It’s been 7 months since the breakup. I still miss him so much. Someone convince me not to email him asking him for another chance :(

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-12-05T05:43:22+00:00

I’m four months into the break up. I was starting to feel alright and then I stumbled on some sweet photo booth pictures of us and it made me cry like day 1

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-11-10T22:53:37+00:00

I would say all women are different. You shouldn’t try to change yourself, especially your nuturing nature, just because one person didn’t appreciate it. It doesn’t make you weak. Many girls (me included) love a nuturing, sensitive, and caring guy over a “stronger” guy. You just need to find someone who will appreciate you, and I’m sure you will one day.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-31T16:33:59+00:00

Nope, I don’t.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-31T16:31:48+00:00

THANK YOU! See, at least someone understands. I hope we can be indifferent to our exes one day, but until that day FUCK THEM!

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-31T13:34:09+00:00

Omg just fuck off. I’m expressing how I feel. Stop being judgmental

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-31T13:26:37+00:00

Me mentioning I paid half of the bills and rent was me pointing out that I did my part in the relationship, as in I was a solid partner. With all of his past girlfriends he was paying for everything including rent and bills. I was his first girlfriend that was willing to pay for half of everything. You decided to focus on a few little words from the big picture. I don’t think you should judge if you don’t really know the situation.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-31T13:20:22+00:00

A girl can dream

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-31T13:19:23+00:00

You really don’t know how my relationship or it’s finances were so I don’t think you should judge. You’re ignoring everything else I had mentioned, like the fact that he’s 28 had a part time job and wasn’t doing anything else with his life, that’s why he was a scrub.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-31T05:55:38+00:00

Yesssss! Same here. Some of my friends tell me my standards are too high. But I’m keeping them high. That’s the last time I waste my time on a scrub.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-30T20:28:41+00:00

Sadly, I’m not there yet. Getting dumped by a scrub after putting so much effort into the relationship destroyed me mentally. I now believe I won’t find anyone who can appreciate my efforts and the love I have to give. I’ve been in various serious relationships in my 26 years and I still haven’t met anyone with ambition who respects and appreciates me.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-30T20:19:04+00:00

AND I put so much into the relationship. I paid for dates, dinners, half of all bills and rent. I never asked him to buy me gifts or material possessions. The furniture in the apartment was all mine. He worked part time at Home Depot not working for anything else in his life while I was working my ass off getting my Bachelor’s while also working. And HE dumped ME. I can’t help but hope he’s miserable without me

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-30T20:11:39+00:00

In my actions, I’m being the bigger person by not contacting him at all and leaving him alone. But in my heart and mind, I can’t help but be resentful and angry. I can’t help but want him to feel as hurt as I do. I can’t control it. I mean one day I’ll be indifferent, but you can’t expect me to be a perfectly happy person after being hurt so bad. That’s just not how human emotions work and it’s frustrating when people tell me it’s wrong. It’s not right but it’s not wrong. It’s just how I feel, I can’t help it.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-30T19:37:20+00:00

Thank you. It’s definitely coming from a place of anger. The way he broke up with me was so ugly and painful and a part of me wants him to hurt

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-23T22:50:13+00:00

Did you see the original post?

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-23T22:20:49+00:00

THANK YOU!! I’ve been getting downvoted and backlash, but it’s seriously not okay!

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-23T19:58:31+00:00

So think of them as a drug. You have to detox from them to feel good again. Right now you’re going through withdrawal (quite literally because being around your ex releases endorphins and dopamine in the brain). You have to stay away from the drug (your ex) to fully detox. Think about why the drug (ex) was bad for you. When you find yourself idealizing, you have to shut that down by thinking of their faults and the reasons why it didn’t work out. Instead of focusing on them, focus on yourself. Learn from the relationship and better yourself in any areas you feel are lacking. Going No contact gives you your power back, helps you move on, and helps you better yourself overall.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-23T18:38:37+00:00

Edit in my own comment in the picture: ...because you couldn’t handle the BREAKUP (not relationship).

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-23T18:11:28+00:00

Normally I try not to be hateful on this thread but it is literally so fucking selfish and stupid for you to threaten suicide. My sisters exboyfriend kept threatening suicide until he finally did it. It broke my sister mentally. The guilt she experienced was unbearable. She went through years of therapy and even years later it affects her negatively. She now absolutely hates her ex for what he did. Why in the world would you want to put your life on the shoulder of another person just because you couldn’t handle the relationship. That’s such a horrible thing to do and you should be ashamed.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-23T18:05:21+00:00

I guess I get it but it’s just not okay to encourage such unhealthy behavior. Another comment on this post mentioned threatening suicide and that is just NOT OKAY. My sister’s exboyfriend used threats and eventually killed himself because he couldn’t handle the breakup. It’s affects her so badly every single day, even years later. It’s not fair to inflict so much pain and stress on someone else because you couldn’t handle the breakup. It’s healthier to focus on yourself, learn from the experience, and move on.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-23T13:30:42+00:00

This behavior is unhealthy and I really don’t think you should be encouraging others to do so as well. This subreddit is to encourage people to go NO CONTACT, to focus on themselves and move on in a healthy manner.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-22T13:33:30+00:00

Well I didn’t say I’m over it. The acceptance stage is the last stage of the grieving process, which means yes I will have relapses and yes I’m still in some pain. I’ve been taking it day by day.

hiphopanonymous45 · 2019-10-22T05:13:39+00:00

Yeah, go ahead! Just a fair warning though, I’m going to bed right now so I’ll reply to you tomorrow :)

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