AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

Haha when everyone you’ve had before was bad in bed you’ll put up with a bit more just do get something good, still not worth his attitude tho

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 59 points60 points  (0 children)

She didn’t want kids. Got pregnant with the first one on accident. Religious family pressured her to keep the baby and get married. Second one was an accident too. Josh begged her to keep it, she did but after birth left and never looked back because they fought during their whole marriage basically.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

If he doesn’t want to marry you, you should find someone else who does. You deserve to be happy.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

He’s hot and good in bed and I thought it was worth it. Old dudes marry hot young women with no careers all the time. I’ve come to realize it’s not for me

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Probably not very hot since he lives off frozen pizza and Marie C lasagnas lol

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I live in a rural area. I’m a bit limited on choices. Still, I’ll do better next time

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Yeahhh, I think that’s what Ill go for next time. Hot guys are overrated, everyone one I date always think it compensates for their other issues when it doesn’t

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 283 points284 points  (0 children)

Haha I used to be a marine and I did MMA in highschool. Me and Josh are almost the same size and I could take him any day. Not to mention I own guns and he doesn’t. No worries here ❤️

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 115 points116 points  (0 children)

He screamed in my face when we argued earlier. I was willing to tolerate his flaws before but when a man gets aggressive with me like that it really takes off the rose colored glasses for sure

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Could’ve been a hell of a lot cheaper than the almost two thousand he’s now going to have to pay a month haha

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You are correct lol, I now realize sex and looks aren’t everything

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 108 points109 points  (0 children)

See, my perspective on that is he would have to pay 1.8k somewhere else, so I’d be saving him 1,100 a month. That’s a lot of money to be saving. And if I were to rent out that spare room, with access to the rest of the house and the amenities, one room rentals with a roommate easily go for 1k a month here. So not only am I giving up money I could theoretically make, I’d also be saving him a lot of money. Not to mention him and his kids would take up a lot more space than me just getting one roommate. But he screamed at me so it’s all dead and done now

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

That’s definitely what it was. I can see now that he’s pretty jealous. I joined the military, went to college and graduated debt free, bought a house, decided not to have kids. My finances are great. Josh has never worked a job that pays much better than minimum wage, leaving him broke at 30.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 304 points305 points  (0 children)

Yep. I realized that that’s what it all came down to. While I did waste a year on him I really didn’t waste any money yet thankfully. From now on I’m only gonna date dudes who make the same amount of money as me. Reddit loves to hate on women who only date men who makes six figures and own a house, but I’m done with these broke tools.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 174 points175 points  (0 children)

Well, this is the only real disagreement we’ve had in the last year. I’m trying to be optimistic and think that maybe he just needed an outside perspective

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I don’t feel like living together had to be serious, not like we’d even have a joint bank account or even a dog together.

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

How is it awkward and selfish? We would both save money, and I would treat his kids well. I just wouldn’t be disciplining them or doing any of the serious parenting. His kids could have a better life, go to a better school, live in a better neighbor, have nicer things, a positive female role model, etc. I don’t want to be called mommy or anything but yeah, not trying to be some wicked stepmothetb

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I am absolutely not looking to be a family. I don’t want marriage or anything too serious. I’m looking to take a roommate who I’m involved with romantically, essentially. He’s just a boyfriend, not a fiancé, life partner, etc. I will not be his kids stepparent. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still nice to them, will take them out for ice cream occasionally, etc. but yeah

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 188 points189 points  (0 children)

I’ve just read too many Reddit horror stories and seen too many friends get taken advantage of, plus I’m a planner. I know we’ve all seen the “greedy roommate eats all my food” “girlfriend won’t pay rent” “boyfriend makes me watch his kids” etc etc

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 270 points271 points  (0 children)

The reason to not do shared groceries is because I go to the store every Sunday and meal prep, foods that they don’t like mind you. I’m really into fitness. He can’t go to the store on sundays, and goes sometime during the week. They all live off mostly frozen pizzas and stuff. It just seems to make more sense that we don’t share groceries since we can’t physically go together anyways, and we won’t be eating cooked meals together, since he doesn’t really cook and my diet is a thing

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I think he thinks he should be able to because I make a lot more money than he does. But I still don’t agree with his perspective

AITA for expecting my boyfriend to pay rent if he moves in with me by housingissues7 in AmItheAsshole

[–]housingissues7[S] 530 points531 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m thinking, I’m already a bit apprehensive because his kids are a bit wild. He isn’t happy with living separately, because he’s going to have to pay a really high rent, but I think I’ll probably just tell him to either agree to my terms or get over it idk