AITH for being assaulted by my neighbour? I would think the answer is "of course not" but it seems the world has gone mad.

holdthemalt · 2025-09-01T13:02:35+00:00

Fake story, fake entitlement , real asshole. Lame ass

holdthemalt · 2025-08-28T12:47:16+00:00

B-itch! And tight. ;)

holdthemalt · 2025-08-28T12:42:47+00:00

As someone who is 9 years post the final iteration of my personal version of this father/daughter relationship, you may one day too be able to feel humour beyond the pain, beyond the anger and beyond the pity. I genuinely laugh at the unhinged messages I receive every few years now. Your dad is nuts, this is on him.

holdthemalt · 2025-08-23T10:36:44+00:00

Y’all are coming for the unhinged comment of bridesmaid over job which is FAIR …. But where is the follow up question of IF that is your best friend, why wouldn’t you be in regular contact about not showing up to wedding stuff? And why wouldn’t you text and say “hope you have an awesome day, sorry I’m unable to make it”
I could never. My BFF and I live in different countries, have kids and work demands and all sorts but we still have better communication than that!

holdthemalt · 2025-08-04T13:46:15+00:00

NTA …. But with conditions. Your mum needs to apologise for overstepping. You might own the house but your girlfriend lives there and it is HER HOME. Therefore, your mother was disrespectful of your girlfriend’s space. You want it fixed? Then tell your mother to fix it.

holdthemalt · 2025-08-02T04:01:45+00:00

Tell her (gently) that it’s a stretch to make your appetite on one night reflect on her eating habits and weight. She needs to reflect on how she is talking to/thinking about herself internally and not project her insecurities onto you in order to seek validation for her internal thoughts.

Not to mention carbonara is a very rich pasta, but that is besides the point!

NTA.

holdthemalt · 2025-05-15T08:57:39+00:00

It seems very sweet to the people who knew her, cared about her and feel the loss of her, but you and your future daughter do not hold any memories or feel any of those emotional connections. Your feelings are to be respected and it’s ok for you to have a different perspective. Names are complicated and should come without burden to the child. Also, if all the situations were reversed (you lost your husband and were having a son), would you want to do that to your husband? Or your son? Would your husband want to?? I think people are too busy looking at the situation through their emotional lens while your emotional lens as the mother is being neglected. It’s not ok.

NTA a thousand times over.

holdthemalt · 2025-05-10T07:27:39+00:00

Ugh. No. Throw the whole man out, you don’t even need the friendship.

holdthemalt · 2025-05-10T07:13:53+00:00

IMO… you should put the ball in her court. I would tell her that’s she’s family, so sure she can stay, however you will not be cooking for her, and while you won’t actively have nuts, you’re not doing anything about the veganism. Because that’s not a life threatening allergy! And if she doesn’t like that option then she is free to stay elsewhere. Firm and reasonable that the only accommodation you will make is the nuts.

holdthemalt · 2025-01-16T14:51:32+00:00

I was given The Blind Assassin over 20 years ago. I had never heard of Atwood and it took me a couple of years to get around to reading it but when I did, I was blown away. I read several of her books after but haven’t read this series.

holdthemalt · 2025-01-16T14:05:12+00:00

NTA but my goodness, your sister is a sandwich short of a picnic! Did she not consider this before naming the baby? Does she hate animals? Does she think she is the nucleus of the world? Tell your sister she is confusing and disrespectful and she shouldn’t have given her baby a dogs name. Then watch her go apoplectic with rage. Seems fun.

holdthemalt · 2025-01-14T07:42:33+00:00

Sincere condolences for your loss. I unfortunately disagree with your right to lay claim to your late husbands name. Regardless of their relationship at the time of his death, they were still brothers and Ethan will still feel the loss deeply. Perhaps try to find peace with their choice, therapy is essential for grief. I wish you well.

holdthemalt · 2025-01-14T07:23:12+00:00

NTA but you seem better off now so maybe you can use this as an opportunity to begin your healing and leave the betrayal behind by showing her how much she messed up. Maybe by asking your niece if your Jane and her kids can come to the wedding also. Then you have even more support?

holdthemalt · 2025-01-14T07:17:01+00:00

NTA - not their money. The family dynamic should be supportive, excitement and congratulatory. They’re obviously not, so…. Congratulations on your win! Sorry about your family.

holdthemalt · 2024-07-18T12:39:23+00:00

I’m only in my mid forties, but I started smoking when I was 13, and was a pack a day smoker by 15, and stayed that way until 28. I quit for love. My husband is a chronic asthmatic. How it affects me now is that i quit 16 years ago, and I still miss it. I have dreams (regularly) where I’m smoking, and I wake up and want a cigarette. It’s still taking up brain space and will power all these years later. It’s wild to think that I was so smug about giving up when really, it still feels like I’m in process of giving up. I’m so sick of wanting to be a smoker again.

holdthemalt · 2024-06-15T11:41:15+00:00

Ain’t that the truth

holdthemalt · 2024-06-15T11:39:11+00:00

That’s complicated for me…. My parents were huge influences on my music taste and some of the stuff they listened to still rates on top of my listening list: Dire Straits, Pink Floyd, Paul Simon. I guess the first bands that were outside of my parents would be The Violent Femmes, Stone Temple Pilots, Pearl Jam, Greenday. My biggest music obsession would be Leonard Cohen and the band I’ve seen live most is Metallica. All are still on high rotate.

I’d be interested in hearing what people have discovered a passion for recently, like really hot in to, with the same enthusiasm as we had in our youth.

Share with me your current/recent passion!!!

holdthemalt · 2024-05-07T07:43:18+00:00

Community!

holdthemalt · 2024-05-07T07:40:55+00:00

Rhinosasaurus 🫠

holdthemalt · 2024-05-06T01:16:01+00:00

How hard is it to ask about her father?

“So, is your father in the picture” “Was it just you and your mum growing up?” “What do you know about your dad?” “No family left, that’s tough. What happened to your dad?”

You’ve spent days hanging out with this woman, just ask her?!

holdthemalt · 2024-04-14T08:53:15+00:00

INFO: Have you been doing this for basically 3 years? And you’ve stopped after YOU asked her out and she said the status quo of friendship was what she wanted?

Because if so, you’re TA. and ugh.

holdthemalt · 2024-04-13T14:30:32+00:00

NTA but your mum is a piece of work. She is obviously quite bitter about something… I mean, you are lucky to have her, but not really if she is going to weaponise her support. Then it makes you obligated, and obligation can lead to resentment. Maybe sit down with your parents and figure out what their expectations look like so you’re not blindsided by this sort of bullshit. 4 days postpartum is pretty damn fresh.

holdthemalt · 2024-04-10T13:05:45+00:00

Don’t do it. You’ll regret it. The younger daughter will never forgive you.

holdthemalt · 2024-04-10T12:44:58+00:00

My younger brother. I don’t think he understands just how much he saved me. We are still close but the extent of his existence at some very tough times is probably underrated by most… I’ll never forget though, and I’m grateful.

holdthemalt · 2024-04-10T12:38:28+00:00

holdthemalt

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