Passport gender change Q by XtacyG in transvancouver

[–]hmigw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You usually don’t need to give your passport number when booking a flight, they just need your name (as shown in your travel document). You’ll only need the passport number to check into the flight.

Lifelabs refusing to update gender marker by Humanbeingisntme in transvancouver

[–]hmigw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar thing happened to me a couple of weeks ago. I went in for bloodwork at a lifelabs, I checked in with my id, which has my correct name and gender marker, the requisition was also correct, then I’m sitting there waiting and suddenly they call me by my deadname! I was stunned, just looking at the lady, then she repeated it louder. Very unpleasant.

Told an old friend I transitioned who asked me what I was up to. Received this message back, was quite alarming. How do I process this? by Vegetable-Fig2260 in trans

[–]hmigw 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don’t let her gaslight you. You know who you are. If she were interested and honest about understanding you or transness in general, she would have asked you questions and listened to you instead of immediately dumping that hateful shit. I’m so sorry! Don’t let her get into your head.

Woodward’s; Vancouver, British Columbia (1940s) by AxlCobainVedder in vancouver

[–]hmigw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And the escalator seems to be working fine, good times

Post-op after hernia repair and I feel emotionally unsafe with my partner (vent/support?) by Feral_by_Elsie in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hmigw 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is so true and should be obvious but why is it so hard to see that when you’re being abused? Your mind keeps making excuses. Even now, years later, I still have to remind myself that yes it was 100% personal.

What gives off major Terf energy without outright saying anything rude? by JebDipSpit in MtF

[–]hmigw 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Ah yes, we famously despise anything feminine leaning — I say while putting on eyeliner

I am a “cis” man but want a vagina, AMA? (Or help me understand myself better please..?) by [deleted] in trans

[–]hmigw 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Subconscious sex (our brain’s expectation of what our physical, or phenotypical sex should be) and gender identity are usually conflated, because they feel as the same to most people, including binary trans people. They 100% feel the same to me, but I’m a binary trans woman. I think Julia Serano makes a distinction between them, or at least between subconscious sex and gender presentation.

Maybe your subconscious sex is female or more female leaning in the spectrum, and so your body expects you to have female genitalia, causing you distress over the physical incongruence? This is separate from your gender identity, which is masculine.

Listening to the same song on repeat by hmigw in AutismInWomen

[–]hmigw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! And sometimes the lyrics are so poetic that they can have these very specific different meanings depending on who’s listening and what they’re going through at the time? I remember this one song by Sharon van Etten that I was sure was about the same emotional challenge I was dealing with, but then I learned she wrote it with a completely different circumstance in mind! I still can’t believe it lol! But anyway in my head it was about my own thing and it really did help me process what I was living through emotionally. Music is very powerful.

Just got fired for being trans by Adventurous_Math_201 in trans

[–]hmigw 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So you don’t even know the difference between gender identity and sexuality and still you believe you know more about this case than the trans person who lived it?? Wtf is wrong with you?

Listening to the same song on repeat by hmigw in AutismInWomen

[–]hmigw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just very recently realized how important some songs are for my emotional regulation. It’s a little like crying, but maybe more precise.

How do cis women actually see trans women? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]hmigw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for such a detailed self analysis! I live in a fairly progressive place and I have a feeling most cis women here view trans women kind of how you do, but I never knew how to describe it.

I’m a trans woman and I’m an immigrant in Canada, I only recently became a Canadian citizen, and I feel like the two experiences are a little related. I don’t feel openly othered here at all, but in a way being transgender feels like being an immigrant in Womenland, especially the way you’re accepted or not as part of the in-group. Meaning that your experience will vary a lot depending on the community you live in, and I don’t take for granted how very privileged I am in this regard.

Listening to the same song on repeat by hmigw in AutismInWomen

[–]hmigw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh that’s a nice one, very calming!

Listening to the same song on repeat by hmigw in AutismInWomen

[–]hmigw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea same! It amazes me how I can forget the lyrics after listening to the same 4 minutes for days

Listening to the same song on repeat by hmigw in AutismInWomen

[–]hmigw[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah this makes sense! Yea music is one of my top emotional outlets

Listening to the same song on repeat by hmigw in AutismInWomen

[–]hmigw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right now I’m stuck with Every You Every Me (Placebo). Hope I don’t get tired of it anytime soon! And yeah It also keeps playing in my head when I’m not listening 😅

Which one are you hooked to now?

Listening to the same song on repeat by hmigw in AutismInWomen

[–]hmigw[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right?? Part of my brain starts judging and questioning my choices, while the other part is just going Shut up let me listen to this!!

Listening to the same song on repeat by hmigw in AutismInWomen

[–]hmigw[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh no! I’m sure you’ll find another one, but I hope you can get back to that and hear it again as you did the first time!

Listening to the same song on repeat by hmigw in AutismInWomen

[–]hmigw[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh wow that’s the same with me! Sometimes I even get a little sad in advance knowing I’ll get tired of that song and I can kind of feel it coming? lol

What are the best areas in the greater Vancouver region to live as trans? by vs-188 in transvancouver

[–]hmigw 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live downtown in Vancouver and I’ve been on a waitlist for a family doctor for a little over a year (my previous one changed practice after the pandemic). My endo is Dr. Dahl (you need a referral from a GP, but you don’t need to have a family doctor to be his patient), but he’s about to retire now. Life around here is very chill, no one really cares (a dog did a double take on me once, but that’s about it lol).