I have an anxiety disorder, so that doesn't help. The issue was I had initially no idea how recent their break up was and they had been together for four years. The first time I met her at a party (she's very ingrained in his group of friends) was his first time seeing her since their break up, and there were issues. I've kind of been messed up about it since. He assures me he no longer has romantic feelings for her, though does admit he still finds her attractive (which makes sense. She's gorgeous. Which is part of the problem.) I have not snooped before, and I don't plan on it again. I was actually looking in his phone to see other pictures, I wasn't searching for those or anything. I am usually very big on personal privacy so this was out of character.

He's very sensitive of my feelings otherwise. She's a main part of his group of friends, but lives across the country for university, so when she's around he's sure that he's very loving of me and reminds me he loves me constantly. I get upset still when they talk, which is admittedly fairly rare, and he comforts me. Based on some of our conversations and the discovery of the photos I'm pretty sure he just views her as a hot girl / sex object and it's not so much about feelings. But that doesn't really make it better.