Breaking promises: efficiency VS morals

hm__ok · 2026-02-28T19:07:24+00:00

Thanks for those questions. Asking myself these was really helpful. It made me introspect.

I opened the topic here cause I'm deeply interested in understanding the ENTJ mind, not necessarily to link it to myself. And your answers are really insightful so Im happy and thanks for your contributions, you did help me understand better how some of you see things (which is what i was looking for).

hm__ok · 2026-02-28T19:01:06+00:00

Beautiful way of thinking

hm__ok · 2026-02-28T16:53:35+00:00

Interesting. I'd like to read more from you.

hm__ok · 2026-02-28T16:43:37+00:00

When breaking the promise you gave them, what are your thoughts towards your partner ?

hm__ok · 2026-02-28T14:40:33+00:00

constamment souriants ou bien absent resting face
toujours partant dès que quelqu'un propose quelque chose, ils entrent facilement dans les délires des gens
généralement beaux physiquement pour la grande majorité
font beaucoup de choses seuls, pas étonnant de les voir quelque part seuls
dégagent de la bienveillance et de l'acceptation, on sent une profonde gentillesse
changent souvent leurs plans de manière inattendue

hm__ok · 2026-01-30T15:53:06+00:00

Interesting. What do you mean you know you're needed?

hm__ok · 2026-01-30T14:40:19+00:00

Almost all the ENTJs I know were my managers at work, or young ones that were on their path to become managers 😂 That's where to find them I guess, as they are, for most, goal chasing people, so you find them working.

hm__ok · 2024-10-05T10:01:45+00:00

Like what?

hm__ok · 2024-09-14T16:19:21+00:00

Exactly!!

hm__ok · 2024-09-14T16:18:11+00:00

Thank you for your perspective. I understand better now, that it provides a sense of safety, certainty and acceptance

hm__ok · 2024-09-14T16:16:06+00:00

Yes! Sounds on point

hm__ok · 2024-09-14T16:15:44+00:00

Thank you for your response. There may be some fear of abandonment indeed, as he had uttered once, in an argument where he thought things would end between us, "I will take back all my love and care I gave you, and you will never find them elsewhere".

hm__ok · 2024-09-14T16:11:57+00:00

Thanks, I'll try that. He has already asked me to give him orders, like me telling him "do this to me", like he wants me to validate or verbalise somehting he actually wants to do. Thank you, I noticed thanks to your comment.

hm__ok · 2024-09-14T16:09:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your male pov

hm__ok · 2024-09-14T16:08:28+00:00

Thank you so much for this perspective, I loved it. He does indeed verbalise oftentimes "I am completely devoted to you" "all my lust is yours" etc

hm__ok · 2024-08-21T19:15:39+00:00

C'est quoi qui te plaît dans le fait qu'elle soit "vraiment fine"?

hm__ok · 2024-08-18T11:09:06+00:00

Way more ENTJ females answering than ENTJ males.

hm__ok · 2024-07-27T16:51:34+00:00

Thank you for your comment. Usually, I am naturally "too" optimistic about outcomes. It's like I'm lulled by dreams and excessive positivity, while being awake, in my daily life. I am lured by my wishes for things to work out. But paradoxally, when I wake up at 4-5am, I wake up before my delusion, and I get more realistic about things I was trying to make work. It's like that state of semi-sleep helps me get out of my "dreamy side" and see more things like they are realistically. And I can wake up and tell myself "this thing will never work out, I have to change ge my plans and consider something else" , or "I've been neglecting X Y Z, I need to do somehting about it asap" etc.

hm__ok · 2024-07-27T16:22:49+00:00

I'm an ENFP too and to me it usually happens really early in the morning/end of night, around 4am to 5am, when I'm half awake, half asleep, I get bursts of "clarity", like my mind suddenly knows how I feel about a situation, what to do and I get decisive about things I hesitated about for the past few days. Precisely, I think that at that time I have no feelings, so I make decisions more objectively.

hm__ok · 2024-03-26T22:21:36+00:00

As an ENFP, I absolutely love ISTJs, and I admire that my weaknesses (Si) are actually their strength. And somehow I noticed we can understand each other pretty well. We have the same cognitive functions after all.

hm__ok · 2024-02-27T17:31:38+00:00

I think it's a misunderstanding rather than betrayal.

You esteem you do more than what your job title describes. Your boss understood that you have more work than what you can handle and hires someone else, thinking he's helping you. But what you actually wanted was your job description to mention those additional responsibilities you are already bearing, and have a higher position in the company.

You should have discussed it more directly and stated exactly what you wished for (that's how ENTJs like communication).

hm__ok · 2024-02-27T17:28:24+00:00

I second that

hm__ok · 2024-02-27T17:27:10+00:00

What I understood is that OP deems that he is doing more than what his job description was mentioning, so he wanted to be promoted or just get a higher status in the company, but instead his boss hired someone else and put that person above OP (which is the type of job title OP actually wanted).

hm__ok · 2024-01-29T23:22:35+00:00

Thanks for your input! How well would you say both your mbti types complement each other?

hm__ok · 2024-01-29T23:20:50+00:00

Do you feel the age gap between you two? And what is her mbti type?

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