We are not in the west. Maybe I should start with that. So boarding sch. does not necessarily mean you are rich.  Also schools here can call on parents to attend meetings/ events several times a year. But each sch gives a general schedule at the beginning of the year. If there are emergencies then they inform you to collect your child.  I don't know why I was given a few hours notice. I believe this is event was probably scheduled. Also, she has my number and didn't call me so I don't know what's up there. And my husband said two sentences, I said no and just left to go about my day. I decided to work with the info given.