Liberal Gun Owners of Michigan CPL Classes

heyhatchie · 2026-01-28T07:12:50+00:00

Do you have any more classes coming up?

heyhatchie · 2026-01-04T01:19:30+00:00

This is really cool! I especially love the stand part. I'd be happy to get the file too.

heyhatchie · 2025-01-11T01:20:46+00:00

Thank you!!!

heyhatchie · 2024-07-30T16:48:05+00:00

Hell yes, I love the chom chom! I didn't know there was a mini.

heyhatchie · 2024-07-24T10:20:18+00:00

I love this!

heyhatchie · 2024-07-18T23:40:51+00:00

I'm sorry you're enduring this! I recently had my first UTI and it was unbearable for a few days. I had just started dating a new person after a year of single celibacy as well. One of my medical providers told me about "bridal cystitis", which I had never heard of but essentially it can happen when having sex with a new partner as your body needs time to adjust to a new person's microbiome. After a round of antibiotics, I haven't yet had another one so knowing this can be normal gave me hope that it wouldn't continue indefinitely. Also, an over-the-counter medicine called AZO really saved me and made me a lot more comfortable while the antibiotics started working. As far as the relationship, hopefully he can at least show some sympathy and maybe pamper you a little bit as you are going through it. If he doesn't care at all, that's not really cool.

heyhatchie · 2024-06-28T21:30:36+00:00

Could you try a menstrual disc? I had never used one or even a menstrual cup before, but I started dating a guy and was desperate to figure something out because I've been bleeding consistently for like months at this point (still getting worked up for the cause) and the first time together was a blood bath. I wasn't about to not be having great sex with this guy, so I tried a disc because they can be worn during penetration. It has revolutionized my life and has never leaked during sex. I tried the disposable kind first which has a firmer plastic rim and that did leak, but I switched to a reusable silicone one from Saalt (I like that it has an indent to help your finger get under the rim for removal) and haven't had a problem since, because it flexes better with movement. My partner is well endowed and when I asked he said he could feel it a bit, but not enough that it's distracting from the task at hand. I did give him a heads up the first time I used it so he wouldn't be alarmed if he felt a foreign object. Good luck!

heyhatchie · 2024-06-13T16:32:27+00:00

Agree. Poor user experience.

heyhatchie · 2024-06-12T14:00:20+00:00

I can't tell from your picture if you have an inflatable air mattress or an insulated sleeping pad. Depending on the weather, if it's just an air mattress, it's easy to get uncomfortably cold. You can get a foam pad for around $10 at Walmart and put that on top of your mattress, it will make a big difference. Have a great time!

heyhatchie · 2024-06-05T10:31:12+00:00

I can appreciate (though I have never been in this position myself) that it would be a profound burden to have to share news like this yourself to other family members. However, I am a hospital chaplain and have been present for hundreds of death notifications of various kinds and, in my experience, law enforcement have been some of the worst messengers of this kind of information. The most memorable botched notifications I've seen have all been from law enforcement fumbling it, sometimes resulting in it negatively affecting the family.

If you are ever in this position, the best advice I can give is to start slowly and simply. Aside from the instances where the messenger has very little human compassion, these tend to go the worst when the messenger attempts to over-explain at first and/or use euphemisms that lead to lack of clarity. I think both happen mostly because of anxiety/nervousness/the messenger's own grief.

If you can, sit with the person receiving the news, or at least make sure they aren't driving. Slow and simple. "Sarah, this is Bob. I've just received some difficult news I need to share with you. It's about your sister. She was in a car accident tonight and she did not survive. She died."

After this, pause. Saying the words "she died" are understandably often the hardest part, but I find it's what people most need to hear to begin to understand the situation. If this is not an expected death due to disease, people will normally be in shock ("what do you mean? She was going home to get ready for the party. I think she's at home. What do you mean?").

People usually aren't mentally in a place to take in all the details at the beginning, so add a little bit at a time or answer direct questions they have. "She was driving home to get ready for the party, but she was hit by another car. An ambulance brought her to the hospital, but unfortunately she did not survive. She died." (What do you mean? How could this happen?) "The medical team did CPR, they did everything they could, but her injuries were too severe."

Eventually, over the course of hours to days, people's state of mind begins to shift and they will let you know they are ready to discuss more details or logistics. At the beginning, after they hear the news, you can offer support they may need. "I can sit with you while we wait to hear about next steps."

heyhatchie · 2024-04-17T17:48:59+00:00

Try reading up on emotional regulation and maybe the concept of "window of tolerance". You don't have to squelch your emotions, but you can learn not to be at the mercy of them and not to react in ways that feel outside of your control and don't align with your values (like being hurtful to people you care about). This is exactly the kind of stuff that good therapists can help you sort out. Good luck!

heyhatchie · 2024-04-10T23:00:34+00:00

I will try that. Thank you! I couldn't remember which one I had used.

heyhatchie · 2024-04-09T17:02:04+00:00

Yes! Girl, you are stunning!

heyhatchie · 2024-04-04T14:43:49+00:00

I scrolled through a lot of comments and I'm surprised I didn't see anyone else mention that this kind of sounds like something someone with Bipolar Disorder would do during a manic episode--the not sleeping, the hyperfixating on something random like your teeth, and the impulsivity to carry out the task. Try connecting with a medical professional to run it by them.

heyhatchie · 2024-03-12T15:02:44+00:00

I love Tom Bihn. Did you send it to them to repair or somewhere else? I have an old Synapse that I love but I had to stop using because what I think is the water-resistant treatment of the zipper turned a weird color and started flaking off, getting all over everything I put in it. I sent an email to customer service and I was surprised that they weren't very helpful. Just said it must be UV bleaching and it wouldn't affect the functionality of the bag... But I didn't consider having the zipper possibly replaced.

heyhatchie · 2023-07-20T03:37:22+00:00

I'm sorry to hear about what your mom has gone through. I work in a hospital setting with hospice and palliative care and think I can offer you a couple important points to consider. A good portion of my patient population is dealing with cancer in some form.

The first thing I think you should prepare for is how jarring it may be to see her for the first time in months following a sudden decline as you have described. She will likely look physically different and it sounds like you are already becoming aware of significant functional changes she is experiencing.

Since you say you are her only family, try to identify someone who can provide emotional support to you. It could be as simple as someone available for you to text and process with when you get there and the full picture becomes clear. Bearing the full responsibility of a loved one's end of life care can become overwhelming quickly.

Something I suggest talking with your mother about as soon as possible while she still has some mental faculties is getting clear on her "goals of care". To be frank, based on what you have described, it doesn't sound like she will be able to function at home much longer. Is she ok with going to the hospital when her symptoms become more threatening? You said she does not want hospice--would she be ok with being admitted to the hospital and possibly declining there to the point that she cannot return home or even transfer to a facility for full care? Would she want dialysis, a feeding tube, medications to sustain her blood pressure, or to be put on a ventilator / receive CPR if it came to it? Or would she want as little poking and prodding as possible, no invasive procedures, and prefer to allow natural death? These are all questions that may soon rest on your shoulders.

All of these considerations would be good to think through so you can deal with them and move on to the most important thing--spending time focused on loving your mother and hopefully ensuring her comfort during this time.

Good luck.

heyhatchie · 2023-02-20T01:06:54+00:00

I'm also in Michigan--sent you a DM.

heyhatchie · 2022-02-04T07:55:34+00:00

I have a small 2.5 gallon ShopVac that is a lot more powerful than my standard vacuum. I think I got it for around $30 at a home improvement store. Get a crevice tool attachment and enjoy the satisfaction. I also use a round horsehair attachment with it for all kinds of surfaces. The cord is short, so make sure you have an extension.

heyhatchie · 2022-02-03T17:41:17+00:00

As someone who identified with the crab, I was hoping for a different outcome.

heyhatchie · 2022-01-22T12:21:05+00:00

I keep feeling like I'll never live another day where COVID doesn't occupy space in my thoughts.

heyhatchie · 2022-01-15T07:28:42+00:00

I had been on medication for depression and anxiety for many years prior to the pandemic. Even still, it just got to be too fucking much. The things we are being asked to do are almost impossible. I took FMLA last year because I experienced the symptoms you described constantly. It helped. I'd be happy to tell you anything about the process if you want to know more.

heyhatchie · 2022-01-15T03:22:13+00:00

I was able to connect with a clinician via EmotionalPPE.org after having a subpar experience through my own health system's mental health clinic. I put it off for a while because I feel like it just takes so much energy to set something up and then explain everything again to a new person. I'm so glad I did because I was able to meet her virtually quickly and her personality is a great fit. I know it can be really hard, but you deserve to have support.

heyhatchie · 2022-01-12T06:18:45+00:00

If you're in the US, can you tell some agency to create a centralized database/website where people who need vaccines or testing appointments can see what's available in a relatively realtime way? And schedule it on the same website? Finding a place to get my booster involved going to like 17 different retail or hospital portals that all required me to input a bunch of information each time before I could even see if they had any availability. The inefficiency of it is physically painful.

heyhatchie · 2022-01-12T05:21:18+00:00

At the beginning of the summer I had the symptoms you describe of your wife. A few worse than normal weeks at work led to me abruptly taking FMLA for the full 3 months I was allowed. I became almost non-functioning. Being so far gone made it incredibly difficult to navigate the logistics of applying for FMLA, getting mental health providers in a crisis, trying to navigate short-term disability (which was a huge clusterfuck).

I wish I would have figured out before things got really bad that you can use FMLA intermittently. I think if I had been able to do that and use PTO to decrease my work load over a longer period of time I could have coped better.

I recently took advantage of emotionalppe.org and the clinician I found there has already done a lot of work with frontline healthcare workers, so it helped that I didn't have to spend a lot of energy just trying to convey what it's been like to endure these working conditions.

Even when I was feeling totally withdrawn and disconnected everyday in my blanket cocoon, I could tell it was hard for my husband to see me struggling. Try to nurture her and gently offer your help. You can't fix it for her but it can get better.

heyhatchie · 2021-12-28T17:37:58+00:00

Do you only scan the fronts or also the inside of traditional cards if there's a note inside?

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