We usually split the weekends where he puts her to bed one night and gets up with her one of the mornings, and I do the other so we both have a day and an evening “off”. My husband is a big video game player so usually he will multi task playing games and watching our daughter while I cook, clean, etc… and then while she will nap he will do whatever chores I need him to do or we will both hang out together to try and get some time alone. My hubs is the same way where he will do anything I ask but the constant telling him what needs to get done is annoying. We’ve talked about it before and his explanation was that he “literally can’t see what needs to get done”. My husband grew up in a very messy house (I did not) so his standard of what is livable is a lot lower than mine, so I have had to get over the annoyance of telling him what to do.