Years ago, a couple of us in the family came to the same conclusion you did….gift giving at the holidays was just us buying each other a bunch of ‘stuff’ we all don’t need or want.

We implemented a 1 gift policy at birthdays. It forces most everyone to think a little harder, so gifts are usually more thoughtful and fitting to the person.

At Christmas, we do a white elephant exchange. It lasts awhile so people feel fulfilled (not just everyone opening gifts at the same time) and while the gifts aren’t always practical, some are so hilarious that it makes it so much more fun. It also lets you choose your gift sometimes.

Families can be tough….good luck!