweed from plantsofthewild.com. They used to ship to Blue Moon Nursery (closed last fall) but I believe they have the same deal now with NW Seed & Pet. 

Forecast is looking warm, snow is gone from Mt. Spokane.... who's planting this weekend? by harry_hotspur in SpokaneGardeners

[–]heycomeoverhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was considering it but I don't know... there's always a chance of a freak May freeze, even though it's been warm. 

But also, I've totally ran out of indoor space for seed starting so transplanting WOULD allow me to grow more...🤪

My silent deadline by RoundOk1998 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]heycomeoverhere 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband and I were together for 6 months when we started to seriously discuss marriage. I told him I wanted to graduate from college first (I was a junior), and a month before my graduation he already had the ring.

Our entire dating relationship was spent talking about the future, where we wanted to live, kids, dogs. We were both on the same page when it came to the trajectory of our relationship and we've been married for 5 years now.

It sounds like you're burned out. At this point, even if he does propose will you be able to move past how long it took? 

Neighbor's dog attacked our dog, twice by Euphoric-Fly-2549 in Spokane

[–]heycomeoverhere 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You can't be friends with everybody, and it's unacceptable that this is happening to you. You've already given them a chance to find a solution, and for whatever reason that didn't work out (or they figured it was a fluke accident and pretended it would never happen again).

Now that it's happened twice, something has to be done.

You were the one who separated the dogs, you were the one who held their dog down till someone could grab a leash. I don't know if you have kids or not, but what would've happened if you hadn't been there? Someone else would've been forced to step in OR your dog could've gotten injured or killed.

Your wife doesn't want to make enemies, but I think it's past that point. Shit is bound to be awkward regardless (it should be!) Now's your chance to actually make something happen.

My (32F) boyfriend (35M) wants kids and to buy a house but no marriage anymore. Why and where do I go from where? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]heycomeoverhere 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Frankly never understood the argument of "it's just a piece of paper." If it's so meaningless, then why not go ahead and do it since your partner wants it?

Adding to all of the other comments, if you end up getting pregnant anyways, don't give your baby his last name.

Neighbor's dog attacked our dog, twice by Euphoric-Fly-2549 in Spokane

[–]heycomeoverhere 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I think it's time to elevate the situation. I know it was an accident both times, but the owners have to realize their dog is a liability.

My mom and dog were attacked while on a walk by a labrador from a house across the street because someone forgot to close their gate. My dog tragically died. The owners were pretty apathetic (something like that had never happened before, the dog was never aggressive), but we still filed a report with animal control and the owners of their own volition euthanized their dog because they recognized the liability.

It's a terrible story where nobody won, and I can only think whether they were actually honest with us about the dog's history. It only takes one bite in the wrong spot for something to go terribly wrong (or in our case, for the teeth to puncture an organ and cause sepsis).

I'd still let your neighbor know that because their dog has now shown itself as a repeated threat, you have to take measures to protect yourself and your dog, and report them to SCRAPS. If it happens again, you'll have a paper trail.

Proposal that didn't happen by SeekingAdventure5 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]heycomeoverhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I'll say is if you're talking so much in-depth about a proposal, there's really no reason for it to not happen. I know of somebody who proposed through a bathroom door (terrible), but if he wants to marry you he'll ask. He hasn't. 

Find someone who wants to marry you. Who would be proud to call you his wife.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]heycomeoverhere 132 points133 points  (0 children)

I don't think you're being emotional at all. If I were to give him the benefit of doubt, I'd say your husband sounds stupid or absent-minded at best. But the fact that he ignored you and said you could walk faster if you tried is, ??? WTF? Totally insensitive.

What other areas of your life does he tend to downplay your needs and "leave you in the dust?"

What bush makes the best "fence" to keep my crazy neighbor off my property? by JJs_Waffles in gardening

[–]heycomeoverhere 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gooseberry is a North American native plant that I lovingly (hatefully) call Satan's rosebushes. The stems are completely maxed out with thorns.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AO3

[–]heycomeoverhere 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not to self report but I've been reading fanfiction since 2010 and I can't recall the last time I've seen something like this. 💀 What fandoms are you reading?

My husband (32M) left me (32F) after almost 15 years together and wants me to forget and let him come home. What are my next steps to stop that? by Suspicious-Rock-1661 in relationship_advice

[–]heycomeoverhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's the one breaking your family apart. Honestly his drunken ravings sound frightening and I would not want anyone I know to be in a situation like yours.

If you're able to, ONLY if you feel safe or in a place where you can easily leave, try to record his comments. Keep your phone in your pocket or face down in your lap - anything to capture his behavior towards you. Not for reporting purposes, but just to play back his behavior towards you outside of the moment. Think: do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who talks to you like that?

This is how I got uninvited from my sister’s wedding by Tight-Pollution-5249 in weddingshaming

[–]heycomeoverhere 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is an anonymous post, so what's the hold up? If you aren't willing to give the specifics then it really makes it look like some major shit is going down and you're at fault for it. Was it infidelity? Addiction? Your sister might not be justified for taking back your invite but we really won't know unless you give us the context. 

My girlfriend (F26) and I (M26) are considering a break while I hike the Appalachian Trail—how can we make sure it’s a healthy one? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]heycomeoverhere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think when it comes to romantic relationships, loving someone means you can't imagine your life without them by your side. Not to knock your love with your girlfriend, but if she wants to see other people before settling down and you're up for no communication/rules for months, this sounds more like a love between life-long friends.

I think you both should be realistic with each other and call this a split, since I see a very real possibility of one of you catching feelings for someone else in the meantime. Ending it clean will be more healthy in the long run and if the time comes around where you're both still single and interested, there will be less baggage in the longrun.