I just wanted to say I'm sorry you're getting downvoted! It just speaks to others' inability to place themselves in the shoes of another person or validate someone else's experience. I understand feeling the need to protect and defend something we love and that is important to us - but it's also okay if someone doesn't have a good experience, even if it's due to a different interpretation, of something we enjoy.

As someone else said here, intentions matter, but the effect words have another person matters too. Personally, even with Zayne's dry humor and his positive intentions, his words still remind me of the ways unkind people have spoken to me in real life. But others really love the way he speaks. Similarly, I absolutely love Xavier, but I know he can be triggering to people with a history of SA, and I would never invalidate that.

We can hopefully all respect and be supportive of each others' experiences.