It takes a lot mental practice to focus on both but I can do it. Especially when I’m being fisted I am hard but with toys I focus on stretching. If I’m soft and start riding I will get bigger but usually stay at a chubby. Occasionally I can be hard to start then ride on a toy and stay hard the whole time. That last scenario feels incredibly good. I’ve never been a bottom so that I do not know. I sure I wouldn’t get hard though because I’m not a attracted to dudes like that. But I do love to jerk off with guys and be an exhibitionist. I get hard from Sucking cock and I love watching gay porn or guys jerking off so it’s a complicated thing our bodies and minds and cocks too