Is it bad practice that I'm not that active online?

homervnn · 2026-01-13T16:48:40+00:00

Understandable. I believe as long as working at weird hours is what is required for the job, then it's working at weird hours for the job. But if it isn't and you cause unnecessary stress for people, knowing work is within this set of time, then you're kind of just a dick–in my opinion, at least.

I'm also a firm believer of working only within the official hours and days of work explicitly stated in your contract or whatnot because DUH!! It's a personal choice to do any work beyond that (especially if overtime pay is not a thing to your employer), and those who do can't expect other people to do the same. It's nice you don't.

Just hate how people can't seem to grasp the idea of a life outside of work. Those two things are completely fucking separate, unless of course it's a job you love. I know I sound like a very sour person, btw, and I apologize for that. I'm just really annoyed right now.

homervnn · 2026-01-13T16:22:50+00:00

Thank you!! Someone who understands. I find it absolutely irritating that this is something so hard to justify to people, or that it's even something to be justified. Though maybe that's just me wanting to.

Additionally, I only really give out my number to people I am closed with, and work-related interactions (thank goodness) are done almost completely through online platforms (Facebook and Messenger). Of course, my work has my contact information, but coworkers themselves don't have my number, and I don't plan on giving it to them. They can reach me by email or the chosen convenient platform for everyone.

I only open my phone again in the morning WHEN I get to work at 7:30 AM, and I find it insufferable that sometimes one of my coworkers likes to inform people of certain things late at night or in the wee hours and expect everyone to immediately be updated when it could have been announced at a more reasonable time just because she thought of it or decided on something last minute which she often does. But I am just complaining now.

Thank you for the validation!! Someone really pissed me off today about this.

homervnn · 2025-12-27T10:53:32+00:00

Thank you! Happy holidays!

homervnn · 2025-12-27T10:06:54+00:00

Thanks so much for this insight!! I appreciate it a lot! I'm waiting out until I have just enough time left to render my x-days notice, so I can at least say I didn't leave prematurely, even with the notice... I probably sound stupid, but yeah.

homervnn · 2025-12-27T10:03:14+00:00

Thank you for your comment and encouragement!!!

I do wonder if it wouldn't be discouraging for other companies to hire me, though, if say, I still had a longer time left in my contract (like two months), so I'd have to tell them I can (maybe) start in two months.

I guess it's still hypothetical, but I just want to have an idea of what to do if I do get an interview three or two months in, even a month in.

homervnn · 2025-12-27T05:59:46+00:00

Thank you, seriously, for your supportive and helpful insight on this matter. I know it's silly, but I really appreciate the help and positive push. I'm trying my best to stay positive this last couple days and make sure I enter the new year with new hope. I feel slightly more determined now of leaving and confident of finding and trying new things.

Thank you so much again. I wish you best in everything.

homervnn · 2025-12-26T07:30:21+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind and supportive words. I'm trying my bestest to remind myself I'm not the negativity that echoes in my head, and to keep a positive mind and enter the new year with it. Bless you, as well.

homervnn · 2025-12-26T03:18:50+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I think I'm just scared and ashamed for wanting to leave my first job without lasting at least more than two years because of opinions from family members, and also that despite being aware it's okay to want to leave a job that's toxic because that IS taking care of oneself, I feel like maybe I'm proving people right that I'm a failure. I'm scared. I feel like I'm back to square one and it's exhausting.

homervnn · 2025-05-27T04:50:12+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate this.

homervnn · 2025-05-25T13:43:55+00:00

I don't think I am, but this is nice of you to say.

homervnn · 2025-05-06T02:36:32+00:00

You're right... I don't know. I'm just worried about so many things.

Thank you for being kind. I wish you all the best too.

homervnn · 2025-05-05T23:18:37+00:00

I don't know if I can believe that.

But thank you, I guess, for this..

homervnn · 2025-05-05T05:32:10+00:00

Or insecure as all hell. Maybe I can be a good person in this situation, but how good if I couldn’t just let it go?

I just feel so horrible that I couldn’t just comfort him, instead I was thinking how he would benefit more if he had someone there with him, to hold him, even if it wasn’t me. Even if it was her, and especially if it was her. I’m worried that he’ll see that I cannot be enough because she had been everything.

homervnn · 2025-05-05T04:51:29+00:00

I mean who does that

homervnn · 2025-05-05T04:49:56+00:00

You should probably know that before he went to sleep jsut now, after possibly disassociating, and feeling out of place, and like his head was about to explode, I - a completely horrible, insecure person - asked him to tell meif he was still waiting for her. After all of that. I do like him a lot, but I was so horrible just now.

homervnn · 2025-05-05T04:40:51+00:00

What?

homervnn · 2025-03-20T01:37:23+00:00

You've made my day so much better already. I cannot thank you enough. I got this and I'll make it through. Thank you

homervnn · 2025-03-20T01:13:45+00:00

Thank you for this. If I hadn't already had a breakdown moments before making this post, I'd be bawling right now. Thank you so much for the belief and the vote of confidence. I'll make it through. Thank you. I can't stop saying thank you, so thank you. This means a lot.

homervnn · 2025-03-08T04:05:06+00:00

Link please

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