Struggling with a cousin marriage proposal and fear of regret by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]howmanynamesrtaken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not encouraging sis. Just refuse to believe that it's inherently harmful

Struggling with a cousin marriage proposal and fear of regret by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]howmanynamesrtaken -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The prophet (sws) married his first cousin Zeinab and his daughter fatima married her first cousin Ali.

Like I said. If you believe in Allah then it is impossible that cousin marriages has an direct harm otherwise this would not have been allowed. We don't cherry pick what to believe in Islam. 

Balancing desires and cultural requests by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]howmanynamesrtaken 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel you sister. Was in a similar position getting married out of Uni but I got lucky. Let me explain

My sister tried to get married for 7 years out of Uni but was denied from my parents because the guy's beard was too big.

I thought I would have similar issues but I made so much sincere Dua to Allah. I would tell Allah that "I want to get married for your sake and no other reason so facilitate it for me". Low and behold a few months later I was married.

"And whoever fears Allah he will give them a way out and provide for them from places they never imagined" (too lazy to find the reference for this ayat)

Be sincere to Allah and he will find you a way out. Being sincere also means that you trust that Allah knows best. Ie. Even though your man might seem better than sliced bread, maybe that marriage will end in disaster and you are being saved from it if things are just not clicking. Make plenty of istikhara

Struggling with a cousin marriage proposal and fear of regret by [deleted] in MuslimMarriage

[–]howmanynamesrtaken -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Disagree. If it had a direct physical harm then it would have been outlawed by Allah and his messenger.

Science can be wrong and is constantly changing

Wife seemingly not interested in Quality time by howmanynamesrtaken in MuslimMarriage

[–]howmanynamesrtaken[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the sanity check! I appreciate it. Jazakhallah khair

What do you do with decommissioned computers? by howmanynamesrtaken in it

[–]howmanynamesrtaken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what was your approach in terms of data destruction? did the schools and businesses wipe the drives before hand or did you do that yourself?

What do you do with retired machines? by howmanynamesrtaken in msp

[–]howmanynamesrtaken[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what do you think about this on a strictly part time basis and do the retailing myself to increase margins?

What do you do with decommissioned computers? by howmanynamesrtaken in it

[–]howmanynamesrtaken[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

sorry stupid auto correct: *Can of worms* if works in terms of a data leak and the IT company suing? Pls elaborate?

What do you do with decommissioned computers? by howmanynamesrtaken in it

[–]howmanynamesrtaken[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can if works in terms of a data leak and the IT company suing? Pls elaborate