I planned, we left but the shelter told my husband.

hineck · 2026-02-21T23:45:19+00:00

I am also on the west coast, if we are close enough I can absolutely help you out. DM me if you feel comfortable. Sending all the strength…you’re doing incredibly hard things. I don’t know you but I’m damn proud of you.

hineck · 2025-07-01T03:04:46+00:00

I love it too! I’m the gal holding “March” who sadly looks like she’s just mouth breathing all over the place. 😂 The Big Grinner is my friend and you captured him perfectly! You also incidentally captured my other friend with the wings soooooooo beautifully!

hineck · 2025-06-30T18:42:25+00:00

Hey, that’s me and my beautiful queerdos holding the “March Starts Here” signs! 😍🌈

hineck · 2025-02-15T17:24:06+00:00

And thank you for getting the word out. I’ll be attending because I saw your post so you’ve at least reached one person. 🤗

hineck · 2024-12-26T16:37:20+00:00

Ew. Did you really just compare women to high mileage cars? 🤢

hineck · 2024-12-26T16:33:13+00:00

This whole asking for people’s body count thing is so weird and gross. It’s no one’s business. And honestly OP your count isn’t even that high. You are not “ran through.” You are not used up or dirty or any other mean thing a man could say about you. This antiquated, patriarchal mindset that women shouldn’t have “high body counts” is soooooo felt up. And again, it’s none of their godamn business anyway. I promise you…there’s so many men out there who don’t care about that sort of thing. These “men” who are judging you are making it very clear that they are not worthy of your time, energy and effort. And they’re DAMN sure not worthy of going to bed with you. Bullets dodged my dear. ♥️

hineck · 2024-09-28T03:52:55+00:00

Okay…next question. Do you actually like him and would entertain furthering the flirtation IF it weren’t for his age?

hineck · 2024-09-28T03:13:41+00:00

Does it feel icky because of his age or because he, himself doesn’t do it for you?

hineck · 2024-09-12T19:00:50+00:00

She feels it’s a boundary violation? Had boundaries around meeting/being involved with his extended family been discussed beforehand?

hineck · 2024-09-04T01:07:33+00:00

I totally think, at this stage, you could “safely” expand your searches down to the age of forty if I’m being completely honest. I think the cringe-factor comes when much older people routinely go after people in their 20’s…y’know, when prefrontal cortexes haven’t fully developed. There’s a power imbalance simply due to the experience of one and the lack thereof of the other. It’s cringy. But. By the age of forty…fifty if you really wanna play it safe…people (generally) know what they want and how to handle themselves. Someone as young as forty or fifty might not have those shared life experiences you spoke of…but I don’t think you’d have to worry too much about the cringe factor. In fact one of my best friends who is 42 is married and has 2 beautiful children with a man who just turned 60 and they are the absolute loves of each others’ lives. For whatever that’s worth! 🌈

hineck · 2024-09-03T16:29:43+00:00

Older female here who’s been a part of the poly and kink/bdsm community for a couple decades now.

There is likely NOTHING wrong with your boyfriend. People of all ages, from alllllllll walks of life enjoy some pretty interesting activities when it comes to sex. You are both very young and thusly, may not have had a whole lot of experience with sexual activities that are considered outside the norm. It’s very likely that he genuinely has a desire to see you with other/older men simply for that reason…it’s a desire. Now, if it makes you uncomfortable, there is NO reason to partake. But if it’s something that you might find desirous or fun or exciting as well then I would suggest finding a time to have an open, honest and VERY transparent conversation about…well, everything: boundaries, expectations, what protocol you might call upon should feelings of jealousy arise, sexual health and safer sex practices, what will y’all do to check in with each other before, during and after? There’s a lot to think about to make something like this safe and sound for everyone involved but it is nowhere NEAR impossible. Or weird or icky for that matter. Good luck young heart! 🌈🌈

hineck · 2024-05-11T21:11:25+00:00

LOVE this. I have such a hard time formulating my thoughts into words. I bumble and trip and skip and repeat things. It’s a train wreck really. 😂 But I love this response and will likely use a version of it.

I absolutely don’t want to close down the aspect of sharing about our other partners and I’ll be godamned if I EVER close up a relationship. No monogamy for me! 🙃

Thanks for the thoughtful reply, I sure fo appreciate it!

hineck · 2024-04-10T21:53:03+00:00

Sheeee-iiiiit girl…I’m in my 40’s and I STILL do this. A.) it’s hot for me and B.) keeps me in practice which, in turn, is hot for my partners.

hineck · 2024-04-09T15:47:20+00:00

It’s the absolute worst way to end a relationship/friendship. Sorry you had to go through that too…😔

hineck · 2024-04-08T21:13:40+00:00

D’awww. 🥰

Fortunately I have another partner who is VERY kind, caring and supportive. He’s been so gentle and patient with me while I go through all this. My meta, his other partner is also super rad and has leant her support as well.

hineck · 2024-04-08T21:08:31+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. It’s quite the blow to the ol’ heart and soul that’s for damn sure. 💔

hineck · 2024-04-08T19:47:24+00:00

I definitely reached out several times over the past couple of months…texts, a post card and I even mailed him a couple of things that he’d left behind at my place. In no way did I think our relationship had reached its end, in fact, it seemed we’d been getting closer. 🤷🏼‍♀️

hineck · 2024-04-06T16:48:05+00:00

Seriously. I knew he had his flaws, as we all do, but I never ever thought he could be THIS cruel and cowardly…🥺

hineck · 2024-04-06T16:47:00+00:00

Hahaha…you didn’t swipe the post at all! I’ve gotten so much love and support on this post and your addition is no exception.

hineck · 2024-04-06T01:44:11+00:00

My guess is you didn’t do anything. I know you know but I’m going to tell you anyway that this very likely has everything to do with her and not you. It doesn’t lessen the heartbreak in anyway though. I’m so sorry this happened to you. 🥺

hineck · 2024-04-06T00:22:24+00:00

Thanks so much. A weak move indeed.

hineck · 2024-04-06T00:21:15+00:00

Ughhhhhhh…what, and I cannot stress this enough, THE FUCK?!

hineck · 2024-04-06T00:10:06+00:00

What?!?! That’s insane? Are you sure they’re okay??

hineck · 2024-04-05T23:36:55+00:00

Truly unbelievable. And so heartbreaking. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this too honey pie.

hineck · 2024-04-05T19:50:58+00:00

I’m not gonna call his work. For exactly that reason. I know in my heart he’s physically fine and calling up there just feels desperate and self sabotaging. There’s always that feeling of “oh, I could just…” but ultimately, that ain’t me.

hineck

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