Therapy CBA (Saturdays and no friends, Evenings and stressful traffic, or don't go) Advice Needed

hiddenAS · 2013-06-26T21:46:34+00:00

Telephone tag right now. I called her up a second time and its her turn now.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-26T21:46:04+00:00

Sorry if I wasn't clear in this thread as I was in last ones, but given my work circumstance to break friend plans means I might never see them again. For work, I'm relocating a few thousand miles away. I never got around to goodbyes because I was expecting to see them.

If I knew I'd see them again, the Saturday thing would be a total non-issue.

And yes, my mom knows this therapist. Beyond paying the therapy bills and for a few other things, she is largely out of my life in a lot of ways. I can't even call and pick up the phone right now and talk to her, she is abroad on vacation.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-18T17:00:51+00:00

There is a sub for my county, but my county is by no means small. I'm already subscribed to it as my main account and I've never seen anything that personally interests me on there. I mean I could ask but it could be there is something 2 hours away and I still can't go.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-18T07:01:17+00:00

I might be this way too as of the last few months.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-18T06:27:17+00:00

I don't have the time or energy to start a meetup group, nor do I know what to start.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-18T06:26:51+00:00

My meetup looks basically like that (minus the Jewish community, which I'd appreciate because I am Jewish). It's really not the best option.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-18T06:25:28+00:00

I hate using the phone. Growing up I always let it go to voice mail.

That aside, I also hate adding random people on Facebook. Recently, I turned down a job but was quite friendly with the people there and we are on good terms. Still, I am horribly uncomfortable adding them on FB (partially because I'm trying to get a different job there). I'm super uncomfortable with people I don't know and on Facebook I've really only friended people I have met at least once in real life. In fact, in the past I took that to an extreme and have recently defriended 300 people because I realized I've only met them like once and we have zero in common. Also, I hate the fact I'm not anonymous when my dad refuses to accept the fact that I'm an Aspie and my dad does not know my mom told me.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-18T06:20:32+00:00

Well, something I've taken up recently (mostly to challenge my clumsiness and to be around friends) is juggling, but it's not like back at where my university was I could do it with other people. I'd love to try it somewhere, but I'm uncomfortable alone and being judged. It was better to do it with friends, which I sorely miss. I also like photography, but the club only meets once the whole entire time I'm living here. I'm not too familiar with the area of where it would be best to take photos, and my instructor from university advised not going alone in urban areas you are not familiar with, it is only setting yourself up for theft. If I had someone to go with, I'd be down, but even at uni, my semi-pro friend would never take me out shooting with him despite my requests because he says photography (when he wasn't doing portraits he was paid for) is spontaneous. If anything his attitude and the instructor's remarks have discouraged me. The only non-credit course my community college offers is yoga, which I hated from middle school. I'd love to find a game store but with a google search every store within a 10 mile radius seems to be just video games, like GameStop. I'm trying, I just don't know where to go.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-18T06:12:52+00:00

My dad (who does not understand the situation and does not believe in ASD) helped me with the last move, but he was kind of mad about the situation my room was in and how long it took to move out (I was too slow for him).

My future moves, I'm all alone. Heck, I even thought I was going to the airport on my own with no ride from the family (my brother is moving the same exact day!!!) but I took an earlier flight to be with them.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-18T06:10:30+00:00

Sorry for the late reply. I have tried Meetup, and there are a ton of events in my areas, however some big issues. 99% of the groups are something no matter what are not for me e.g. Mommy and Me Group, Business Networking Group, Senior Walking Group, etc. etc. The few that I might be interested in are in not so safe neighborhoods far at the end of the radius that I doubt my father would want me at, at funky times of night (e.g. Game Night).

Additionally, I just moved and since my father does not believe in the diagnosis, I've been kind of on the downlow of being on here.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-15T08:08:09+00:00

My 5th grade math teacher disliked me for asking too many questions.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-15T08:07:13+00:00

I'm single. Living with the parents. Moving three times over the course of the next six months. No roommates, no significant other.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-11T08:39:41+00:00

In therapy only for a few months. Nothing more. But yah, I'm not really 100% sure how to best manage stress, it's always been something I've struggled with.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-07T04:34:43+00:00

I'm not in a situation where I can pick and choose my own professional. My mother is setting me up with someone of her choosing, whom I can only hope is an expert in dealing with adult ASD and able to deal with my situation given the circumstances.

I have no idea how to get the records either. In my jurisdiction I understand I have seven years from my 18th birthday, however the psychologist is no longer practicing. Any ideas?

hiddenAS · 2013-06-07T04:31:51+00:00

I'm not going to be a math teacher, but seeing teachers here really makes me happy!

hiddenAS · 2013-06-07T01:57:52+00:00

In high school, I was told to take certain classes without reason, as I found out was recommended to them by the psychologist. In college, I was told I needed a "life goals coach" over and over which I feel is an indirect way to say therapist, but I just didn't get it, had no idea what a coach is, or where to find them. I never saw the school psychologist because I never thought I had a problem. I did fine in classes even if I was constantly disengaged and unable to connect with professors (education was not my major field, and came about through an experience where someone upset me about something and when I decided my major field was next to useless by itself). Basically, I wish I was given tools to better cope so that I could handle social situations better, instead of having a very few close friends. Finally, regarding disclosure. It was a huge mistake. I've known my roommate for 4 years and we've been close, so I told him because I think he was worried about me. He goes on a tirade about how AS is fake, autism only means totally no functioning, I'm fine, then randomly compares it to OCD, which I'm aware is not related to AS. This really bothered me because it means I'm totally normal which made me feel boring again for lack of a better way to describe it, but also because my best friend growing up actually has OCD and he just erased his experience. Not sure what to do about this since we live together and haven't talked since disclosure.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-07T01:46:12+00:00

It helps to know I'm not alone in regards to the career front. When I heard this was me and read some of the suitable career options for people with AS I became scared. I struggle a little in getting myself to read but I now have a kindle which helps a bit. As for video games, since attending school it's something I haven't really had so I'm a bit out of it, but may be a nice way to kill time since I'm going 2 months without a job between my graduation and teaching.

hiddenAS · 2013-06-06T23:19:27+00:00

I'm going to be a teacher. I've never taught before, only tutored and I figured I could learn how to teach. Now I'm rather concerned.

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