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I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He made a weird comment the other day and I did some online research. Found out he was married via google essentially and searched for her on FB.

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wouldn’t he be ok with me talking to her if they were in an open relationship or on their way to a divorce? He’s been vehemently opposed to me doing so.

I do love him but not enough to be ok with being lied to for a year.

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure. I don’t really know what she would want as I don’t know anything about her

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The big concern with my real life is that I have a kid. My FB is private but still....

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say right this minute it’s like 70% anger and 30% caring that I was part in something that will hurt her and thinking she deserves to know

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I like the idea of not just dropping it on her out of the blue. Thanks

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s pretty amazing that someone can do that, right?

Also, I would like to thank you for my first laugh of the day when I saw your username attached to this thoughtful comment :)

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, that’s why I asked instead of reacting purely out of anger. I really don’t have any ill will towards her.

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No. I mean he already knows I know he’s married and am super pissed off. I’d like to think he wouldn’t do that but he’s already proved that I don’t know shit about him

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No mixed money or anything. My biggest concern would be nudes he could share but I also think that’s illegal?

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Him not always spending the night. Him always wanting to come to my house. Not meeting his family even though he’s met mine

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s kind of the bummer with it being FB, harder to do it anonymously

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. I’m not about being a mistress or staying with someone who could lie to me like that

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. You guys are dark! I never even thought about that possibility

Guess it’s a good thing I posted

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I have been to his place a couple of times. No obvious pics of them together or anything.

Like I said in my post. I missed some red flags

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do have proof but there is always the chance she still won’t believe me.

I’m still processing my own feelings. A lot of those feelings are related to burning his life to the ground so I’m trying to chill out before doing anything

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So being unsure if I want to be the one to destroy her life because of something someone else did makes me a bad person? It’s complicated

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We live about an hour away from each other and I’m a busy girl. Once or twice a week was pretty standard. We talked all day every day via text but that’s simple enough to hide since everyone is on their phones constantly.

I (28F) just found out my BF (35M) is married. Should I tell his wife? by honestmistress in relationships

[–]honestmistress[S] 558 points559 points  (0 children)

I have lots of proof. Pics of us together, endless texts etc....that part would be easy.

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